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‘What brings purpose & meaning to your life After 50?’

March 6, 2019
What brings purpose & meaning to your life after 50

I love my blogging friends, Women Over 50 who are supportive of each other as well as writing about their experiences and lifestyle in Midlife & Beyond.

For #MakingMarchMeaningful I asked some of them what brought purpose and meaning to their lives.  As always they inspire me and I’m excited to share their answers with you.  This is Part 1 of a three-part series.

What brings purpose & meaning to your life After 50?

I don’t have to be Wonder Woman to have value

What brings purpose and meaning to your life Over 50?

Leanne Le Cras from Cresting the Hill

I’ve been questioning my purpose and priorities a lot lately because I’m in the midst of a work-life upheaval.

Over the last few years I’ve soldiered on through a storm of mental stress and tolerated bad behaviour because I wasn’t brave enough to put myself and my needs first.

In the process I lost focus on what my purpose for Midlife is. I was holding on because it seemed like the best choice – but really it was because I was too scared to risk leaving and facing what that meant for me and who I assumed I was.

My wake-up call has been to recognize that working under that level of stress, at the expense of living my best life, is just wrong. Getting back to choosing to live in the “now” and respecting myself and my values is giving me to courage to step away from the madness and to begin living a calmer life again.

I don’t have to be Wonder Woman to have value.

I originally thought leaving meant retirement, but maybe it means re-thinking and re-prioritizing.

It’s time to get back to basics and making decisions grounded in who I am – rather than worrying about what others think, or what they’re doing with their lives – I’m choosing to let go of comparison.

Moving on from my not-so-perfect job and being at home for a while in a calm, safe environment, putting my needs first and choosing joy is what will bring sanity and meaning back into my life – along with some kitten snuggles and coffee dates and blogging buddies!

It’s really all about discovering again what I need to do to be happy and whole so I can contribute to others without being drained dry. I’m really excited about launching off into a new direction and being true to myself
again.

The Gift of Freedom

Happiness Revisited

Donna Connolly – Retirement Reflections

It can (sometimes) be easy to rattle off our ‘life’s purpose’ when we are raising our families and/or engaged in careers that fill us with passion.

But what about when the nest is empty, and the retirement banner has long been taken down?

What then offers us direction, influences our behaviors and makes us get out of bed in the morning?

For me, it is the remarkable gift of freedom.

Freedom to choose, to act, to be, not because of a job description, or societal expectations, but because of my beliefs – because of who I have become.

The gift of retirement has given me the opportunity to be more myself than I have ever been before.

My commitment is never to squander this privilege – but to cherish and nurture it. I am grateful to Sue for inviting us to join in with her on #MakingMarchMeaningful.

Evolving, learning, growing and being genuinely thankful for each and every day – what could be more worthwhile? I hope you’ll join us here.

Morning Lists, Social Interaction & Nightime Gratitude

What brings purpose and meaning to your life Over 50?

Jan Wild – Retiring, Not Shy!

I like to start my day with a to do list (hopefully one I put together the night before). This gives me a sense of purpose and helps me to make sure I have meaningful activities during my day.

For me meaning comes from my interactions with others, be that my partner, my family, my online community or my affiliate partners.

In trying to be the best I can in each of those interactions, I can find my sense of meaning. If I feel that I have helped in some way then that is a good day.

At the end of each day just before I go to sleep I also like to mentally note 5 things I am grateful for, this in itself reminds me that my day has been meaningful.

The Loss of a Loved One Reminds us that Life is Indeed Short

What brings purpose & meaning to your life AFter 50

Min Gillespie Write of the Middle

The recent loss of my much-loved father has been a life changing wake-up call and reminder that life is indeed short, and we need to make the most of each and every day and do what we can to bring peace and joy into our days.  We need to get our priorities in check, perhaps by conducting a bit of a life-audit whereby we keep and nurture what is important to us and ditch all the unnecessary things that cause us stress or angst of some kind.

Rather than putting pressure on ourselves to find our passion and purpose I believe in following our curiosities and interests and seeing where those take us.  I also believe that gratitude is the key to keeping us on track.

Practicing gratitude is as simple as finding one thing in each day that you are grateful for.  You can choose to document this or not but if you do you may like to write it in a journal or if you’re a visual person like me, you might prefer to take a photograph.

By practicing gratitude, you’re drawn into the present moment, your awareness and mindfulness are increased, and positive emotions are magnified as you notice the beauty and wonders around you.

Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions Zig Ziglar

Join me next week for Part 2 in this series ‘What brings meaning & purpose to your life after 50’

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19 Comments

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins March 7, 2019 at 00:41

    Lovely post, Sue, with perspective from some of my favorite bloggers…I can take something from each of them that helps me understand the meaning in my life.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 7, 2019 at 10:14

      Hi Nancy we have just a wonderful community of women bloggers whom I admire. Watch for Part 2 next week! xx

  • Reply Donna March 7, 2019 at 01:47

    “Choosing to let go of comparisons,” “daily noting five things for which we are grateful,” “following our curiosities and interests” …. these thoughts on meaning and purpose strongly resonate with me. Thank you for featuring us here. It has been a pleasure to join you in #MakingMarchMeaningful.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 7, 2019 at 10:15

      Thank you for taking part, Donna and apologies for the incorrect spelling of your surname. You are all wonderful women and I’m so glad we have all connected. xx

  • Reply Candi Randolph March 7, 2019 at 05:17

    I always enjoy reading what other women of a similar generation have to say about life. We are all such unique creatures, but we also have so much in common! Thanks for a great post, Sue. xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 7, 2019 at 10:16

      That is exactly right, Candi – we are all unique but also have so much in common. Love it! xx

  • Reply Joanne Tracey March 7, 2019 at 09:49

    You’ve certainly chosen some inspirational women. Of each of them, I’m with Donna in that freedom is my primary “why” – the freedom to explore and experience more both with my husband and independently. And by explore I mean both physically through travel and adventure but also through learning and connection.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 7, 2019 at 10:19

      Hi Jo, we know such wonderful women, don’t we – including ourselves! I love Donna’s idea too and would never have really thought of ‘Why’ in that way. Have a great time in NZ. xx

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle March 7, 2019 at 10:36

    Thanks for having me as part of this two-part series Sue! I just love reading the perspectives and thoughts of other midlife women. We’re a great bunch if I do say so myself – all different but with similar perspectives gained from the wisdom that comes with years lived! Looking forward to reading Part 2! I’ll be sharing on my WOTM Facebook page! Enjoy the rest of your week! xo #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2019 at 09:13

      My pleasure Min, I love reading everyone’s thoughts as well and now I’ve made it into a 3 part series! Have a great week and thanks for sharing. xx

  • Reply Debbie March 7, 2019 at 20:56

    Such wise women sharing their thoughts here Sue, I love them all! It’s so good to read about how others see their purpose and we all have so much to offer. Looking forward to next week’s offerings too.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2019 at 09:15

      Hi Deb, I totally agree and I’m in awe of all of you! I know have made it a 3 part series so more wise words to come. Have a a great weekend xx

  • Reply Deborah March 8, 2019 at 07:45

    Oh I can relate to a lot of these Sue. My dad’s death is one of the reasons I took my redundancy and made my seachange in 2012. And now, I’m in a huge quandary about the work vs life thing and need to pay bills but feeling resentful I can’t have time for myself.

    And though I’ve not had family / partner I can relate to the empty nest feeling because I’m increasing feeling my own mortality and conscious of that lack of purpose or legacy I guess when it’s just me….

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2019 at 09:20

      Hi Deb, you don’t have to have a family/partner to experience the same feelings as those that do. After we reach 50 we do start to think more about our own mortality, especially in my case, where my Mother, Father and Brother all died in their early to mid 60s. We can only try to live the best life that we can which is RIGHT FOR US. Each of us is different and I can understand your dilemma at the moment. Working or having more time for you to do what you enjoy. Perhaps you can use this contract role to define what you want for your future and start making serious plans and goals. Have a beautiful weekend and here if you ever need to chat. xx

  • Reply Erica/Erika March 10, 2019 at 03:29

    I really appreciate Leanne’s vulnerability and sharing her story. I like her words “to begin living a calmer life again” and “being true to myself.” Donna’s words “gift of freedom” “my beliefs” and “who I have become really resonate with me. Career and societal expectations can pull us in various directions, often trying to please everyone. For the most part, we now do have the gift of freedom. Jan’s post reminds me that our time is precious and how do I want to spend these moments. Min Gillespie’s poignant post reinforces how practising gratitude for all the simple pleasures keeps our life on track. These gems are wonderful reminders from very relatable women. Thank you, Sue, for creating the category MakingMarchMeaningful.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 10, 2019 at 10:31

      Hi Erica! I felt the same as you in that I appreciated the unique ideas from my guests. I continue to be amazed and learn so much from other women in midlife and beyond. This is now a 3 part series so I hope you enjoy more inspiration from other Women in Parts 2 & 3. Have a beautiful week and thanks so much for stopping by to comment. xx

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit March 14, 2019 at 05:34

    Oh Min, you nailed it

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au March 18, 2019 at 14:03

    Sue HOW COULD I HAVE MISSED THIS POST??? What a great collection of thoughts and I love how you’ve highlighted one small, pithy snippet from each. So many wise words and I also like that they’re from women who have retired and are so centred and happy in themselves – it gives me so much hope for the future as I transition from one stage to the next. Maybe retirement isn’t such a bad thing after all 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 20, 2019 at 09:23

      I think you had a big week when it was published! I’m glad you liked how I highlighted a snippet from each. I just love how everyone has their own thoughts and no retirement isn’t that bad once you find your place 🙂 xx

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