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Time to throw out the fashion rules – Thrive being You

February 22, 2018

Thrive being You


My next guest in the Over 50 & Thriving Series is Jodie from Jodie’s Touch of Style.  Jodie has such a zest and enthusiasm for life that it is infectious!  In this post, Jodie who is a fashionista explains why you should throw out the fashion rules and Thrive being YOU!  I’ve written before about how each of us are unique and beautiful and Jodie really nails this point in her post. I would love you to meet Jodie by visiting her website and connect with her on social media through her links at the end of the post.

Thrive Being You

The word “Thrive” brings up all kinds of fascinating images for an older woman like myself. Since my blog revolves around the fashion and beauty world, my focus tends to be about these subjects.
So I’ll let you in on a secret. Those fashion rules that you grew up with? It’s time to throw them out and show the world that your outsides match your insides.

Thrive Being You

What in the heck do I mean by this?

Well let’s look at the idea of fashion rules. You know, those articles that said what women should and shouldn’t wear. Just that idea that we should all be dressing alike is quite old fashioned in itself. Do you really want to look like everyone else? Doesn’t that remind you of the Stepford Wives?

One of the things I have learned in my 50+ years, is that each person I meet is so unique and wonderful. Really! Everyone including yourself has an unparalleled story that is exciting, fun and sometimes sad. You have these amazing personality traits whether that be a creative force or a structured manner.

Yet even in saying this, our personalities are not just one dimensional. Sure you could say that I’m quirky, but there’s also a responsible side to me along with a fierce and protective trait.

And how does one show these traits in our clothing?

It may seem like a daunting and strange task. But let me tell you one fact of humans. We are visual animals. And as much as you may not like that fact, it’s 100% true. If you don’t believe me, then prove it to yourself. Go to a crowded place and watch the people around you. Each person you see, you will catalog and judge. It’s human nature.

So when you get dressed every day, you are announcing something to the people who see you. What do you want that announcement to be? Because if your clothes don’t fit well, and are baggy and too big, most people will think you are sloppy. And if you are in all beige, you might be considered boring.

Now there’s another extreme too. There are those people we see that have on every color of the rainbow and five different prints. And what do you think of them? Crazy or over the top?

THE POINT IS—-there is no right and wrong anymore!

Thrive being you

You should dress how you want. Enjoy yourself. See what makes you happy when you put it on. Remember you are declaring to the world many features with your clothing and style. And most of us want others to see our good sides, and admirable attributes.

And in that same light, I hope you will realize that each of us is not the same. So when you see those women wearing items that you would never wear, I hope that you can congratulate them for being unique instead of tearing them down.

I hope I’ve inspired you to thrive in your fashion style and clothing choices. And trust me when I say it’s a process. Just like you as a person has evolved over the years, I hope that your style can do the same.

The best thing you can do in my opinion is to experiment and try new things. Whether that’s a new color combination, new fashion trend (even the ones you already worn when you were younger) or mixing prints, this can showcase a thriving personality!

P.S. I will confess that I have a sloppy side. If you’ve ever seen my desk, then you’ll know what I mean. But rarely do I want someone to look at me and what I’m wearing and have that word come up in their
head. In fact, I talked about some of these issues on Sue’s blog in the past (https://www.womenlivingwellafter50.com.au/how-clothing-impacts-how-you-feel/)

Meet Jodie

How Clothing Impacts How You Feel

I am Jodie, the voice behind Jodie’s Touch of Style, where I am out to prove that style is ageless. My blog is a variety of women’s fashion which includes my mother (the 70+ model), my step mom (the 60+ model) and myself (the 50+ model). My husband is a model on my blog occasionally too, to show that looking great isn’t relegated to women only.

Connect with Jodie

Website: www.jtouchofstyle.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jtouchofstyle-1516910708554919/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/jtouchofstyle/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jtouchofstyle/
You-Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMKq8Qzz_5xEn-DSHl9wk2Q


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  • Reply Christie Hawkes February 22, 2018 at 02:18

    I love this–considering fashion as part of thriving. Of course it is; I just hadn’t thought of it that way. I want to get more creative with my fashion, but I just don’t know where to start. I see looks on others that I like, but struggle to translate them into something that fits my body shape and personality. Please don’t think I look terrible–just not the fashionista I believe I was born to be. I’m inspired by your post to work on it though.

