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‘W’ is for Worthiness – Valuing your own Worth

April 26, 2018


Worthiness – “The quality of being good enough; suitability. The quality of deserving attention or respect.”

How would you rate on your Worthy-O-Meter?  Did you know you have one?  I’ll tell you more about what this is and how you can improve it, later in the post.

Throughout my AtoZ Guide to Thriving Series, I’ve looked from A-Z all the different ways we can improve ourselves and our lives in order to Thrive!  In my post, ‘S’ is for ‘S’ is for Self-care, self-investment & self-respect, I discussed how taking care of yourself, investing in the person you are and respecting who you are is vital for Thriving.  It isn’t selfish to spend time on doing things that you enjoy and making time to nurture your mind, body and soul.

If you have these three ‘S’s then you also have Self-Worth.  You recognise your value as a human being and feel good about yourself.

Sadly, many of us haven’t mastered the three ‘S’s and feel that we aren’t worthy of being happy or fulfilled.  We feel we aren’t good enough, important enough or we don’t measure up enough. This is where the Worthy-O-Meter comes in to play.

Throughout the series,  I have mentioned Melissa Ambrosini’s book ‘Mastering Your Mean Girl’ and this is where I discovered the Worthy-O-Meter.  Melissa writes that we all have a Worthy-O-Meter and those who have low self-esteem or don’t value their self-worth are hovering around ‘Zero’.  Those who are confident and believe in themselves will push that meter up to ‘Ten’. To quote Melissa:

This feeling of worthiness is reflected in all three major areas of your life – your health, wealth and love. Someone who owns their worth and has their worth-o-meter at ten will be experiencing life very differently from someone who’s hovering around zero.  It’s all relative to where you sit on the meter.”

The good news is we can all get to a ‘Ten’ on the Worthy-O-Meter, because like most things, it all comes down to us as individuals and how we think.

How often do you hear or even say yourself ‘ “I’m so lucky, I don’t deserve this…”  Luck doesn’t really come into it because whatever you have achieved in life is because you have put in the hard yards.  So acknowledge your worth and capabilities.

I’ve struggled during my life with lacking self-confidence, poor self-image and not really feeling ‘worthy’.  It has taken many years for me to overcome this and there are still times when Ms Negativity pops into my head to drag me down.  That is life and she won’t go away – but YOU are in control!

Worthiness – 3 tips to taking your Worthy-O-Meter to 10

1. Own your worth

Recognise that you do deserve the good things that happen in your life.   It doesn’t matter how much you want something – happiness, contentment, new job, new car or friends. If you don’t truly believe in yourself and your worth, then you won’t attract these things into your life. You will put up barriers and excuses because you don’t really feel you deserve them.

2. Let go of limiting believes and believe that you are worthy

Forget the Negative self-talk from your inner critic and open your mind to truly believing in yourself and your capabilities.

3. Learn to dial up your worthy-o-meter

This Inspo-action, as Melissa calls it, will help you improve your self-worth when you are doubting yourself and abilities.  This exercise is all about focusing and lingering on all your positive attributes rather than listening to your inner critic.

  • Make a list under the title of ‘I’m excellent at…..’
  • Read through this list daily
  • Add to the list if you think of something new that is positive
  • Add a worthiness meditation to your day to increase your feeling of self-worth.

How do you rate on the Worthy-O-Meter?  What can you do to increase your feeling of self-worth today?



In my next post in the A to Z Guide to Thriving, I’m discussing ‘X’ is for Xtreme – Finding the right balance to Thrive. I do hope you will join me.

If you have missed previous posts in the AtoZ Challenge 2018 just click here to find them all.

You might also like to check out my Over 50 & Thriving series.  In this series, published every Thursday, guest writers give insight into what ‘Over 50 & Thriving’ means to them.

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  • Reply Retirement Reflections April 26, 2018 at 05:31

    Hi, Sue – I had never heard of ‘Worthy-O-Meter.’ It does make sense, as do your tips on self-care, self-investment and self-respect. Thank you for another great post. Three more to go…… 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 07:13

      I hadn’t heard of ‘Worthy-O-Meter’ until I read Mean Girl, Donna. I thought it was a wonderful way to look at how we view our own worth. Yes, what will we do with ourselves after AtoZ is finished LOL:)

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl April 26, 2018 at 08:47

    The ‘Worthy-o-meter’ is a brilliant way of thinking about self worth!

