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‘Why’? How this three letter word helps us stay committed

May 17, 2020
Using your 'Why' to stay committed

It’s time for another Wellness Weekend where I link up with Natalie from Natalie the Explorer and Leslie from Once Upon A Time, Happily Ever After. Each month we write from a prompt based around our Wellness and this month the prompt is Commitment. This topic prompted me to reflect on how staying committed to our health and well being has not been quite as easy during the rollercoaster ride of emotions that we have been trying steer, living with COVID-19.

However, isolation will not be forever and we can still plan for the future and what we would like to change or maintain in our life. It has been difficult to stay committed to goals during COVID-19. My Saturday Sisters and I had been training for several runs in 2020 including a couple of Half Marathons and the possibility of a Full Marathon. We like to train for an event as it keeps us committed to a regular running program. My commitment has certainly been tested as most of the events have been postponed or cancelled.

Why then do we keep running and training, even though we aren’t able to run together?

The answer is because we need to stay focused and committed to maintain our fitness and distances we can run so that when the events are rescheduled we are prepared. We don’t have to start all over from the beginning to improve fitness levels because we have committed to maintain them.

During April I ran a 7-day Eat Healthy for Life Challenge in the Facebook Group to try and encourage us all to look at how we can improve our eating habits and ‘why’ we should. Baking has become a popular pastime during the weeks of #ISO. It is a wonderful stress reliever and of course the aroma of freshly baked goods is always tempting. We have turned to comfort food which is fine occasionally but not in the longer term to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

Of course, your goal might be something that isn’t about health and wellness, however the principle of knowing your ‘Why’ is still the same.

Using your ‘Why’ to stay committed

I’ve written several times about goal setting and the importance of knowing ‘Why’ you want to achieve your particular goal. There is a whole section of resources in my Resource Library for Goal Setting.

When I’ve been coaching clients, I’ve found they are enthusiastic about working towards a goal, however the commitment to stay on track starts to wane as life takes over. When this happens, I try to bring them back to the question of ‘Why’?

Why have you chosen this goal? Why do you want to achieve it?

This week I was listening to Peta Gillian and Sally-Anne Milham on the Strong Healthy Women, Talking Well Being TV and one of the daily subjects was centred around ‘Why?’ I’ve put the link here if you want to listen to the 30 minute video.

I’ve listed below a couple of the main points which the ladies discussed in this post.

We usually concentrate on ‘How’ we achieve our goal – the tools and resources we will use.

However, we don’t delve into the ‘Why’ we are doing it. For example, I workout regularly and try to maintain a healthy balanced eating plan is my ‘How’. My ‘Why’ is because I want to take care of my body, mind and spirit, be an active grandmother to keep up with my gorgeous grandsons and to enjoy travelling and life with my husband.

Digging deeper to find your ‘Why?’

For example, you might want to lose weight or want to be fitter. Ask yourself Why you want this. You have an initial answer but then you need to drill further down to find out the real ‘Why’. Often we need to get to the point where we aren’t happy with ourselves and then our ‘Why’ becomes more important.

The 50 Reasons Exercise to find your ‘Why’?

Peta suggests that over the course of 5 days we write down 10 reasons Why we want to achieve or goal. We do this each day for 5 days, finishing with 50 reasons Why. This really is a great exercise to drill down to find the underlying reasons ‘Why?’ you want to do this. It gets harder as with each day to come up with different reasons but it is a great exercise if you can complete it.

Do you have a desire, dream or goal you would like to achieve? Have you given enough thought to ‘Why?’ you want to achieve it?

Will you undertake the 50 reasons Exercise?

I would love to hear your feedback and ways you stay committed to achieving your goal.

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36 Comments

  • Reply Erica/Erika May 17, 2020 at 12:07

    You are always inspirational, Sue, on your commitment with exercise and healthy habits. A goal always does help when we are focusing our energies. You can eat baked goods and treats because you expend a great deal of energy.

    The “why” is a really good question when working out. I will give your questions more thought, Sue. I have heard a couple of bloggers talk about staying strong. I have increased my weights and I am pretty consistent working out with my free weights every second day. I think my “why” is to stay mentally and physically strong. A great post, as always, Sue! Take care and stay well.xx

  • Reply Jennifer Jones May 17, 2020 at 17:12

    I’ll give the Why Exercise a go Sue. I haven’t thought about my Why for a while. Just been on the mouse wheel of doing it -both with and without enthusiasm. Depends on the day

  • Reply Donna Connolly May 18, 2020 at 05:23

    Hi, Sue – This is so true about goal setting. We do most often focus on the ‘how’ (at least I do). Focussing on ‘why’ makes great sense. Thank you for sharing this!

