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Tell Us About….Beauty

June 20, 2024

It’s time for this month’s Tell Us About…. a link up hosted by some lovely ladies (including me) from all over the world. You can see who they are at the end of the post and I encourage you to visit their blogs and check out what they have written for this month’s prompt.

We would love you to join in so at the end of the post you can find the link and also the prompts for the coming months. It would be great for you to link up with us and participate in the Tell Us About Link UpI’ve put some details below for when the link up opens and dates for the diary.

Each month one of the members selects a topic/prompt and this month it is Tell Us About……Beauty. This month’s prompt was suggested by the lovely Marsha from Marsha in the Middle.

Tell Us About…Beauty

Beauty is more than the human form, we are surrounded by beauty with nature – sunrises, sunsets, art, creativity. However, most people when they hear the word ‘beauty’ identify with their physical beauty.

Beauty – what does that really mean to you?  In this world where being Beautiful and Body Image have such a focus it is no wonder that many of us feel we aren’t good enough or feel the pressure or need to change our physical appearance.

I would have hoped that the Body Image attitude might have changed since I was a teenager starving myself to look like the models on the magazine covers and lathering baby oil to cook in the sun for a ‘must have’ tan.  ( I usually looked more like a lobster!).  There has been some change but alas not enough from a recent survey I read and more can be done to encourage living a healthy lifestyle with healthy food options and regular exercise rather than trying to look like someone else which is unattainable.

What the stats say

“Through a national survey The Butterfly Foundation invited Australians to share insights into the perceptions of their bodies and how this impacts on their day to day life.  Survey results show that we are placing immense pressure on ourselves to look a certain way and often make negative comparisons to others.”

Key findings from the survey include:

  • Over 40% of people are dissatisfied with their appearance.
  • An overwhelming 73% of people wished they could change the way they look.
  • 66.6% of people remember being bullied or teased for their appearance at some stage in their life.
  • 41.5% of people most of the time or always compare themselves to others on social media
  • 53.6% of people rarely or never speak positively about their appearance.

Of course, I like to dress well and wear makeup and style my hair. I also make taking care of my body inside and out by exercising daily and eating well a priority and having a regular skin care routine. Not only is it good for my health but it makes me feel good and boosts my self-confidence.

On the other side of 65 and getting closer to 70, it is easy for me to look in the mirror and see the lines and wrinkles. The sagging skin, the signs of aging. BUT I counter this by being grateful for being healthy and fit, and recently completed a 36km run/walk to prove it.

I’m much happier with who I am at almost 67, than when I was 18 and I’m living a life that appreciates beauty in all forms.

Accepting who we are on the outside is vital to thriving BUT more importantly it is the person who we are inside that matters most.

Thriving through Inner Beauty

Ever heard of the phrase ‘Green with Envy’?  Most of us would probably have felt this emotion at some time in our life.   Jealousy, anger, regret – all these negative thoughts take our inner beauty away.  Not only do we wither inside because of these feelings but these emotions also display an unhappy and ‘ugly’ person to the world.

We can be physically beautiful but without inner beauty we soon lose our attraction and shine.

Ways to Discover Your Inner Beauty

Take the Focus off YOU

This doesn’t mean that you need to put yourself last.  I have written often about the importance of valuing yourself as a person and considering your needs and desires – sometimes before others.  However, taking the focus off yourself and understanding that sometimes the world does not revolve around us, opens our hearts and minds to the world.

Accepting Yourself

Loving & Respecting who you are is a major step to thriving in life.  Being comfortable in our own skin and respecting ourselves makes us strong and at peace within.  This strength and self-confidence not only makes us feel worthwhile but is attractive to others.

Being Joyful & expressing gratitude

Living with a ‘glass half-empty’ attitude will not only pull you down but also those around you.  Take time each day to be grateful for the blessings in your life.  Finding joy in simple things can warm the heart.  I remember when my grandson felt his first breath of breeze on his skin the wonder in his eyes brought joy to my heart.  Find something in each day to bring you some joy.

Make time to enjoy the beauty around you

Stop and enjoy the sunset or the sunrise or the gorgeous Spring blooms. The clouds floating across the sky, the clear crisp blueness of a winter’s sky. Learn to appreciate the beauty of creativity and art, use those precious items like tea sets and enjoy them rather than hiding away and never using them.

