Over 50 & Thriving Series Over 50s Lifestyle

What’s the difference between surviving and thriving?

November 28, 2018
Thriving or Surviving

This week’s guest on the Over 50 & Thriving series looks at surviving and thriving and asks some pertinent questions.  I haven’t known Esme, from Esme Salon for all that long, but I love her approach to life,  her generosity in bringing together other like minded bloggers and her ‘Share and Inspire Other’s attitude.

I would encourage you to connect with Esme through the links at the end of her post.

What’s the difference between surviving and thriving?

Have you ever thought about: What’s the difference between surviving and thriving?

The difference between these approaches are somewhat straightforward! Do you agree?

Surviving is doing what is necessary to live. It has been said that it is like dragging yourself forward without a clear destination. Life gets a meaning when people starts living it, beyond survival.

Why is it that most of us die with a false impression of living but actuality we were just surviving? The purpose of life is to both live and survive.


As per the English dictionary:

1. continue to live or exist, especially in spite of danger or hardship.
“against all odds the child survived”
synonyms: remain alive, live, sustain oneself, pull through, get through, hold on/out, make it, keep body and soul together “he survived by escaping through a hole”
continue, remain, persist, endure, live on, persevere, abide, go on, carry on, be extant, exist
“the theater must survive”
• continue to live or exist in spite of (an accident or ordeal).
“he has survived several assassination attempts”
• remain alive after the death of (a particular person).
“he was survived by his wife and six children”
synonyms: outlive, outlast;
live longer than
“he was survived by his sons”

We all run into pain, calamities, we have all sorts of different bumps in the road, problems, stress or anxiety and sorrow but we just need to dig into ourselves and climb out of that stinky dark hole any way you can. It’s not always easy, but things do change. The tough times do make me resilient and hopefully wiser and more sympathetic too.
We all do heal (in time and differently) and develop/mature and very often, out of the hurt, comes something so much better, more pleasing and amazing.

Thriving is not being satisfied by just surviving, but to triumph and to make continual progress.

A thriving approach is defined by tirelessly challenging oneself and reaching higher and higher, and day by day making a steady and good improvement in what we do and set out to do.


1. (of a child, animal, or plant) grow or develop well or vigorously.
“the new baby thrived”
o prosper; flourish.
“education groups thrive on organization”
synonyms: flourish, prosper, burgeon, bloom, blossom, mushroom, do well, advance, succeed, boom
“the roses in the west garden are thriving”
flourishing, prosperous, prospering, growing, developing, burgeoning, blooming, healthy, successful, booming, mushrooming, profitable, expanding;
informal going strong, going from strength to strength
“real estate continues to be a thriving industry”

Are you flourishing in life or simply moving through an endless list of tasks, from day to day?

At home you run errands, have tons of responsibilities? Housework, kids, taking care of them and all the rest, just to name a few. We all need to learn how to break the cycle and start thriving.

One way to do this would be to surround yourself with other “thrivers”. You can do this at work as well as in your personal life.

When you surround yourself with colleagues and /or friends and family who have big ideas and are doing something to make that ideas happen, it will motivate you in such a way to keep you moving forward and towards what you want and meet and exceed your own goals.

To date, I have not found anything wrong with continuously wanting to improve certain aspects of my life (work or personal). Always keep in mind and be aware of what is most important to you. Also, be mindful not to step on or over others to achieve your own goals and in doing so hurting others.

My Motto in work and in general:

Share, Care & Inspire and by doing so, I thrive and feel that I am making a difference, small but still in my own way, this helps me to Thrive

Meet Esme

The difference between Surviving and Thriving

Blogging is my way of relaxing after a long and hard week in the office, and if you wish to call it my ‘retail therapy’, so please join me on this day to day journey, which I just ♥

I reside in Vancouver, British Columbia for the past 20+ year, although originally from Cape Town, South Africa.  I am a 60+ something mother, grandmother, and wife.  I still work full time and then a Blog-aholic to top it off.

Connect with Esme

Website: https://esmesalon.com/about-esmesalon/

FB Recipe Group: The Recipe Hunter Facebook Group
FB Page: @ShareCareAndInspire
Facebook Group: Sharing, Inspiring, Promoting Bloggers
FB Eat, Drinks, Crafts, Health and Wellness, Home and Tips: The Clucking Hen’s Social House
Twitter EsmeSalon @SundayMeetGreet
Pinterest; Instagram; Flipboard; Mix

Let’s Keep Sizzling!


