In my previous post ‘Facing Life Alone in Midlife’ I discussed the overwhelming feeling of loss and grief with the death of a spouse/partner, a relationship breakdown and divorce. I wrote about taking time to go through the process until you are ready to accept and move on with your life. If you missed the post you can click here.
Now that you are feeling stronger it is time to get back out into the world and live your life. Although being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you are lonely you do need to connect with others. That doesn’t mean you need to take up every waking moment doing things with other people or in fact doing anything.
Taking time to relax and restore your body and mind is just as important as catching up with friends and family.
Being alone can also teach you that you are capable of actually enjoying being with yourself. I read a book recently Me, Myself & I – 28 Days of Self Love where the author, Cheryl S Bridges suggested you go on a date with yourself. Take yourself to a movie or to dinner. In the past, I would not have entertained the thought of dining alone, however, now as I am older the experience is not as daunting as it once was.
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Find your passion
Is there something you have always dreamed of doing but haven’t because it didn’t fit into your life plan? Now is the time to explore your passion and work towards making your dream a reality.
Buy a beautiful notebook and pen and write a list of all that you would like to do. It doesn’t matter how big the dream is or how small the desire is, write it down. If you don’t dream big nothing will ever happen.
Make a date night with yourself
Do something just for you – take yourself to a movie, an exhibition, the museum, dinner. Anywhere that takes your fancy. Plan each week to have one night or day to spend with yourself.
Join a social group
Do you have a hobby? Dancing, art, pottery, running, yoga? There are many groups you can join for social interaction so explore your opportunities in your area.
I’ve made many friends through Facebook groups. Just take care and research the group but there are many groups you can join.
Did life experiences prevent you from completing your education or is there something you always wanted to study? I know that I have been trying (badly) to learn Italian. Studying not only adds to your knowledge but it also keeps our brain active.
The way we study has changed and can be via a classroom situation or online.
We should never stop learning and this is the perfect time. I’ve just found a great free online learning website https://www.futurelearn.com/ and I’ve signed up for two courses.
Is there somewhere you have always longed to visit? Go for it! There are tours that are designed especially for solo travellers if you don’t feel comfortable taking off on your own. You might want to be adventurous and travel solo. The choice is yours. Research where you would like to go, what you would like to see. Also consider asking a close friend to accompany you. Although you need to set some ground rules so that you both have the best experience.
Put yourself out there
Now, I’m not saying you need a partner to be whole. Many people live happily single lives. However, if you are looking for companionship in the future you won’t meet anyone sitting at home. Put yourself back into life and you never know what the future holds!Find your inner strength and make our life the way you want it to be. You are in control of YOU.Click To Tweet