    Also, I just have to say, every time I see your profile pic, I smile. You look so happy and energized. Love it!

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 22, 2018 at 07:36

      Thanks for those kind words, Christie!!
      It’s not easy to change. As much as I talk about it, I’m the same way. I gravitate to what I know and like. But some of the best ideas and items have come from other’s suggestions. Like when you go to a store and the associate suggests something. I used to hate that. But now, I’m more open and try a lot of the items that I would never have in the past!
      I think it’s also helpful to go with a friend. As much as I’ve read that that’s a no-no—your friends see you from a whole different perspective, and aren’t afraid to tell you the truth (at least “real friends”)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 22, 2018 at 08:28

      Hi Christie, I have a stylist coming up on the blog over the next week or so, perhaps you can get some inspiration from her. Jodie is a pocket rocket isn’t she and I love her take on fashion and also the special relationship with her Mum and Step Mum xx

  • Reply Linda Barnby | Hello Sweet Life February 22, 2018 at 05:19

    I love fashion but, as a lawyer, have felt limited in what creative messages I might be putting out into the world! Now that I am inches from retirement, I am feeling freer to be more expressive. I agree that expressing yourself through your clothing is an element of thriving. I truly enjoy seeing others dress in ways that demonstrate their personalities. I am working toward that for myself!

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 22, 2018 at 07:39

      Our professions absolutely shape us…there’s no doubt about that. I can honestly say that most of this creativity has only emerged since I retired as a dentist. Although there were days, I would wear bright tops under my blazers, and modern shoes.
      And I still love those professional pieces because they hold great memories. But now I try to pair my blazers with graphic tees and jeans!!
      Thanks for joining in, Linda!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 22, 2018 at 08:28

      Hi Linda! I went from corporate black and grey to colour when I left work. It really lifts the spirits and brings out our personality that is for sure. x

  • Reply Jan Wild February 22, 2018 at 11:38

    This is such an important post and an issue close to my heart. I loathe the rules about what we should/n’t wear or have in our wardrobes. They are typically written by younger women which really pushes my buttons. Know what suits you and makes you feel great and wear that. Thanks Jodie and Sue

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 25, 2018 at 02:51

      You’re absolutely right Jan!! It’s just so silly in this day and age!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:51

      I’m with you Jan and I also get peeved when they promote skin care products for older women using models of 16 years old! (or they look 16 LOL:)

  • Reply Natalie February 23, 2018 at 03:23

    I agree with you, Jodie, that we should dress how we want and try new things. It’s part of enjoying life and having fun. Like Christie, I like your smile in your profile pic and other photos on your blog. Thank you and Sue for a great post!

  • Reply Elise Ho February 23, 2018 at 12:58

    That is so true that fashion rules seem to be non-existent these days. I have not decided if that is good or bad though.

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 25, 2018 at 02:53

      I can see both sides, Elise!
      But it does stop most of us from worrying about if we are doing it wrong. And it’s never totally wrong to still follow some if you like them. But if they are holding you back from having fun with your clothes and style…then that’s a different story!!

      • Reply Elise Ho February 25, 2018 at 05:43

        I can see both sides too. I will also say that living in California the rules are even more blurred than from when I lived in New York.

  • Reply Debbie Harris February 23, 2018 at 14:03

    Another great post in your series Sue. I love Jodie’s infectious enthusiasm and her blog is always interesting! I agree there are no rules anymore and as I age I become more confident in wearing certain things and lots of bright colours are my favourite. When I worked in a male correctional facility I found it very depressing (but necessary) to have to wear more muted and professional clothing – but not anymore! Lovely to have Jodie feature here as we all thrive into the future.

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 25, 2018 at 02:54

      Thanks Debbie!!
      It is amazing how the change in our clothing can affect our mood, isn’t it??

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 25, 2018 at 13:47

      Thanks Deb, I agree that Jodie is always so enthusiastic about everything and her smile is infectious! I’m into more colour now that I have retired away from the corporate grey and black! Glad you liked the post x

  • Reply Michele February 23, 2018 at 14:42

    I love this attitude. I used to worry about wearing what was appropriate, but now I am trying to find the style that makes me happy. I like exploring but dislike spending money to try things that might turn out to not be “me” or make me feel good.

