I just had a text from a friend who wanted us to join them for breakfast tomorrow or lunch today. I couldn’t make either dates and they said ‘we thought you two were meant to be retired’.
Well we are; but life is busy and I’m loving every minute of it!
The difference is, I’m making the choices as to what I want to be busy with. No longer am I filling my life with what I think is expected of me. I am now at a stage where I can choose how to spend my days and that can be very liberating!'You are in control of how busy you are!'Click To Tweet
I’ve written before about planning for retirement – not the day before you retire but many years before you actually want to.
So often we get caught up in working to achieve a standard of living that we want and we forget about the simple things that life has to offer. The hustle and bustle of working and raising a family can distort our view on what our life should be like.
Yes, we want to provide a comfortable life for ourselves and our family but at what cost?
Wisdom, unfortunately, only comes with age and experience. Although I’m sure I’m not really wise, I have come to realise what my priorities in life should be for me. Notice, I wrote ‘for me’.
Priorities for everyone are different so you need to decide what is right for you and make the choice
Ask yourself if you are truly happy. If you answered ‘YES!’ that is wonderful. If you answered ‘NO’ or hesitated, then perhaps you need to take some time to think about what will make you happy in this life.
Remember you only get one shot at life you need to make the right choices whenever you can.Click To Tweet
We get so caught up in trying to please others or competing with others in an effort to attain happiness, that we don’t realise that happiness and life are passing us by. I wrote an article in the early days of my blog entitled Why We Need to Be Selfish – Sometimes As women we were raised to be caring and loving and we saw our own mothers putting others first. However, I’ve changed my thinking and although I do want to be there to help, love and nurture, I also want to enjoy my life.
Reaching midlife has given me that opportunity. The children have ‘left the nest’ and some have children of their own. I am fortunate that I don’t have to work unless I want to. My life is actually given me freedom – BUT IT IS UP TO ME TO TAKE THIS NEW FOUND FREEDOM AND RUN WITH IT.
Up until recently I was still trying to please everyone else and running myself into the ground.
If you are too busy doing things that you don’t really want to do then perhaps it is time to reflect on your life and what you want to change about it.Time to slow down and live the life you want NOW!Click To Tweet
Try this exercise of making three lists:-
- Make a list of all the things you love and want to do in your life
- Make a list of what you need to do – because we all have responsibilities of some kind
- Make a list of what you are doing that you don’t like or don’t really need to do.
Look at your lists and see which is the longest – do you need to make some changes?
I love this John Lennon quote ; ‘Life is what happens to you when you are busy making plans’. Don’t get so busy planning that you forget to live is the message I get from this quote.Life is short - Start living!Click To Tweet
Take the time to step back and as the cliche goes 'stop and smell the roses'Click To Tweet
Let’s Keep Sizzling!