A to Z Guide to Thriving in Life Health & Wellness

‘X’ is for Xtreme – Finding Balance to Thrive

April 27, 2018
Finding Balance

Finding Balance


Xtreme is that a word?  I admit I found it difficult to find an X word for the AtoZ Challenge.  When I did the 2016 AtoZ Challenge my ‘X’ word was ‘X’ Factor so I couldn’t use that.  It was all about finding your ‘X Factor’ so you might care to read it if you have lost your mojo at the moment.

Okay back to Xtreme my ‘X’ word and finding the right balance in your life.

During the AtoZ Guide to Thriving in Life, there has been a common thread.  This message is that in order to Thrive we need to place more importance on taking care of ourselves mentally, physically and spiritually.  I’ve talked about ‘the busyness of life’ where some of us wear being busy as a badge of honour.  I’ve discussed Quality over Quantity in all areas of our life and also the importance of taking time for ourselves through Self-Care and improving our ability to say ‘No’ when we need to without feeling guilty.

We live in a world of extreme, whether it be extreme sports, having the biggest and brightest of everything or working long hours at the expense of our well-being.  We live in a world of extreme behaviours where violence and disrespect is every increasing.

We are constantly told that we need to be the best, we need to change, we need to make more of our lives. We are looking for something that might be a mirage and pushing ourselves to unnecessary limits.  ‘Keeping up with the Jones’ is just not sustainable.

What if we feel we are our best?

What if we feel we are enough?

I know at the moment, my daughter is preparing for my grandson’s 4th birthday party.  We were having brunch for our mutual friend’s 50th last weekend, and my daughter mentioned during the conversation, about the pressure to deliver  a perfect party these days.

My daughter is an executive who works long hours and the time she spends with her son is definitely quality time.  Both his Mum and Dad are adamant that they don’t want my grandson to grow up with an ‘entitled’ attitude or believing that everything you have in life is handed to you on a plate.  He is growing up surrounded by love.

Her thoughts on the party are that it doesn’t matter what the other parents think or do as long as her son and his friends have fun and enjoy his birthday party. She isn’t going to try to turn herself inside out achieving an unreasonable standard trying to impress others.  She has found her ‘enough’.  I’m proud of her for taking a stand.

Finding the right balance in your life to thrive

Forget about the Xtremes in life, we need to the find the right balance for each of us as individuals.  One size doesn’t fit all so you need to look at your own life and discover what works for you and what doesn’t.

I love this quote from Lori Dechene which really says it all.



What can you do to bring some more balance to your life?


In my next post in the A to Z Guide to Thriving, I’m discussing ‘Y’ is for YOU – Celebrating YOU. I do hope you will join me.

If you have missed previous posts in the AtoZ Challenge 2018 just click here to find them all.

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  • Reply Tom Sightings April 27, 2018 at 06:06

    I agree … X should be for Balance.

  • Reply Debbie Harris April 27, 2018 at 11:36

    You are so right about living in a time of extreme behaviours and everything being bigger and supposedly better. Good on your daughter for taking a stand – given she’s due to have her second baby soon she’s doing well to even host a birthday party!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:08

      Yes she works long hours plus having the baby, planning Ethan’s birthday party and having renovations done to their house. It is crazy at the moment! I’m proud of her attitude though because it is hard not to compete or compare oneself with others.

  • Reply Retirement Reflections April 27, 2018 at 15:55

    Big Kudos to your daughter for surrounding her son with love, not Pinterest moments.
    Happy 4th Birthday to Ethan!

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 27, 2018 at 17:17

    Great post for X Sue. I’ve noticed it’s very competitive between young Mums to give their kids an Xyreme childhood. Everything including presents, experiences, holidays ect has to be Xtreme. . I’ve long thought they are setting themselves up for a big fall.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:30

      Yes, I’m glad Rachel has risen to the bait and tried to compete. It isn’t worth the stress, especially when she is due to have a baby in June and works full time. We aren’t superwoman because she doesn’t exist!

  • Reply Leanne April 27, 2018 at 18:28

    I’m learning that extremes are not the way to live – extremely happy is exhausting and impossible to maintain and extremely miserable or needy are offputting to others and just drag you and everyone else down. It’s nice to find the balance where everything feels centred and “right” – it’s maintaining the balance that takes some work. (I cheated on my X word too!)

