I’ve not had two minutes to spare this last couple of weeks and when that happens I’m certainly NOT LIVING WELL! The last couple of weeks, Time was my enemy and I need to make friends with it again.
This brings me to my topic of the week…….. AVOIDING THE OVER-COMMITMENT TRAP .
Now, before I start, I do need to point out, that I LOVE TO BE BUSY! I really don’t want to have my days stretch out before me with nothing to do or to feel the need to live a life that is simple, slow and steady. That just isn’t me, I accept that, but that lifestyle might appeal to you. I always come back to acknowledging that we are all unique, different and want different things for our life.
We shouldn’t live our life by other people’s expectations, we live our life on our terms and what is right for us.Sue from Women Living Well After 50
There is a difference though with being busy doing things you enjoy and going too far along the busy scale. The problem for me is when I over extend myself and take on too much and my life becomes too hectic to enjoy. I start to feel drained and tired.
We read everywhere about having the ability to say ‘NO’ and setting boundaries but sometimes life just doesn’t work that way, does it? I know for me it doesn’t and I’m sure you have times when you feel this way too.
My friend, Donna from Retirement Reflections has taken some time out from blogging to enjoy the Spring weather and some Spring Cleaning where she lives on beautiful Vancouver Island. I’m not sure I would get much Spring Cleaning done living in such a beautiful place, but I digress.
We were chatting during the week and she said she was taking a break and it was thanks to me. Donna felt that although she had been doing things that she enjoyed, the restrictive nature of lockdown combined with activities online developed with groups to cope with living in lockdown, making appointments for her parents to have their COVID vaccinations, life in general had left her feeling drained and saying ‘enough’. Donna had remembered times when I’ve put my hand up, said ‘enough’ and taken a break and a step back from life. Often, women will tell me they are following my example and then I find that I’m not, which isn’t a good look is it?
The last few weeks have been extremely busy for me with friends and family get-togethers at Easter and organising and celebrating my daughter, Rachel’s 40th birthday. If you read my #WeekendCoffeeShare #9 you would have seen the 5 layer Ice Cream cake I made – I was pretty proud of that! Throw in spending two days with my grandsons, a Strong Healthy Women business meeting, taking sessions as a trainer in the Strong Healthy Women Virtual Studio, recording interviews for the Podcast and Mirco Monday episodes, plus general life and you can see why it was difficult to find two minutes to spare.
Spending time with my family is definitely not a chore but a delight. My other activities over the last few weeks have also been enjoyable but definitely the balance of time has been tipped way too far to the ‘no time for me’ side.
So what am I doing to find my two minutes – or more?
- I’m revising where I am placing my energy! That was the subject of last week’s Micro Mondays Podcast episode which you can listen too HERE. Living in the Moment is the topic for this coming week’s Micro Mondays Podcast episode.
- I’ve looked at my diary and rescheduled, prioritized and even cancelled appointments to make some space in my life. Sometimes we feel obligated but guess what? Most people are reasonable and are happy to change times and reschedule – you just have to ask!
- My darling and I are looking at some holiday breaks to look forward to, now that COVID-19 restrictions have been eased.
- Making time for ‘unstructured time’ – no diary, no plans just taking the day as it comes – for me that is usually Sundays
- Most importantly, I’m making sure I get enough sleep, exercise and eating well to keep my body healthy and fit to help me enjoy my lifestyle.