Bringing more Laughter to your day

Laughing is such a wonderful thing and ‘is the best medicine’ as the saying goes.  I love hearing someone with a hearty laugh, it can be infectious.  I know I don’t laugh as much as I would like to.  Laughter, like exercise produces endorphins which is a chemical released in our bodies that gives us the ‘good feelings’.  Studies reported in the Royal Society of B Biological Sciences, have shown that laughter can actually help with our threshold of pain –  Social laughter is correlated with an elevated pain threshold

Showing Kindness

Giving back and showing kindness to others is another way to display our inner beauty.  I regularly volunteer at my MIL’s aged care home and just spending a few moments with the residents means so much to them. You don’t need to do more than smile and say ‘hello’ but the warmth you feel because they respond to your kindness is so rewarding.

What does Beauty mean to you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Sue Loncaric
Thriving through Inner beauty

Future Prompts and Dates for the Diary

July 17/18 – Blogging
August 14/15 – Holidays/Vacations
September 18/19 – Favourite Things
October 16/17 – Schooldays
November 20/21 – Confidence
December 18/19 – My Year in Review

Tell Us About Link Up


What: Tell Us About Link Party
When: Third Wednesday PM (US)/ Third Thursday 0:05AM (UK) and Third Thursday 9:05am (AEST)
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Who: This linkup is open to everyone BUT YOU MUST WRITE ABOUT THE PROMPT.
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Tell Us About….Contributors


Gail from Is This Mutton Gail from Is This Mutton looks at the concept of beauty over the ages and how women still suffer to conform to society’s expectations.  Find her post at  https://www.isthismutton.com 

Deb from Deb’s World (Australia) – Debbie has asked some special women in her life for their thoughts on beauty, which may be cheating in some ways but…their words are all heartbreakingly beautiful and make for inspiring reading! Find Deb’s post at www.debs-world.com  

Suzy from Suzy Turner  (Brit living in Portugal) – In this month’s edition of Tell Us About…Beauty, Suzy delves into the journey of self-love and embracing authentic beauty, wrinkles and all. Find her over at www.suzyturner.com

Marsha, from Marsha In the Middle  – While Marsha proposed the theme of beauty, she’s not talking beauty in the fashion world.  Instead, she’s writing about the beauty we can see all around us. Find her post at https://marshainthemiddle.com/ .

Mary Katherine from MK’s Adventures in Style – Mary Katherine reflects on the importance our society places on “beauty” for women, and how she wrestles in her own life to balance having gravitas and glitter at the same time...  Find her post at https://mksadventure.com

Penny from Frugal Fashion Shopper – Penny looked at beauty from all angles (because there are so many aspects of this idea of beauty)  and decided to write mainly about the history of eyebrows! !Find her post at https://frugalfashionshopper.co.uk/

Australian blogger Jill from Grownup Glamour – Jill looks at the many forms of beauty. Find her post at https://grown-upglamour.com

Leslie from Once Upon a Time, Happily Ever After – Leslie shares some of the things that make her world a more beautiful place.  Find her post at https://onceuponatimehappilyeverafter.com

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  • Reply marsha57 June 20, 2024 at 13:34

    Sue, you are so insightful. I love your tips for finding your inner beauty. My husband and I used to practice three gratitudes. We would end our day by telling each other three things for which we were grateful that day. I have to admit he “cheated” most days and just repeated what he’d said the day before. We really need to get back to that because it was such a nice way to end the day.

    https://marshainthemiddle.com/

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 21, 2024 at 08:49

      Oh thank you, Marsha for your kind words. The idea of three gratitudes at the end of the day and sharing with your husband is lovely. I understand life gets in the way sometimes but if we can remember more often than not to give thanks, I think that’s important. x

  • Reply Gail Is This Mutton June 20, 2024 at 17:59

    A beautiful piece of writing Sue. I love how you included statistics, although it’s sad that so many of us are still dissatisfied with our appearance. If anything it seems to have got worse because social media has made girls more conscious of what they look like, from a younger age. I hear of girls as young as 7 commenting on the need to lose weight. Yet many girls are so academically gifted, they shouldn’t be under this pressure to conform to a certain look.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 21, 2024 at 08:52

