It’s Valentine’s Day and it’s time you start falling in love with yourself to live life your way. That’s the topic for the next episode of Micro Mondays on the Women Living Well After 50 Podcast.
In this episode I discuss:
- Self love and why we need to be our own cheerleader
- Learning to fall in love with ourselves again
- Living Life Your Way
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Why do most women feel that we are never good enough? If we can’t like and love ourselves how can we reach our full potential and be the best we can be?
Learning to love yourself will make you a better person for not only you but your family and friends. As the words of the famous Whitney Houston song goes ‘learning to love yourself, is the greatest gift of all’.
I have met some beautiful and capable women who just can’t see themselves as others do. We fall into the comparison trap or we experience the ‘imposter syndrome’.
Here are 6 ways to can start learning to love yourself
1. Find a mantra
Think of a positive affirmation that you can repeat to yourself everyday. Building a base of confidence means we have to keep repeating to ourselves what others like about us. If we keep thinking about these positive messages we will slowly start to believe them.
What is one positive thing someone has told you recently? Use that to start building your confidence base.
2. Have ‘Me’ time
For many of us we have led hectic lives. We just aren’t defined by one thing but sometimes several – wife/partner, mother, work colleague, student.
We are now at a stage in our lives when we can take a step back and increase our ‘Me time’. Sometimes we need to be selfish and put ourselves first. That doesn’t mean we don’t love our partner or children it means that we are starting to love ourselves and realise our true worth.
Read my post Why We Need To be Selfish – Sometimes which explains why putting ourselves first sometimes is not a bad thing and makes us better people.
3. Write down 10 positive things about yourself
Think about yourself as a different person and objectively write 10 positive things about yourself. What do you like about you? What do others say that is positive about you? If you step away from the ‘self-critic’ for a moment and really look at who you are you will see the positives. It could be a gentle soul, you may have beautiful eyes.
Beauty isn’t just physical it is born from the self-confidence within. How many times have you seen someone walk into a room and just have a presence. They may not be particularly beautiful in the physical sense, but their self-confidence shines through.
4. List what you love about your life
I recently took a writing challenge to list ‘Reflect on 99 Things I Love’ when I started I wasn’t sure I could list that many but by the time I had finished I realised I could have kept going.
The lesson I learned from this challenge was that there is so much to be grateful for in my life and so much to be appreciate that having self-doubt is a waste of energy.
5. Accept the things you cannot change
Okay so you aren’t a supermodel and never will be. You aren’t going to be the first female president of the USA – so what.
There will always be parts of ourselves that we don’t like and we have two options. We can do something about it to CHANGE what we don’t like or we have to ACCEPT it and make peace with our inner voice.
6. Go and do it!
Is there something you have always wanted to do but were afraid to try? Go and do it! Sure, you have the fear that you might fail but the feeling of ‘what if’ is so much worse.
Ask yourself two questions:
‘What is the worst that can happen?’ or ‘What will you achieve if you do try?’
It is time to start believing in ourselves and start living a positive and happy life loving who we are without the shackles of self-criticism and self-doubt.
You can do it and how much better will you feel when you do?
Be the type of person you would like to meet
Take a read of 99 Things I love and maybe come up with your own list.