    That final quote is so very true. Self worth begins with ourselves. But to put this into practice is so hard at times.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 08:49

      Yep it isn’t easy SSG that is why I write about it to keep it front and centre in my mind. Have a great week! xx

  • Reply Denyse Whelan Blogs April 26, 2018 at 08:56

    Another great lesson for all of here Sue. I continue to make better progress with my confidence and mental health than for the past few years as having a cancer diagnosis changed me in some positive ways too. However, I am still the me who can get worn down by old and familiar thought patterns! The good news is now that I recognise and challenge them. My thoughts are often lies I tell myself. So I will self-question and things settle. It is an on-going matter!

    Denyse x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 09:03

      I agree Denyse it is on-going. For me I have thought this way for so long that I wasn’t good enough even though people told me differently. You have to believe it yourself and now I’m finally starting to. Have a beautiful day my friend xx

  • Reply writeofthemiddle April 26, 2018 at 10:00

    Another fabulous post as part of this series Sue! I hadn’t heard of a ‘worthy-o-meter’ but it’s a great concept and sounds like a very interesting book to read! My worthy-o-meter is up and down I think – certainly not at 10 – a work in progress. I really should do that Insp-action list! 🙂 #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 10:32

      Hi Min, yes I’m always a WIP but that makes life interesting. 🙂 The book is quite good actually and the little inpso action lists are helpful. Have a lovely day xx

  • Reply Natalie April 26, 2018 at 10:00

    Very sound advice, Sue. Almost done with the A to Z Challenge. I voted for you earlier on and I hope you’ll win the award.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 10:32

      Thank you so much for your support, Natalie. It really means so much to me. have a great day! xx

  • Reply heatherericksonauthor April 26, 2018 at 12:20

    This is so important! I didn’t always have self worth. I was in an abusive marriage and saw myself as worth nothing. Then on day I had an awakening. I want made to be treated that way. My kids weren’t made for that life, either. It took a few years of rehabilitating my thinking. By thankfully I now have the three S’s and know my worth.
    Facing Cancer with Grace

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 14:17

      Oh I’m sorry to hear that Heather but at least you made the move and although it must have been tough on our and your children it was necessary. Glad you are living a life with the three S’s now xx

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 26, 2018 at 14:12

    I love the Worthy-O-Meter Sue. Such a coincidence that this is your W word. Up until yesterday it was mine also. I don’t think I ever felt worthy until in my 50s. I was going to post about that but had a change of heart. Almost with there with A to Z!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 14:20

      Oh you did well to make a change so quickly. I was starting to worry that I wouldn’t make it each day but yes I’ve done it and we are almost there. I like the idea of the Worthy-O-Meter – there is so much useful information out there but so little time to read it all. x

  • Reply Debbie Harris April 26, 2018 at 14:29

    Right!! I’m off to dial up my Worthy-O-Meter now. I’ll let you know how I get on 🙂 I’ve learnt so much during this A-Z challenge thank you Sue 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 14:30

      Good for you! Yes I’ve learned so much just writing the posts and also from the wisdom of women in my Over 50 & Thriving series. We are a formidable generation of women that is for sure xx

      • Reply Debbie Harris April 26, 2018 at 14:31

        Indeed we are Sue and you’re leading the way my friend 🙂

        • Reply Sue Loncaric April 26, 2018 at 14:33

          Ok well I hope I can walk out of the study door now because my head my be too big from all of your compliments! Thanks friend xx

  • Reply Midlife Smarts April 26, 2018 at 16:15

    I’m liking the Worthy-O-Metre! Lots of great ideas in here. Thanks

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:02

      Thanks Jill, I thought the Worthy-O-Meter was a great idea! Thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful weekend x

  • Reply Kalpana April 26, 2018 at 17:43

    I love the idea of a worthyo’meter and I’m going to follow your suggestions to increase my rating on it. This post is pure gold Sue. Thank you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:02

      Thanks Kalpana. I hadn’t heard of the worth-o-meter before but it really puts everything into perspective. have a beautiful weekend and thanks for stopping by to visit.