If you are Over 50 and would like to contribute to the Over 50 & Thriving Series IN 2019, I would love to hear from you. Send me an email at sue@womenlivingwellafter50.com.au and I can provide more details.
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  • Reply Lori Jo November 28, 2018 at 19:49

    Absolutely! Having something to look forward to when you wake up each day is so necessary. Accomplishing goals and projects and enjoying engaging activities/connections with others brings fulfillment and richness in life. Thank you for the post, Esme and Sue!

    Lori Jo – 50 With Flair

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 29, 2018 at 15:15

      Hi Lori Jo, without a purpose we can feel like we are drifting along. I enjoyed Esme’s post and thoughts on the difference between surviving and thriving and I know which one I would want my life to be. 🙂

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:43

      Hi Lori – Thank you so much for reading and comment. I set goals daily, weekly, monthly and yearly and may not always achieve them all, but it keeps me going

  • Reply Christine November 29, 2018 at 05:08

    What a great post Esme! There is such a big difference between just surviving and thriving. Thriving is something we do on purpose, for a purpose. Something that gets us up in the morning and brings us alive. Living our passion and in doing so it ripples out to touch the lives of those around us, lifting each other up. I love it! Xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 29, 2018 at 15:17

      Perfectly written, Christine, thank you and so pleased you enjoyed Esme’s post. xx

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:45

      Dear Christine – so true, thank you for your input and yes we do a purpose daily

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 07:59

      Hi Christine – Spot on – Thank you so much for reading and your note

  • Reply Donna November 30, 2018 at 00:27

    Hi, Esme – It is great to see you here. “Share, Care & Inspire” is a wonderful motto to live by. Wishing you a wonderful holiday season!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 30, 2018 at 12:37

      Hi Donna I love Esme’s simple message of ‘Share, Care & Inspire’ we can all live this way without too much difficulty and we can bring so much joy to others. xx

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:48

      Thanks, Donna, glad you are with me on my motto

  • Reply Samantha Smith November 30, 2018 at 20:26

    Great to meet Esme and what a great post. ‘Share, Care & Inspire’ wonderful! Having a purpose in life is vital to feeling motivated and alive

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 3, 2018 at 17:08

      Hi Sam, I agree that we definitely need a reason to get up each day especially when we have stopped working. It is such a culture shock to the system. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by xx

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:49

      Dear Samantha, Thank you so much for visiting and reading. Hope to get to know you better over an my blog as well

  • Reply Debbie November 30, 2018 at 20:28

    So good to see Esme here Sue, she is a wonderful inspiration. I love the Share, care and inspire message. She is always supportive of others and I thoroughly enjoyed her post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 3, 2018 at 17:08

      Hi Deb, I’ve only recently discovered Esme but she is very generous and inspirational, I agree. Have a great week! xx

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:52

      Hello Debbie, great to meet you here over at Sue’s end. Thank you for your kind words

  • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:47

    Hi Samantha, Thank you for reading and your comment – Yes, I love to Share, Care and Inspire as best possible

  • Reply EsmeSalon December 4, 2018 at 11:54

    Dear Sue – I wish to take this opportunity to once again thank you for the honor to share a post here on your awesome blog. Thank you and I hope to get to know all these new friends better at over at my blog as well.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 4, 2018 at 16:43

      My pleasure Esme and I look forward to getting to know you more and linking up with your weekly link up. x

  • Reply Ellwn December 5, 2018 at 01:04

    A super post and you lady are definatley a thriver. Esme has all it takes to put others in the spotlight.i It is nice to find her in the spotlight herself. Sue you have a remarkable blog thanks for sharing with us all.

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 12:52

      Hi Ellwn. Thank you for those kind words. I just do what I love doing and that is to promote fellow blggers

      • Reply Ellen Best December 5, 2018 at 22:36

        Sorry my name is Ellen I seem to have spelt it wrong??

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 5, 2018 at 18:25

      Welcome Ellwn and thank you for your kind words. I love to promote other bloggers because we all have stories and wisdom to share. Thank you for visiting and look forward to connecting with you. xx

      • Reply Ellen Best December 5, 2018 at 22:36

        Sorry my name is Ellen I seem to have spelt it wrong??

        • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:01

          Thought I met a new blogger – great to see you here Ellen, my friend

  • Reply Agnes December 5, 2018 at 07:51

    I love the pic you chose – surviving does suggest struggle, whereas thriving is to bloom in the enjoyment of life! Being Mindful of all the good and bounty in our lives diminishes the imact of the struggles.
    Happy to meet you, neighbour – I’m on Vancouver Island!

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 13:01

      Hello Agnes – Yes we have to actively seek out and remain mindful of what we have and make a conscious decision daily to THRIVE

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 5, 2018 at 18:25

      Hi Agnes, I always try to find an image that reflects the post and I liked this one too. You would be neighbours with Donna from Retirement Reflections? She live on Vancouver Island as well and I’m hoping to see her when we finally take our Alaskan Cruise and visit Vancouver. Wouldn’t it be lovely if we could all meet IRL. Perhaps one day. xx

      • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:03

        Sue if you’re in Vancouver, please let me know as I am close to the airport and not far from downtown – That will be awesome to meet you in person

  • Reply Natalie December 5, 2018 at 09:06

    Hi Esme – Happy to meet another Canadian. I’m in Toronto. Share, Care and Inspire is a wonderful motto. I agree with your advice to surround yourself with other thrivers. Thanks to Sue for featuring Esme here. #MLSTL

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 12:59

      Hi Natalie – This is awesome to meet so many fellow Canadians. Thanks for connecting and sharing your thoughts

  • Reply Jennifer Jones December 5, 2018 at 09:30

    I really enjoyed this post Esme. I chose a few years ago to thrive rather than survive. My life has been amazing since then. By the way, I love your photos

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 13:02

      Hi there Jennifer – Good on you to take that step and thrive, I am sure you have a wonderful life

  • Reply Jennifer Jones December 5, 2018 at 09:33

    Great guest post Sue. I have pinned it. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 5, 2018 at 18:23

      Thanks Jen! Have a great week! x

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:04

      HI Jennifer – Thanks for reading, visiting and pinning.

  • Reply Mary Lou December 5, 2018 at 09:37

    I will definitely check out your Over-50 and Thriving series Sue and catch up on the other contributors. This was such an inspiring post. Being a survivor is good yet moving beyond surviving a crisis or tough time is so much more than just surviving. You know you’re thriving when an awareness of life’s joys fill your life more than thoughts of the past. Thank you Esme for sharing with #MLSTL too!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 5, 2018 at 18:22

      Hi Mary Lou if you would be interested in being a guest in 2019 then just contact me at sue@womenlivingwellafter50.com.au and I can send you the details. x

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:08

      Hi Mary – Thank you so very much for your kind comment. I try to build my day to day in such a way that I do not only survive a day but want to thrive in everything I do. Not always successful but I do my best.

  • Reply Patrick Weseman December 5, 2018 at 12:31

    Very nice. I really enjoyed this and liked it. #MLSTL

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 13:06

      Hi there Patrick – Thanks for reading and glad you enjoyed it

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 5, 2018 at 18:22

      Thanks Patrick and have a great week!

  • Reply swati December 5, 2018 at 12:31

    So important to remember this crucial difference! an insightful read!!

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 13:07

      Hi there Swati – Thanks for popping in and read. So good to see you here as well on Sue’s blog

  • Reply EsmeSalon December 5, 2018 at 13:04

    Dear Mary, Thanks for your kind words. Thriving is an active and daily choice we have to make and keep at it.

  • Reply Amelia December 5, 2018 at 20:50

    I think it is a decision we have to make at any age – creating the life we want and going for it. Not waiting life out for a better job, when I’m married, the kids are out of the house. Time is now to live and enjoy! Esme is so going it.

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:09

      Dear Amelia – Thank you so much, my wonderful friend, for your comments and sharing your thoughts. So glad we could meet in person a while back

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:16

      Amelia – I thought I did respond to your note. Anyway, let’s try again. Thanks my dear friend for your kind note and I am so happy that we had the opportunity to meet in your neck of the woods when we visited NF

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au December 5, 2018 at 21:29

    Hi Esme – this was a great way to differentiate between the two terms – it’s so easy just to “get through” life and a whole different ball game to do it in a way where we flourish. Midlife blogging has been the catalyst for me – so many wonderful women who are thriving in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s – they inspire me every day to face life with positivity and gratitude and to “seize the day”!
    And Hi Sue – thanks for sharing Esme with us – and for co-hosting another great MLSTL – I’ve shared this on my SM 🙂 xx

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:12

      Hi Leanne – Thank you so much – I appreciate and have met so many wonderful new bloggers here! Take each day and you run with it and make the best of each day.

