This week’s Over 50 & Thriving Guest is Emily Moss. I met Emily through her Instagram account 50somethinggetsfit and knew that her message of eating well and healthy would fit perfectly into not only my #FitFabFeb2019 theme but also it is Smart Eating Week.
Emily is full of vitality, has a warm smile and as a certified nutritional coach inspires other women to Eat Well, lose weight and enjoy life. She is also, like me, not focused on our age but on the quality of our life. You can connect with Emily through her links to her Instagram and Newsletter subscription at the end of her post.
What’s Age Got to Do with It?
Tina Turner sings, “What’s Love Got to Do with It”. I’m singing, “What’s Age Got to Do with It”.
In Tina Turner’s, 1984 hit song “What’s Love Got to Do with It”, Tina sings… “It’s physical. Only logical. You must try to ignore that it means more than that, oh oh oh…what’s love got to do with it. What’s love but a secondhand emotion”. Tina, belts out, that love is a secondhand emotion…According to the lyrics; Tina would sing that the fact is love is only physical. And that there are not feelings of emotion to consider.
I would ask the question, “What’s Age Got to Do with It?” I would contend, the fact is age is only a number – the year in which you were born. The emotion is how you feel, regardless of your physical age.
Growing older is inevitable but Aging is optional. Let’s consider: Age Fact vs. Age Felt
My Makeover needed a Do over.
When I was a young girl, my father saw an article in the local newspaper advertising makeup lessons for teenage girls. He pointed it out to my mother, the appointment was made, and the very next Saturday I found myself in the makeup chair at the Lancome counter.
I was shown various products, brushes, creams, and lotions; in addition to being taught the “how to” of applying these products. After several hours of teaching and applying; I was makeup ready.
I whispered, “Alright, Mr. DeMille, I’m ready for my close up”?
Wow!! I was not ready, for a closeup of any kind; as revealed by the horrified look on my mother’s face when she returned for me. I did not look like her peaches & cream, fresh face, teenager but rather an applicant for a career with the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus.
Age Fact: 13 vs. Age Felt: 33
NYC & The Big Apple
I began my career, as the Women’s Coat Buyer for Macy’s (back in the day it was called Lazarus -which was purchased by Macy’s). After graduating from college, with a degree in Fashion Merchandising, I landed my dream job. I had a corner office with an assistant. I travelled to NYC monthly. I was wined & dined. I wore expensive clothes (which I bought on credit, because I had no money- but had to “look the part”), I spent hours analyzing trends and forecasting sales. I was single. Living life in the fast lane.
Age Fact: 24 vs. Age Felt: 28
Health Clubs & Tanning Beds
I met a man! It was love at first sight. I’m not kidding! We met one night and 6 months later we were engaged. The wedding would take place a year later. What’s the first thing an engaged girl does, after showing off her ring? You guessed it. I started working out, of course! I hated it. Every. Single. Torturous Minute. I needed to lose 20lbs at the time; to look good in the wedding dress, but the truth was; my man didn’t care. He loved me. It was me! I didn’t love me. The wedding would be the beginning of the lies. Lies to myself. I’m not thin enough. I’m not pretty enough. I’m not what he wants. I don’t deserve him. The endless yo-yo dieting, the gym memberships, and the tanning beds…because if you’re tan, you look thinner; right?
Age Fact: 25 vs. Age Felt: 30
French Fries & Paris
Why is it the French can eat all the pommes frites, croissants and jambon-beurre sandwiches, is beyond me. Consider the Parisian woman walking confidently down the Champs-Elysees with a fresh baguette tucked neatly in her bag; most likely headed home to enjoy the warm, crusty bread with a thick smear of butter. Real butter!!
Seriously, I can gain 5lbs. just by looking at butter! So, what’s a girl to do but cut out the carbs and fat. Let me tell you, eating chicken and vegetables gets old!! I lost the weight but was miserable.
I loved the way I looked and the way I felt in my clothes. Gone were the tight jeans and spare tire around my midsection. I gained compliments from friends and strangers. I still didn’t love me. I felt beat down and I was constantly hungry.
Age Fact: 35 vs. Age Felt: 50
Empty Nest & Reinvention
As our children moved out of the house, college & career, I found myself feeling a loss.
My purpose, for nearly two decades, had suddenly vanished.
My daily routine. The Kids. The School. The Volunteering. The Sporting Events. The Friends. All of it came to a screeching HALT!! The phone didn’t ring; the invitations stopped. The family dinners dwindled to just the two of us. The house was quiet. Books were a temporary escape. Meals were created. The house spotless.
What was missing?
The love I showered on the boys was now just a shower for one. The loneliness and the void, in my life, was REAL. I didn’t realize it would be so severe. I had a choice to make. I could sit or I could stand. I chose to stand. I took a stand and faced myself. I asked myself the tough questions: Why do you feel empty? Can you love yourself? What’s your purpose now?
In standing up to myself and asking the tough questions; I realized it was time for reinvention. I had CHASED health & wellness for years; now it was time to CATCH them both!!
I got busy working on me.
I started the journey to health & wellness on the inside. My heart and mind. I developed a morning routine that combines heart work with mind work (over the past 3 years, it has now become the best, most sacred part of my day).
After the internal changes began to take root, I took a look at my physical health & wellness and realized it needed some cleaning up, too! I began by studying scientific research on aging, weight loss, longevity, and how to live a vibrant, energized life over 50 and beyond.
Could I, actually, lose weight happily?
My mindset had shifted, I lost the weight, (happily, I must add) and found my joy again -mentally & physically. I, eventually, earned my certification as a nutrition coach. I have reinvented myself to align with my new purpose.
The purpose of loving myself through the discipline of a healthy lifestyle. I, also, found my bigger purpose; that being one on one mentorship and support with women over 50 – to find themselves again.
To love themselves and to make their health a priority. It was, through the discomfort of changing my habits and mindset that I gained confidence, lost weight, and found the love for myself that was lost.
Age Fact: 55 vs. Age NOW Felt: 45
Fit & Fabulous Over 50
The fact is: You can BE Fit and Fabulous OVER 50.
The fact is; age is simply a number.
You get the opportunity every single day to push past your physical age.
You get to feel however you choose.
Ask yourself: Is today the day I accept my age, of birth or the age I feel? It’s never too late to start again.
Disregard the Facts. Embrace the Feelings.
The fact is, at age 79, Tina Turner ROCKS! It’s time to get over the age fact and get on with FEELING YOUR BEST LIFE TODAY.
Now… go crank up some music and feel like you’re 25!!
I’m Emily. I love good food. Real Food. My favorite time of day is at the kitchen table with my husband and kids (when they’re home). This is my happy place. I’m also an avid reader, lover of sunny days whether at the beach or in the mountains, creature of comfort, an extrovert who loves a good party and spending time with family and friends, horrible laundry folder, messiest gardener, and I’m unapologetically organized. Wanna be friends?
I am a certified nutritional coach. I am the most passionate when I’m fulfilling my purpose, helping women lose weight happily so they can live their best lives every single day. I provide one on one nutrition coaching.
My services are free, daily support. I provide you with the tips, accountability, motivation, and recipes.
Truthfully, as a certified nutritional coach, I know what I’m doing because I’ve got the tools. I’ve got a reference, a guide, an education, and my clients get results.
I am on a mission to create everyday wellness for women over 50. Women who have lost hope. Women who have gained the same 20 pounds over and over again. Women who have hormone imbalances. Menopausal Women. Women whose bodies have changed due to birthing babies, the aging process, and overeating. I’d love to help you! Are you ready to commit?
Connect with Emily