  • Reply Leanne April 26, 2018 at 19:10

    This is so true – the whole concept of us setting our own worthiness level is quite profound and very liberating. I think for too long I let my assumptions of what everyone else thought colour my view of myself (they may not have even been thinking what my brain assumed!) Now I just get on with it and let anyone who wants to judge go ahead with it – I really don’t care anymore 🙂

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    W for When You Lose

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:03

      Good for you Leanne. Pity we had to get to 50 to realise it though. However, we have another 50 years to put it into practice! 🙂

  • Reply Kathy Marris April 26, 2018 at 20:17

    I think like a lot of other women I’ve gone through periods in my life where I’ve felt unworthy. Unfortunately, when I was young I was a “people pleaser” and I still am to a certain degree. I have slowly learnt to become my own person and not worry about how other people view me on the “worthy meter”. I know I’m extremely blessed in my life and not a day goes by that I don’t remind myself of this. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:05

      I believe most women have felt this way Kathy but our generation has decided to make changes – even if it took us until midlife to do it. I’m a ‘people pleaser’ as well and that makes it hard but saying No occasionally doesn’t hurt and it makes us stronger. Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Debbie-Dabble April 26, 2018 at 20:54

    Thanks so much for sharing this great post!! And thanks for stopping by and for taking the time to comment on my post about What Will You Do When You Retire?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:06

      Hi Deb, I really enjoyed your post about Retirement it was spot on! Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by x

  • Reply patwdoyle11 April 26, 2018 at 23:45

    I also like the “worthy-o-meter” idea. This is my year of self-acceptance… so I’ll be pulling some of your words into a (new) affirmation for myself. I do deserve the good things that are in my life right now! (and I should not feel guilty I have them.)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:06

      The worthy-o-meter has been very popular with my readers Pat so I’m pleased I shared it with everyone. Loving your attitude! x

  • Reply Shirley Corder April 27, 2018 at 04:11

    Loved this post. I plan to work on that worthy-o-meter idea next month!

  • Reply karen@profoundjourney.com April 27, 2018 at 11:27

    I vary on the meter, Sue – by the day, sometimes by the hour. Interesting post. Thank you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:07

      I’m sure we all do Karen. Have a great weekend and we are almost there!

  • Reply christine blundell April 27, 2018 at 12:59

    What a great post Sue! Owning our own self worth is a huge issue for women and one that for me personally has been and still is at times a giant hurdle. I have also found when working with many women’s groups and in my Image Consultant capacity that it can be very hard to help women to see their value, potential and uniqueness. We often don’t accept compliments well and tend to respond to them in a way that we put ourselves down and take away the pleasure of the one giving the compliment.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 27, 2018 at 14:09

      I would love to do the work that you do Christine, helping women to feel good about themselves. I’m hoping to start some coaching over the next few months and perhaps more public speaking on Aging if my Mother’s Day gig goes well. x

  • Reply Deborah April 29, 2018 at 08:10

    Oh I can relate to this cos the concept of ‘worth’ and ‘enoughness’ are biggies for me. I’m not sure why they’re issues and how they came to be, but they’re both things I’m continuing to work on. #teamlovinlife

  • Reply Victoria April 30, 2018 at 03:24

    As I have gotten older I can appreciate my worth more. I have heard of this book before but not the worth meter. As my grandmother used to say” if you don’t value yourself no one else will either”.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 30, 2018 at 07:00

      Your grandmother was very wise Victoria! Have a great week xx

  • Reply Rebecca Olkowski (@baby_boomster) April 30, 2018 at 09:21

    The quote is so right on. You are the one to set the meter and no one else. Pinned it.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 30, 2018 at 13:19

      Thanks for sharing Rebecca and have a great week!

  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid May 9, 2018 at 22:22

    Never heard of the meter but I know it’s challenging to feel worthy at times. Shared your post x 4 ♥

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 10, 2018 at 13:40

      I think it is a great idea Dee and loved it when I read about it. WE all feel that we aren’t worthy and we need to change that attitude. Thanks so much for sharing and have a beautiful day xx

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