Friendship is an important part of life and plays a vital role in our health and well being, especially as we age.
Last week my guest, Grammy Dee wrote about ‘Thriving through Friendship’ for her contribution to my weekly Over 50 & Thriving Series. Grammy Dee is housebound due to illness most of the time so her friendships created through blogging has been very important to her as she explained:
Finding women my age to communicate with from my home with my phone or computer whether I am in bed, in my recliner, or able to sit up has been a godsend! Thank goodness for the internet!
Our friends provide support, love us for who we are and enjoy experiencing life with us. To me, my friendships are defined by the QUALITY rather than the QUANTITY. When we are young we feel the need to be surrounded by many friends, we are judged by the number of friends we have on Facebook or what our social plans are for the weekend.
As we mature, we realise that from this larger group of friends only a very small number will become lifelong friends. Our lives take different paths and we grow and change. New friends come into our lives and others leave.
I also believe it is important to have friends in different age groups. We can always learn from young and old alike.
Did you realise that our Friendships can have a long term affect on our Health? And it isn’t always good.
I recently read an article which talked about the different kinds of friends we can have in our circle. I am so fortunate to have different categories of friendships:
- My daughter and my cousin who are both confidants for me
- My Saturday Sisters who I run with each week and are such a wonderful support
- My blogging friends who are scattered worldwide.
- My readers who have connected with me
Why you need to rid your life of toxic Friendships
The reality is that some of our friendships are NOT SO GOOD FOR US and can be TOXIC. I have been fortunate to let go of these friendships in the past and that is why I am so conscious of the quality of my friendships. I’m not interested in friends who want to hold me back or don’t have my best interests at heart.
You know the friend who is controlling or pushes their opinions too strongly or the ‘fairweather’ friend who suddenly goes MIA when you need them the most OR the friend that is constantly trying to pull you down.
Toxic friendships can sometimes be difficult to leave but like all bad relationships there comes a time when you have to stand up and make decisions that are RIGHT FOR YOU!
YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT TOXIC PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL SURVIVE AND BE HAPPY!
Being surrounded by people who are negative or critical of you will affect your mindset. You lose self-confidence and you don’t feel good about yourself. You need to surround yourself with people who love and support you for WHO YOU ARE and are a positive influence in your life.
Okay enough of the negatives about friendship.
Friendship can be a wonderful, positive relationship which adds to the richness of our lives. Our friends can provide a circle of love and support, fun and laughter. These kinds of friendships are important for our health and well-being.
They say ‘you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends’ – so make the right choice for you. Unlike family, friends don’t have to be in your life they CHOOSE to be.
What type of friend are you? Have you had toxic friendships? How did you handle them?
Your friendships should be a two-way street – you get out of it what you put in