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 25, 2018 at 02:55

      I totally understand when it turns out to be a waste of money, Michele.
      That’s one of the reasons I love thrifting, and swapping with friends.
      Another option is to visit the young/trendz stores where the clothing isn’t as expensive–then at least you haven’t spent as much money….

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au February 23, 2018 at 15:55

    Great post Jodie – and that pic of you and your two mums in those glasses makes me smile every time I see it! You are so right in what you say about clothes and using them to project our own uniqueness to the world. Now I just need to get brave enough to venture out of my comfort zone 🙂

    • Reply jodie filogomo February 25, 2018 at 02:58

      Like my husband always says, it’s like eating an elephant….take one bit at a time…ha ha!
      But I know I started with small things first, like mixing prints in black & white. After feeling good about that, then I experimented in other ways.
      I’m sure some people look at what I wear and wonder on some days, but then again, I’m not trying to just blend in anymore.

  • Reply Donna February 26, 2018 at 09:11

    Hi, Jodie and Sue – Thank you for a very thought-provoking and inspiring post. As others have also mentioned in the comments, I too once dressed a certain way due to my position at work (I believe that this is a common thread for many of us). Now that I am retired, I absolutely love the freedom to wear what I want, when I want. Thank you to adding more awareness, possibilities and inspiration to my clothing choices!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 26, 2018 at 09:20

      Hi Donna, I’m wearing much more colour now that I am retired although I would love an update to my wardrobe. I have interviewed an image stylist who I will be featuring in the coming weeks to give me some tips!

  • Reply Michele Morin February 26, 2018 at 09:39

    Yes, you have inspired me, but then, Jodie, you always do!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 26, 2018 at 10:12

      Jodie certainly inspires with her beautiful nature and personality, Michele. Have a great week! xx

  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid February 26, 2018 at 23:19

    Those do and don’t wear articles for women of a certain age are CRAZY! For me, I will NEVER stop wearing my jeans. My MIL is in her 80s and she still rocks her jeans ♥

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 27, 2018 at 05:52

      I think it is wonderful that we aren’t following the do’s and don’ts but rather wearing what we feel good in. Your MIL sounds like she is Sizzling! x

  • Reply Nancy Nagy February 27, 2018 at 05:12

    Jodie has certainly stepped up my fashion game! I had to buy a house with a bigger closet to fit all my shoes, etc!! Ha Ha. Seriously, I have picked up on some of the styles that Jodie has presented and some not so much. But that is the idea. You do what makes you feel good. I so enjoy looking good!! What I look good in may be different than what Jodie or Charlotte looks good in! It has been great fun!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 27, 2018 at 05:51

      Hello Nancy thanks for visiting and commenting. I agree it is good for our health and well being to look good and also what works for one might not look great on someone else. It is always good to get ideas. I have interviewed and image stylist and will be publishing the interview and her tips in the next couple of weeks. That really helped me work out the look that I was hoping for. Have a fabulous day and thanks for stopping by x

  • Reply amy February 28, 2018 at 02:02

    Awesome post! I agree with every word. The only problem is for every post like this I find another post with all the “rules” of how older women should dress. Some people just aren’t getting the message that we don’t want to be told what to wear!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 28, 2018 at 15:21

      Maybe we need to start a movement Amy? Thanks for dropping by and I hope you have a beautiful week. x

  • Reply Leslie Clingan March 2, 2018 at 15:15

    I just love Jodie and her mamas. They are such live wires, so much fun and have such individual and collective fashion sense. Thrilled to see her pairing OTK boots with a skirt. I am hoping that my ortho shoe will be off on Monday and I can finally wear my OTK boots. Which, coincidentally, look a lot like Jodie’s. I wondered what the rules were about wearing them with skirts. Now I know. There are none!!

    Thank you, Sue and Jodie, Nancy and Charlotte, for a great post and for being my blogger buds.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 5, 2018 at 13:06

      Yes they are a fun trio aren’t they Leslie! You will certainly be putting your dancing shoes on when you ortho shoe comes off!

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