    • Reply Donna Connolly May 20, 2020 at 14:46

      Hi, Sue – I’m dropping in again to share this on my Social Media. #MLSTL

  • Reply Sheryl May 18, 2020 at 05:34

    Great post – I probably should think about “why” more.

  • Reply Trisha Faye May 18, 2020 at 05:51

    Excellent!! I think I need to post a huge WHY over my desk! Thanks for the inspiration and encouragement you consistently give.

  • Reply Natalie May 18, 2020 at 09:13

    Hi Sue, I agree with you about using our Why to stay committed. My Why is clear to me and it keeps me committed to stay fit all these years. Once we choose to live a healthy lifestyle, it’s long term (pretty much until we die) and it takes commitment, time. energy, and discipline. The rewards are we feel good, strong, and capable. Thanks for linking up with me on this Wellness Weekend. The next link up is on June 21. Optional prompt Mind exercise. Have a wonderful week! #WW2020

  • Reply Laurie May 18, 2020 at 11:53

    It is tough for us runners to find our “why” right now, isn’t it? I guess rather than focusing on external motivation like races and group runs, it is time to dig deep and concentrate on the internal motivation that keeps us out there on the roads and trails. I always feel better, calmer, more focused, and happier after a run. I do it for me. It is a commitment I have no trouble keeping.

  • Reply Bree May 20, 2020 at 07:09

    Great post. Thank you for sharing. Im not a runner never was before my knee injury nearly 3 years ago or now. However I have enjoyed the gym since my knee …haha who would have thought I would ever say that. I miss it now. Why – because it makes me feel good, Why because it helps me to look after my body. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:36

      Hi Bree, running was just an example but anything we want in life needs to have a Why? I love your Why? – it makes me feel good -nothing better than that. x

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee May 20, 2020 at 07:24

    Interesting. I guess we often do things because we feel we should and so the WHY isn’t really strong enough to make us commit…not really thought about it like that. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:38

      Hi Lydia, yes we always do things because we feel we should but sometimes we need to know WHY we want something and hold onto that so we can achieve it. x

  • Reply Nancy Andres May 20, 2020 at 08:47

    Hi Sue, For me the first half of life was about striving to make a living and being there for my family, discover my passion, and go after it. The second half is about inner work and finding meaning and satisfaction in myself and what I do. My motive is usually to do things because they have a higher purpose. When I can be of service to others and give back as a thank you for the goodness in my life, I feel joy. I stay committed and take time to maintain or improve the quality of my spiritual, mental, physical, and relationship areas of my life, because I want to have the energy to remain active and productive in my golden years. #MLSTL . Will share on SM.

    • Reply Christina Henry May 20, 2020 at 11:23

      Hi Sue, I agree that figuring out why you’re doing something is so important in order to keep you motivated and doing something for the right reasons. Staying healthy for my sons and husband is the overall driving force behind most of my life decisions. Even when I wanted to lose weight it was for health reasons rather than to make myself look good.

  • Reply Michele Somerville May 20, 2020 at 09:09

    While i fully realize the importance of goals for healthy living, I appreciate that you allow for a broader application. The question Why is an important one and since we are no longer toddlers, we can ask ourselves the question and drill down as you say. I love the idea of the 50 reasons too. I find myself in a season of discernment and there is a lot that you right here that is helpful. Thank you for sharing.

  • Reply Lori May 20, 2020 at 09:22

    Well, I feel like a loser admitting this but…I haven’t set any long term goals. I like daily and weekly lists and I an cross off my to-dos like a champ, but I know that’s not the same thing. I might be more consistent with my healthy eating and weight loss if I turned my wishing I could lose weight into actually setting a goal to do it. I have recently been exercising every day, so that’s one step in the right direction. You’ve given me pause for thought. I may try the 50 reasons and that might motivate me to be more consistent with my eating and actually to set a weight loss goal. That’s backwards, I know, but it might work for me. Thanks for the inspiration!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:41

      Hi Lori! You are not a loser at anytime! However, setting a long term goal helps you determine what you really want. You then break it down into your daily, weekly and monthly lists and presto you are on your way to achieving your goal. Send me a message if can help you in any way to get started. xx

