Micro Mondays Over 50s Lifestyle

The Power of Silence & Sitting on your hands

August 2, 2021

Are you always the first to Volunteer?  
Your Hand is up, ‘Yes I will do it!’
Are you Taking on more but enjoying it less?  
What would happen if you sat on your hands, if you let others step up to the plate?

In this week’s episode of Micro Mondays.  I discuss

  • Knowing when you hold, when to fold and when to walk away
  • Change your automatic response
  • Negotiations it is usually the person who speaks first that loses

A Win/Win situation

It actually helps others if you aren’t so ready to take on the responsibility

  1. Gives them responsibility
  2. They start to appreciate you –
  3. They find that volunteering can be rewarding
  4. They experience ‘team work’ and working together

The Benefit to you:

  1. Less pressure
  2. Appreciation
  3. More enjoyment less resentment

Remembering to pause and take a breath before we react, can shift the energy of the outcome.



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  • Reply Toni Pike August 2, 2021 at 10:10

    That is wonderful advice, Sue – I think it’s so important to learn the skill of not being reactive to things, and your article really hits the mark. Toni x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 2, 2021 at 13:54

      Yes, I need to take my own advice I think, Toni xx

  • Reply Donna Connolly August 2, 2021 at 14:16

    Truly awesome advice (as usual).
    I never thought of the person speaking first usually losing a negotation. I believe that I may have guessed the oppositie but this truly does make sense!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2021 at 08:28

      I know you are like me, Donna and love doing for others but I think we are both learning that sometimes we just have to put the boundaries in place and sit firmly on our hands. xx

  • Reply suzanne vosbikian August 3, 2021 at 22:33

    Sue, I agree with your message and would add that we also need to be willing to accept the job that someone else does when we let go. We are often our own worst enemy (ego gets in the way) in terms of expectations and feel that no one else will do the job to our standards. A wise woman once told me that my YES might be blocking someone’s path. Your advice to ‘sit on your hands’ is spot on. When we do take on a role, I think it is important to be a mentor and not a solo artist.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2021 at 08:33

      Thanks so much Suzanne for your viewpoint. You make an important point which I had not even thought of – ‘willing to accept the job that someone else does when we let go’. Interesting too, that we might be blocking someone’s path by saying YES all the time. Thanks so much for sharing these words of wisdom with me. xx

  • Reply Debbie Harris August 4, 2021 at 06:56

    Thanks Sue, this was a great episode and I was nodding along throughout it!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2021 at 08:27

      Thanks Deb you are such a cheerleader for me. I sometimes have to really pressed down hard on my hands but I’m getting better at setting boundaries. x

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