A to Z Guide to Thriving in Life

‘B’ is for Beauty – the importance of inner beauty

April 2, 2018
Thriving through inner beauty


Thriving through inner beauty


Beauty – what does that really mean to you?  In this world where being Beautiful and Body Image have such a focus it is no wonder that many of us feel we aren’t good enough or need to change the our physical appearance.

I would have hoped that the Body Image attitude might have changed since I was a teenager starving myself to look like the models on the magazine covers and lathering baby oil to cook in the sun for a ‘must have’ tan.  ( I usually looked more like a lobster!).  There has been some change but alas more can be done to encourage living a healthy lifestyle with healthy food options and regular exercise rather than trying to look like someone else which is unattainable.

Accepting who we are on the outside is vital to thriving BUT more importantly it is the person who we are inside that matters most.

Thriving through Inner Beauty

Ever heard of the phrase ‘Green with Envy’?  Most of us would probably have felt this emotion at some time in our life.   Jealousy, anger, regret – all these negative thoughts take our inner beauty away.  Not only do we wither inside because of these feelings but these emotions also display an unhappy and ‘ugly’ person to the world.

We can be physically beautiful but without inner beauty we soon lose our attraction.

Ways to Discover Your Inner Beauty

Take the Focus off YOU

This doesn’t mean that you need to put yourself last.  I have written often about the importance of valuing yourself as a person and considering your needs and desires – sometimes before others.  However, taking the focus off yourself and understanding that sometimes the world does not revolve around us, opens our hearts and minds to the world.

Accepting Yourself

Loving & Respecting who you are is a major step to thriving in life.  Being comfortable in our own skin and respecting ourselves makes us strong and at peace within.  This strength and self-confidence not only makes us feel worthwhile but is attractive to others.

Being Joyful & expressing gratitude

Living with a ‘glass half-empty’ attitude will not only pull you down but also those around you.  Take time each day to be grateful for the blessings in your life.  Finding joy in simple things can warm the heart.  I remember when my grandson felt his first breath of breeze on his skin the wonder in his eyes brought joy to my heart.  Find something in each day to bring you some joy.

Bringing more Laughter to your day

Laughing is such a wonderful thing and ‘is the best medicine’ as the saying goes.  I love hearing someone with a hearty laugh, it can be infectious.  I know I don’t laugh as much as I would like to.  Laughter, like exercise produces endorphins which is a chemical released in our bodies that gives us the ‘good feelings’.  Studies reported in the Royal Society of B Biological Sciences, have shown that laughter can actually help with our threshold of pain –  Social laughter is correlated with an elevated pain threshold

Showing Kindness

Giving back and showing kindness to others is another way to display our inner beauty.  I regularly volunteer at my MIL’s aged care home and just spending a few moments with the residents means so much to them. You don’t need to do more than smile and say ‘hello’ but the warmth you feel because they respond to your kindness is so rewarding.





Thriving through inner beauty

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  • Reply Gail April 2, 2018 at 06:22

    Great start and worthy advice. I especially agree that looking outward enhances us inward. Lose yourself in service to others and you’ll find yourself!
    Gail Park
    Making Life an Art

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 2, 2018 at 08:20

      Hi Gail! Great to have you visit and leave a comment. I enjoyed your contribution about Astronomy and your daughter’s project.

  • Reply Natalie April 2, 2018 at 11:18

    Thanks, Sue, for sharing such great advice on ways to discover our inner beauty.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 2, 2018 at 15:14

      Many of us are so hard on ourselves Natalie because we feel our bodies don’t measure up. Yet, inner beauty shines through and that is the most important beauty of all. xx

  • Reply Christine Blundell April 2, 2018 at 12:11

    Hi Sue, this issue of Inner Beuaty is something I am very passionate about and is the message I convey to all the girls and Women’s groups I speak to, that we can wear the most beautiful clothes and hair, makeup etc but if in our heart we harbour ugly things we will never truly be beautiful and eventually it begins to show outwardly. True beauty begins within. Thank you for raising this issue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 2, 2018 at 15:13

      Hi Christine what a great job you do speaking to girls and Women’s groups about inner beauty. Yes it is lovely to get dressed up and wear makeup but what is the point if our heart is not beautiful. We certainly think alike!

  • Reply Namratha April 2, 2018 at 13:17

    Taking the focus off myself is one aadvice I think I can give myself as well as other people I know to help us thrive. Thanks for sharing.

    Bodylicious @NamySaysSo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 2, 2018 at 15:10

      Thanks Namratha! Loved your body-licious poem and post.