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle May 20, 2020 at 10:48

    I’d love to be a runner but my body just isn’t designed for it. However, I’ve been walking during lockdown. My why is for a few reasons – I need to keep active (use it or lose it), for my mental health, and I need to exercise the dog. I also love getting out in the fresh air and nature – it lifts my spirits. I’m missing my 3 x weekly pilates classes! I’m not quite (nowhere near) as driven for exercise as you are Sue but I’m pleased I’ve at least managed to walk regularly! xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:39

      Hi Min, walking is great on sol many levels and is just as satisfying as any other exercise. Walking your dog would be a good reason to get out there initially but once you are up and away you feel so much better mentally as well as physically. Take care and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au May 20, 2020 at 11:40

    Hi Sue – I like the idea of drilling down beneath the initial knee-jerk “Why” because often that first answer isn’t the true motivation for wanting to do something – and I can see why it wouldn’t sustain motivation for long. I’m not sure about 50 “why’s” but I like the idea of finding several to reinforce a commitment.
    Thanks for co-hosting another busy #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan May 20, 2020 at 20:17

    Right now my ‘why’ is to continue to achieve my walking and moving goals each day on my apple watch. I turned down the goals once COVID began as my activity reduced…I still managed to do what I hoped though so all good. I did, though, from last week when access to getting out and about was more prevalent to increase the goals and so far so good. I compete with myself. It works well for me now. Thanks for you link up and your constant inspiration to get your good health messages to us all. Congrats on your course completion too. Denyse #mlstl

  • Reply Jennifer May 20, 2020 at 21:30

    I may take up that 50 reasons why challenge. Although I have been taking walks, I haven’t really been exercising. And walks don’t undo the damage of some of the foods that I’ve been eating!

  • Reply Lucia May 21, 2020 at 06:18

    Hi Sue,
    Knowing our “Why” is so very important in all aspects of life. I’ve had several reasons why I wanted to stay healthy the last few months. Self care involves taking care of our immune system, committing to movement, eating healthy foods, and even getting good rest. All of these have been so important to keeping me less anxious as well. An added benefit!

    • Reply Amrita May 30, 2020 at 03:50

      Hi Sue visiting from the Pit stop.I am.inspired to link up for the wellness weekend.

  • Reply Erica/Erika May 21, 2020 at 11:21

    Hi Sue, I am visiting again with #MLSTL and sharing on SM. I reread your post and answering the question “Why” is applicable for many parts of our life, exercise included. Thank you for sharing doable gems. xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:35

      Thank you Erica for always being so supportive xx

  • Reply Rita May 21, 2020 at 22:54

    Sue, I’m going to give this a try! 50 reasons…I’m not sure I have 50 reasons for anything I do but I think it will be interesting!
    Thanks! Rita

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:34

      50 reasons are quite a lot Rita but it certainly makes you drill down to the nitty gritty rather than glossing over it all.

  • Reply Christine May 22, 2020 at 12:00

    What a great idea. I’m sure I could find 50 things in my wardrobe I could rediscover if I exercised more and lost a couple of kilos! Does that count for 50 reasons? And yes, my wardrobe is pretty big.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2020 at 14:33

      Your wardrobe must be pretty big Christine I don’t think I own 50 items LOL:)

  • Reply Corinne Rodrigues May 25, 2020 at 17:56

    That ‘why’ is such a crucial question. Answering that has helped me immensely with a lot of things too.
    You are always an inspiration, Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 29, 2020 at 08:09

      Thanks Corinne, I find if I’m struggling I always come back to my ‘Why’ and it either makes me continue or helps me realise I might be on the wrong path. Enjoy your weekend and take care. xx

  • Reply Kathleen May 27, 2020 at 21:44

    CONGRATULATIONS, Sue. Our Julie has chosen your ‘why’ post to be featured in the next Blogger’s Pit Stop. Well done.
    Kathleen

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 29, 2020 at 07:30

      Thanks so much Kathleen. As always it is a honour to be chosen as a featured post. Enjoy your weekend. xx

  • Reply Karen May 29, 2020 at 00:12

    I need to get back on track. My clothes are getting tight & I’m tired & don’t have energy. I made a check off list of things I need to do everyday. I even put the simple reminders such as drink water & eat a green for supper. I’m excited & motived about it right now, so I’ll see how it goes in the coming weeks.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 29, 2020 at 07:28

      Good for you Karen! You’ve got this and it is all a matter of taking micro steps towards your goals. Keep that motivation and excitement going, I’ve got your back! Let me know how you are progressing and have a lovely weekend. x

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