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    X for Xcellence in your efforts

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:29

      X was hard wasn’t it, Leanne? I can see how much you have grown over the last 3 years and I think blogging has really helped. Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Sue April 27, 2018 at 19:35

    I love your comment that “some of us wear being busy as a badge of honour” Sue. I’ve been known to jokingly (but seriously) say to certain frantic colleagues “slow down, you’re making the rest of us look bad!!” These days I’m pretty okay with pacing myself. (And I think we all cheated on our X words today)!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:28

      Hi Sue! I’m sure your colleagues didn’t get your joke (serious or not) they were probably too busy being busy to even listen LOL:) Yes X was a problem. Last time I used X Factor but I’m glad to see a few others ‘cheated’ this time round. Have a great weekend x

  • Reply Ally Bean April 27, 2018 at 21:35

    Balance is one of my basic tenets in life. I used to be more [e]xtreme in all the things that I did, but if there’s a gift of aging gracefully it is learning that sometimes good enough is just right. And that not all things need to be perfect. I now strive for balance and have never been happier.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:24

      Sounds like you have it just right Ally. I love your term ‘gift of aging gracefully’. Have a beautiful and relaxing weekend. x

  • Reply Weekends in Maine April 27, 2018 at 22:46

    Balance is so important and I do struggle in this area. Having a day off to do nothing often leaves me with guilt although I’m getting better and relaxing and balancing out the extremes. Weekends In Maine

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:20

      Yes the old guilt trip! I think we all experience that and feel like we should be doing something to fill in our time. Have a relaxing weekend xx

  • Reply karen@profoundjourney.com April 27, 2018 at 23:18

    Those empty days I wrote about earlier in the series are my version of being enough. I’m really looking forward to enjoying one of those days soon, although the possibility is still, unfortunately, on the distant horizon.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:20

      I think we will all need an empty day after AtoZ Karen! Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Shirley Corder April 28, 2018 at 00:50

    You ask if xtreme is a word? It’s a very good word. It totally sums up my month of April. I’ve completed a book and have the proof in its final stages. I’ve almost completed the A to Z Challenge. I’ve been away for two mini-holidays to two different venues. I’ve forgotten to take my blood pressure medication not once but twice in two days – resulting in an overnight’s stay in hospital and an ongoing struggle to get it properly stabilized. All in one month. One xtremely crazy month. Oh yes. xtreme is a word. It’s my word! 3rd last letter of the alphabet in the 2018 A to Z Blogging Challenge. X is for Xerosis.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 28, 2018 at 09:19

      Oh my Shirley, I’m tired just reading your comment! You need to get some balance back into your life and look after yourself. We have nearly reached the end of AtoZ what will be do in May???? 🙂

  • Reply lindamaycurry April 28, 2018 at 14:00

    Reading this post made me think of my daughter who was working five days a week, battling Sydney traffic to get to and from pickups. Her husband was in an even more demanding job and interstate on a regular basis. Two young children at school demanded time and patience with activities and homework. To top it all her job was increasingly demanding with a policy of letting people go in order to save money thus increasing the work load for those left behind.

    One day she just quit. She had to work four more weeks but already her mood was lifting. She started eating properly, exercising and enjoying her children more. She may look for another job but is in no hurry. Her husband is happy because his home life is now less stressed. They decided they can manage financially, at least for a while.

    It’s all about balance.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 29, 2018 at 06:56

      Hi Linda! It is hard these days with both parents working, and having lived in Sydney for my first 30 years, traffic and life in general is so fast. I’m so pleased that your daughter was brave enough to make the decision to leave her job. I’m sure she is much happier as will her husband and children. It is all about balance but sometimes we have to have the courage to find it. Thanks so much for stopping by and hope you are enjoying your weekend.

  • Reply Miriam April 30, 2018 at 19:01

    I love your daughter’s attitude. Yes, it’s definitely about balance. There’s enough pressure in the world without adding to it.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 30, 2018 at 19:07

      We had a fabulous time at Ethan’s party and he was happy which is the main thing, isn’t it. I’m very proud of her attitude because it isn’t always easy not to follow what everyone else does.

  • Reply Victoria May 1, 2018 at 08:59

    I find it hard to find balance. I am an all or nothing person most of the time. Good for your daughter for not falling into the trap about kids birthdays I have never understood extravagance on parties for kids who just want to eat cake and have fun.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 2, 2018 at 06:36

      Yes I’m like you Victoria, all or nothing, but sometimes we really need to take some time out and realise we can’t do it all. My grandson had a great birthday party and so much fun with his kindy friends. They wouldn’t know if the party cost $1,000s or $10 and having fun is all you want for a kids birthday party. x

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