Worthiness – “The quality of being good enough; suitability. The quality of deserving attention or respect.”
How would you rate on your Worthy-O-Meter? Did you know you have one? I’ll tell you more about what this is and how you can improve it, later in the post.
Throughout my AtoZ Guide to Thriving Series, I’ve looked from A-Z all the different ways we can improve ourselves and our lives in order to Thrive! In my post, ‘S’ is for ‘S’ is for Self-care, self-investment & self-respect, I discussed how taking care of yourself, investing in the person you are and respecting who you are is vital for Thriving. It isn’t selfish to spend time on doing things that you enjoy and making time to nurture your mind, body and soul.
If you have these three ‘S’s then you also have Self-Worth. You recognise your value as a human being and feel good about yourself.
Sadly, many of us haven’t mastered the three ‘S’s and feel that we aren’t worthy of being happy or fulfilled. We feel we aren’t good enough, important enough or we don’t measure up enough. This is where the Worthy-O-Meter comes in to play.
Throughout the series, I have mentioned Melissa Ambrosini’s book ‘Mastering Your Mean Girl’ and this is where I discovered the Worthy-O-Meter. Melissa writes that we all have a Worthy-O-Meter and those who have low self-esteem or don’t value their self-worth are hovering around ‘Zero’. Those who are confident and believe in themselves will push that meter up to ‘Ten’. To quote Melissa:
This feeling of worthiness is reflected in all three major areas of your life – your health, wealth and love. Someone who owns their worth and has their worth-o-meter at ten will be experiencing life very differently from someone who’s hovering around zero. It’s all relative to where you sit on the meter.”
The good news is we can all get to a ‘Ten’ on the Worthy-O-Meter, because like most things, it all comes down to us as individuals and how we think.
How often do you hear or even say yourself ‘ “I’m so lucky, I don’t deserve this…” Luck doesn’t really come into it because whatever you have achieved in life is because you have put in the hard yards. So acknowledge your worth and capabilities.
I’ve struggled during my life with lacking self-confidence, poor self-image and not really feeling ‘worthy’. It has taken many years for me to overcome this and there are still times when Ms Negativity pops into my head to drag me down. That is life and she won’t go away – but YOU are in control!
Worthiness – 3 tips to taking your Worthy-O-Meter to 10
1. Own your worth
Recognise that you do deserve the good things that happen in your life. It doesn’t matter how much you want something – happiness, contentment, new job, new car or friends. If you don’t truly believe in yourself and your worth, then you won’t attract these things into your life. You will put up barriers and excuses because you don’t really feel you deserve them.
2. Let go of limiting believes and believe that you are worthy
Forget the Negative self-talk from your inner critic and open your mind to truly believing in yourself and your capabilities.
3. Learn to dial up your worthy-o-meter
This Inspo-action, as Melissa calls it, will help you improve your self-worth when you are doubting yourself and abilities. This exercise is all about focusing and lingering on all your positive attributes rather than listening to your inner critic.
- Make a list under the title of ‘I’m excellent at…..’
- Read through this list daily
- Add to the list if you think of something new that is positive
- Add a worthiness meditation to your day to increase your feeling of self-worth.
How do you rate on the Worthy-O-Meter? What can you do to increase your feeling of self-worth today?
In my next post in the A to Z Guide to Thriving, I’m discussing ‘X’ is for Xtreme – Finding the right balance to Thrive. I do hope you will join me.
You might also like to check out my Over 50 & Thriving series. In this series, published every Thursday, guest writers give insight into what ‘Over 50 & Thriving’ means to them.
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