Over 50s Lifestyle

The importance of taking TIME out, listening to your body & acceptance

March 10, 2023
Taking time out to rest

For those of you who are regular readers, you will know that I lead an active and full life. I like the feeling of having a purpose each day and making the most of my time doing things that I enjoy – time with family and friends, renovating our home, blogging, podcasting, book-clubbing, baking and taking sessions in the Strong Healthy Women Virtual Studio. I also make the time to do regular exercise to keep my body healthy and strong and to eat healthy (most of the time) and incorporate rest and relaxation days.

I recognised after a couple of years of retirement that my personality doesn’t lend itself to the idea of ‘slowing down’. That might be perfect for some but as we age I think it is important to do what is right for ourselves and not worry what others think or do. We are individuals with individual needs.

So, I’ve been going along quite well, enjoying life and my activities when last weekend I started to not feel 100%. By Monday I had lost my voice and after several RAT tests to determine it was NOT COVID, I had to accept I had a heavy cold and needed to rest up. By Wednesday I had developed a cough and was so disappointed as I wasn’t able to keep an appointment to meet my blogging friend, Debbie Harris from Deb’s World. Deb and I are great friends although she lives in another State so ‘IRL’ catch ups are rare. I had everything crossed but it wasn’t meant to be.

In the past I would have struggled and pushed through but these days I realise the importance of stopping when my body is giving me signals to stop and rest. I also realise that other people may love me but they don’t want my germs!

I cancelled two scheduled podcast interviews, had to postpone a video shoot for a brand I’m working with, missed my weekly catch up with my grandsons and didn’t run or exercise. This all felt very foreign to me and it was okay for the first few days when I really was ill but as I started to improve I had ‘itchy feet’. My darling, reminded me that if I went back to my ‘normal’ routine I would probably have a relapse. So with some frustration I accepted that rest was in order and hoisted the white flag.

I spent the time reading and I can highly recommend The Rivieria House by Natasha Lester and Firefly Lane by Kirstin Hannah. I will provide reviews in my monthly What’s On Your Bookshelf? post next week.

It has been a week and although my cough is still there it is getting better and I was able to take the SHW session this morning, albeit with a croaky voice.

The irony of it all is that my doctor phoned with my recent blood test results and told me I was in excellent health!

What did I learn?

  • Acceptance – acknowledging that I wasn’t well and my body needed rest
  • People are very understanding when you have to reschedule
  • I’m not letting anyone down if I have to reschedule and say ‘No’ (the old guilt trip is one I’ve been on many times)
  • My body talks to me and I need to listen
  • I was able to take timeout with no responsibilities or commitments and enjoy one of my passions – reading
  • I was able to do some travel planning for our holiday to Europe in November
  • People care – I’ve had several messages from friends checking in and one in particular from Denyse Whelan as I had missed her weekly link up and she was concerned. It is lovely to think that others miss you.
  • A huge weight is lifted when you give up to resting and let go of normal daily activities

My biggest learning was the reinforcement that whilst resting is great and much needed when you are well, life is there to be lived and a quiet life certainly isn’t for me.

I’m starting to feel better and hopefully will be able to join my daughter and my friend on Sunday for the International Women’s Day Run. If I’m not, then there is always next year.

Do you listen to your body or do you try to push through because you feel you are letting down others?

Sue Loncaric

Women Living Well After 50

Living Life Your Way

12 Comments

  • Reply Erica/Erika March 10, 2023 at 10:31

    Thank you for sharing, Sue. I am glad you are beginning to feel better. You remind me how we continue to get reminders and learn lessons along the way. And, yes, Sue, you are surrounded by many people who care about you. xx 💕 Erica

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 11, 2023 at 16:11

      Hi Erica, it took at least a week to start feeling human again but thank goodness I’m almost 100%. Thank you for your care, friendship and kindness. Sending love xx

  • Reply Debbie March 10, 2023 at 16:24

    Sue, it was a shame to miss catching up with you (again) but you made the right decision in not pushing yourself too quickly. It’s a great message to all of us, listen to our bodies and rest when we have to. I hope you are recovering now and we will catch up next time I’m up this way. Take care xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 11, 2023 at 16:12

      I was so disappointed Deb but on reflection I just couldn’t have lasted the distance. At least we had a couple of facetime calls so although not quite the same was still lovely anyway. x

  • Reply leannelc March 10, 2023 at 19:12

    Hi Sue – you must have been really unwell to cancel so many commitments. My mum thought she had covid in January, but ended up having a cold – but it was the worst cold she’d ever had – I was really worried about her. I wonder if the lack of exposure to the good old cold viruses over the last few years has meant that when we get hit, we get hit big time.
    Glad you took time to rest, and although I’m less busy than you are, I totally understand how boring it gets when most of your usual activities are taken away (my life last year with my hip). It’s so good to get the balance right and have busy and quieter times mixed together. Glad you’re feeling better and getting back into the swing of things again. x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 11, 2023 at 16:13

      Hi Leanne, like your Mum, this was one of the worst colds I’ve had. It lasted for well over a week, with a nasty cough. Fortunately, I am on the mend now and can get back into the land of the living. You make a good point about lack of exposure to cold viruses. I hadn’t though of that. Take care of yourself. x

  • Reply Toni Pike March 10, 2023 at 19:43

    Very good advice, Sue – my view is that we need to keep our own wellbeing as priority number one. Toni x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 11, 2023 at 16:13

      You make a good point, Toni. I’m on the mend now thank goodness. Take care xx

  • Reply Michelle March 11, 2023 at 01:12

    Before I retired, I used to push through because I didn’t want to let anyone down – especially at work. But I developed fibromyalgia about a year before my retirement, and it son taught me that if I didn’t listen and rest, it was going to get worse. I’m retirement, I now feel I have the option of listening to my body and usually do.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 11, 2023 at 16:15

      Hello Michelle, thank you for visiting and leaving a comment. I hope you are okay and the one thing about retirement our time is more flexible so we can take the time to recover properly. When I was working I would have taken maybe a day or two off and then gone straight back to work. Take care and thanks again for your thoughts. x

  • Reply Retirement Reflections March 11, 2023 at 04:16

    Hi, Sue – I know how difficult it is to lie still, and to cancel longed for appointments (I swear we share some of the same genes)! 😀 I am so glad that you listened to your body and to Mike. Sending positive vibes that you will be up and running (literally) very, very soon! <3

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 11, 2023 at 16:16

      I think we are very similar, Donna and it is difficult to completely stop because we aren’t used to it. I’m on the mend now thank goodness! x

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