  • Reply Donna April 2, 2018 at 15:21

    Hi, Sue – I painstakingly blow dried my hair every day from when I was 11 – 50 (when hiking our first Camino my husband said how much better my hair looked with its natural curl). Recently, my eyes have been allergic to everything so I quit wearing makeup. My husband then said how radiant my skin suddenly looked. When will we ever learn to accept ourselves for who we are? Thank you for the great advice here — you are very wise!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 2, 2018 at 15:27

      Hi Donna I love your hair! I love getting dressed up and putting on makeup because it does make me feel better. However, I have also learned to be comfortable with my physical appearance and realise that it is the person we are that makes us beautiful. Although, sometimes when I look in the mirror I still think ‘oh dear’! that is probably every woman’s reaction LOL:)

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 2, 2018 at 16:39

    Every one of these is vital to true beauty Sue. I personally find it a little offputting seeing Midlife women posting Instagram filtered photos of themselves in full make-up and promoting that as something to aspire to. I’m also not sure that becoming a gym junkie is the way to inner beauty either – often it becomes an obsession as they try to fight the aging process. I’d rather see a natural woman celebrating who she is, and her stage of life with joy and grace – that is beauty to me.

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    B for Believe in Yourself

    • Reply Karen Hume April 2, 2018 at 21:26

      Amen to that, Leanne. Well said and I couldn’t agree more.

      I appreciate all of your points about inner beauty, Sue. I’m glad wisdom and time forces a reality check of adolescent angst. I only wish we could save today’s adolescents from going through the same thing. Christine, I’m glad you do this work.

      • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:43

        We both wrote about Beauty Karen but in different ways. I enjoyed your post about the beauty around us. I wish I had been more self-confident growing up but body image was so important back then. If you weren’t a model you weren’t beautiful I’m glad that I’ve changed my views and also agree Christine is doing a great job encouraging women to be beautiful on the inside.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:50

      I like to wear makeup and dress up Leanne but I don’t do it daily. You have also seen some of my videos on FB and photos where it is me ‘au naturale’ so you can see I’m not too concerned with my looks. I agree about gym junkies etc. We don’t need to go to extremes for anything. Just being active and keeping fit with regular exercise and eating well is all we need. x

  • Reply Debbie Harris April 2, 2018 at 16:59

    I agree with you Sue, there is so much to beauty that one size doesn’t fit all. I love that Khalil Gibran quoteand have pinned this so I have it handy. I need to often remind myself of some of these things 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:48

      We all need reminding Deb because we get caught up in life. Have a beautiful day my friend. xx

  • Reply Kalpanaa April 2, 2018 at 17:34

    Another wonderful post from you Sue! The thing you said about taking the focus off you where you make the point between caring for yourself but not believing the world revolves around you is for me the difference between being in a good place or a bad one. When stressed or upset the caring for oneself tips over into something else. So, great distinction. Can’t wait for Conquering Change. I think thats the one I really need to read.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:47

      Hi Kalpanaa I hope you are having a beautiful day. I’m pleased you picked up on the point about not believing the world revolves around us. We all do this from time to time but it is important to be reminded. x

  • Reply Liz Brownlee April 2, 2018 at 17:47

    So agree. Being happy and kind shows in every part of you! You will probably approve of the poem on my blog today, written and sent to me by American poet and author Jane Yolen. http://www.poetryroundabout.com (I’m doing ZtoA!!)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:46

      Thanks for stopping by Liz and I’ll be checking out your poem and post. Have a great day! xx

  • Reply Shirley Corder April 2, 2018 at 18:47

    Sue, I so agree with you. Inner beauty is so much more important than outer beauty, yet I think when you concentrate on developing that inner beauty, your outside shell becomes more beautiful too! Brains! Are we stuck with what we have?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:44

      Exactly Shirely. Inner beauty will always shine through. Have a great week!

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 2, 2018 at 20:18

    Sue I think that inner beauty makes s person much more beautiful than outer beauty. It shines through

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:44

      It certainly does Jennifer, I totally agree. xx

  • Reply Dyanne Dillon April 2, 2018 at 21:54

    Thanks to Photoshop, it’s even harder to look in the mirror and be satisfied by what you see. That goes for adults as well as teens. We’ve been so manipulated our entire lives about what a body should be that it’s difficult to let it go. I have a turkey neck. I hate it, but it isn’t going anywhere, and I can let it define me or I can just be me.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:41

      I hear you Dyanne and I wish I had felt more confident as a teenager and growing up. At 60 I’m finally okay with how I look – it is me. I keep active to be fit and healthy but I don’t photoshop – what you see is what you get. Have a great week! x

  • Reply Victoria April 2, 2018 at 23:31

    What great ideas Sue. I know I need more laughter in my life.we need to be more like children who laugh countless times a day.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:40

      We can certainly learn a lot from our children and grandchildren can’t we? My grandson laughs all the time and that brings so much joy to me. Have a beautiful week. xx

  • Reply Jess April 3, 2018 at 22:57

    Laughter is my favorite kind of beautiful!

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