      Thank you, Gail! I despair that, in particular, younger women and men still struggle with body image and trying to permanently change their appearance with cosmetic surgery. They just don’t realise that inner beauty does shine through and we should celebrate our unique qualities rather than trying to look like everyone else. You are so right about the academically gifted girls. I remember in high school during our final exams one of our brightest students developed an eating disorder and couldn’t sit the exams. It was a tragedy. x

  • Reply Toni Pike June 20, 2024 at 19:24

    Beautiful, Sue – there’s a lot to think here, I definitely want to try your ideas x

  • Reply suzyturner June 20, 2024 at 20:34

    Such a beautiful post, Sue! And I love the advice you’ve given, especially the importance of taking the time to see beauty all around us and laughter…there’s nothing better than having a good laugh with close ones, is there?
    Big hugs
    Suzy xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 21, 2024 at 08:53

      Thank you, Suzy and I’m glad you enjoyed my post. I’m enjoying reading everyone’s interpretation of the prompt. Someone laughing or smiling with pure joy – well you can’t get more beautiful than that! x

  • Reply Penny June 21, 2024 at 20:20

    So many positive ideas here on accepting ourselves as we are and rejoicing in the beauty that is all around us. It was a great theme and I love your take on the subject. Food for thought for all of us. Thank you Sue – lovely post

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 23, 2024 at 07:31

      Thank you, Penny. I really enjoyed reading everyone’s take on the prompt. All the posts delved deeper than our superficial beauty. x

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee June 22, 2024 at 07:50

    I too was surprised how people jumped to the negative when I asked people to say what the thought of when I said beauty. It’s strange how something so wonderful got so twisted up for us (isn’t that the human condition??) I love your Inner Beauty tips. Nice post! #TellUsabout

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 23, 2024 at 07:35

      HI Lydia, it is a shame the way society views (and probably has always viewed) beauty. We all have so much beauty inside as well as surrounding us. x

  • Reply grownupglamour1 June 22, 2024 at 14:07

    I thoroughly enjoyed your beauty post Sue. The survey results were interesting but rather sad too . I do think maturity plays a large part in self acceptance . I too find it so worrying that so many young girls (and boys) have such unrealistic body image , yes social media has a lot to answer there.
    There is so much more to beauty isn’t there.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 23, 2024 at 07:37

      Hi Jill, I agree that with maturity comes acceptance but it certainly is a worry that body image issues haven’t changed and with social media thrown in, I believe it is a huge issue more than ever. x

  • Reply Debbie June 23, 2024 at 18:04

    You always have such great ideas and inspiring messages in your posts Sue and this is no exception. It’s a fabulous way to approach beauty and I agree it’s sad that the stats prove we’re still not happy with our bodies. Everyone has beauty in them and we need to shine our lights. You do this beautifully each and every day! Great post xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 24, 2024 at 09:43

      Thanks, Deb, I wasn’t sure about this post but it has received very positive comments. It is so sad that ‘body image’ and ‘physical beauty’ are still ranked higher on the social scale than how we are as individuals and how we live our lives. x

  • Reply OnceUponaTimeHappilyEverAfter.com June 26, 2024 at 11:44

    Lovely post. The ways you suggest we put beauty into our lives are such wise suggestions. I particularly like being kind and looking for beauty in the natural world. Being thankful and gracious are such grand examples of inner beauty. When life is especially tough, it is hard for me to find things to be thankful for even though I have so very many. I just tend to focus on whatever it is that has my world upside down.
    Had no idea you were still popping in at your MIL’s care facility. What a treasure you are to all of those who live there. I remember the many smiles you gave your MIL. She adored you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 28, 2024 at 05:46

      Hi Leslie, I hear you about when life gets tough it isn’t easy to find things to be thankful for. My philosophy is to just go with the feelings. Life will get better again but ignoring how we feel is not healthy. Take care my friend and hope PC is doing okay. x

  • Reply KymPossible June 26, 2024 at 21:39

    Wonderful post and I love all your tips for appreciating beauty and developing inner beauty. The statistics were very sad though. With all the potential for positive outcomes that social media has, it certainly has exacerbated the pressure so many of us put on ourselves to look a certain way and all those negative comparisons.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 28, 2024 at 05:40

      Thank you, Kym. Sometimes I need to remind myself when I look in the mirror and see my 67 year old body. I’m just sad that body image and beauty have had such a negative impact in the past and today on social media. It adds a lot of unnecessary pressure, that’s for sure. x

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