  • Reply Trisha Faye December 5, 2018 at 23:45

    So very true! An excellent post about having the best life possible. This is a print out and re-read again post.
    Sharing for MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 05:29

      Thanks Trisha, another great guest in the series. I just love all of the women I am meeting.

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:13

      Trisha – You made my day when I read your note – Thank you so much

  • Reply Christina Daggett December 6, 2018 at 00:27

    I really enjoyed your post Esme. My goal is to be the one who thrives, not just survives!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 05:31

      That is a great goal Christina which I know I also strive for. Have a great week! x

  • Reply Rebecca Flansburg December 6, 2018 at 02:45

    “thriving is not being satisfied by just surviving, but to triumph and to make continual progress.” Sooooo good. Thanks for the great perspective 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 05:33

      Hi Rebecca! Esme certainly has written an inspirational post and one that would resonate with us all. I agree with her statement about making continual progress. Sometimes it is hard but if you stick to it you will start to thrive. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by. x

    • Reply EsmeSalon December 9, 2018 at 08:14

      Rebecca – yes it is not always possible and do-able, but I just keep trying to triumph day to day

  • Reply Leah December 6, 2018 at 07:57

    Most days I do a little of both. I still have a teenager at home and I have a grown child with mental health struggles so sometimes I survive and sometimes I thrive. My goal is to end the day with more thriving than just surviving. Thanks for all you wise words. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 06:00

      Hello Leah, it must be difficult at times but your attitude is great! I love your daily goal of ending the day with more thriving than just surviving. Sending hugs to you and your family. xx

  • Reply Christie Hawkes December 6, 2018 at 12:09

    It’s nice to meet you, Esme. Thank you for this take on thriving. Overall, I feel like I am thriving in life, but there are times when I get in survival mode, either out of necessity, like when my brother was killed or my daughter was ill, other times out of carelessness, allowing myself to get caught up in the minutia of life. But I always move forward into thriving and growing again.

    Thank you Sue for the introduction to Esme and for hosting the #MLSTL party! I’m glad to be back.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 05:51

      Hi Christie, Esme’s story has been very popular and I’m looking forward to another series in 2019. It is great to have you back at #MLSTL. xx

  • Reply Bethany @ Happily Loco December 6, 2018 at 12:31

    I love this! I think so many people get caught in the grind of surviving and its awful cousin, survival mode. I stayed in jobs I hated for 10 years, because at least I was getting by and putting food on the table. And guess what? There was still food on the table after I quit! Yes, the food may have come from generous neighbors (and strangers) from time to time, until I got settled into my new job, but we certainly did not starve.

    And I agree about surrounding yourself with thrivers. I’ve found that their attitude can be contagious!


    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 05:49

      Hi Bethany! I totally agree with your comments and I’ve put up with things in the past when I didn’t really have to. I’ve always said that to keep positive you need to surround yourself with positive people and yes attitudes can be contagious! Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by from #MLSTL xx

  • Reply Johanna Castro December 6, 2018 at 14:12

    I agree it’s all too easy to get caught up in the day to day grind and forget the bigger picture. Survival is of course essential, especially in countries which are developing or where there is war or turmoil, but in the First World most of us should be able to concentrate on thriving, and we should be able to put time aside to growing and burgeoning as human beings. Great post 🙂 #MLSTL Shared on SM

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 9, 2018 at 05:47

      Hi Jo, we sometimes easily forget how lucky we are living in Australia, don’t we? You are right that some people are just managing to survive and we should not take what we have for granted. Thanks for sharing xx

  • Reply Carol Taylor December 11, 2018 at 18:55

    An enjoyable post and lovely to see Esme here and dispensing good advice 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 12, 2018 at 08:40

      Hi Carol, thanks so much for visiting and yes, Esme is such a generous soul and very wise. Have a great week! xx

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