Discover Yourself Micro Mondays

The #1 thing holding you back – Part 2

June 21, 2021

In the previous episode I discussed the #1 thing holding you back from moving forward in life – YOU!  If you missed it take a listen to discover  the first 5 behaviours that reveal we are self-sabotaging ourselves.

In this episode I discuss the final 5 behaviours that make up 10 signs of self-sabotaging behaviour. Behaviours that are holding you back from living well and enjoying your life.

  • Overindulgence
  • Initiating Conflicts
  • Out of Focus
  • Comparisons
  • Questioning your purpose

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  • Reply Natalie June 21, 2021 at 09:16

    Hi Sue, I enjoyed listening to your 2-part podcasts. Having a focus has worked very well for me in achieving my goals. #lifethisweek

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:32

      Hi Natalie, thanks for the feedback and yes focus is so important to achieving our goals. If we lose our focus we can lose our way. x

  • Reply Erica/Erika June 21, 2021 at 09:24

    “Out of focus” immediately stands out for me, Sue. I align my energy every morning focusing in on what is the most important part of my day. I agree with how conflict comes from a place of fear. I think you have heard the ‘sort of’ saying how all behaviour comes from fear or love. I don’t know whether I agree with the entirety of that sentence, yet it helps when communicating.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:33

      Hi Erica, the focus behaviour resonated with me also. I always learn something from you when you comment or write a blog post and today it is how you focus each morning on what is most important for the day. Thank you for your inspiration and have a lovely week. x

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee June 21, 2021 at 10:50

    Very interesting…I guess a lot of these get disguised as lack of motivation too….I need to think about this more. #Lifethisweek

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:34

      Thanks Lydia. I found these behaviours interesting especially the one about conflict. I hadn’t thought about that as a way of holding me back. I’d be interested to hear your thoughts

  • Reply Donna Connolly June 21, 2021 at 11:28

    Hi, Sue – Starting my day focussing on what is most important to me (and letting go which is not necessary, not important, and not fulfilling) is something I need to prioritize more fully (especially the latter part of that sentence). Thank you for this important reminder.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:35

      Hi Donna, such a great way to start our day but I know I’m guilty sometimes of just getting into my ‘commitments’ from 6am. I’m trying to work around this but at the moment the way isn’t clear. x

  • Reply Leanne | June 21, 2021 at 12:29

    Hi Sue – I think a lot of us get held back by self-doubt, I’m enjoying being in a place in life now where I don’t have any big goals that I’m wanting to chase – so I can relax a little and put the doubt etc on the back burner for a while.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:35

      Self doubt and comparison is something we waste too much time on don’t we Leanne.

  • Reply Debbie Harris June 21, 2021 at 15:22

    Thanks Sue, as always these are all great tips and I can relate to quite a few. Questioning your purpose is quite a biggy for me and as you say it can lead to procrastination. Initiating conflict is also an interesting one to consider. Your Micro Mondays are always of interest so many thanks for all your efforts.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:36

      Thanks Deb, I’m so grateful for your support and feedback re Micro Mondays. I wouldn’t have started it without that conversation we had about you starting a podcast so thank you! x

  • Reply Christina Henry June 21, 2021 at 17:13

    Hi Sue, this resonated with me again – it’s easy to compare yourself to others and lose confidence and momentum. Other people seem so much more successful. I would have given up a long time ago if there weren’t other reasons behind why I write my blog. Keeping that in mind is important to stay on track and think of the bigger picture. Thanks for a timely reminder. Regards, Christina

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:30

      Hi Christina, I think the whole list resonated with me, I’m still a WIP at almost 64 but the important thing is that I keep trying. Have a lovely day and well done with the podcast. You are an inspiration. xx

  • Reply Susanne June 21, 2021 at 23:58

    Thank you so much for doing these, Sue. All these points are so relevant to me and my life – I’ve come a long way with knowing what I want, working towards a goal and with the decision to believe in myself but I so easily sidetrack when thoughts start wander away towards comparison and self-doubt. Thanks for the reminder.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:29

      Hi Susanne, I’m so pleased you enjoy my Micro Mondays. It makes my day when I receive feedback from listeners or readers. If I can help one woman feel better about themselves and help them move forward then I feel satisfied. xx

  • Reply Joanne Tracey June 22, 2021 at 07:05

    My hand is up for 3 of these – overindulgence, focus, and questioning of purpose. Thanks for the reminder – and the inspo.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:28

      Hi Jo, you aren’t alone in those three and I know I have a couple of the others that I could improve on. Have a lovely week my friend. xx

  • Reply Jennifer Jones June 22, 2021 at 08:21

    Hi Sue this was really interesting to listen to with great tips. I think self doubt is a biggie. Also not being able to see that the end goal is possibility. As you know this is where micro goals can help. Have a great week #lifethisweek

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 22, 2021 at 11:27

      Hi Jen, yes self-doubt, I don’t think it ever really leaves us. We just learn to overcome it when we need to. Micro steps is always the way I approach my goals. Have a great week. xx

  • Reply Denyse Whelan June 23, 2021 at 18:55

    You are doing such a great job Sue with your work via the blog, podcast and your facebook group helping people to discover what they might like to change to bring them into a better balance.

    I am feeling that I am doing well at keeping things in as much ‘balance’ as I can within my limits. I know too, that “I” am the only one who can make that happen so I keep myself true, as much as possible , to my daily routine. That makes such a difference to me…and having the best husband for me who understands me so well!!

    Thank you for linking up for #LifeThisWeek. Next week, we reach the midway point of the link up with Optional Prompt: 26/51 Optimism. Mr W is back with this one! It’s always great to see your post and comments, I appreciate that very much. Denyse.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 25, 2021 at 09:58

      Thanks Denyse! I always appreciate feedback constructive or encouraging. I’m enjoying helping others and love my podcast. It is one of my favourite projects.

    I love hearing from you and your comments are important to me

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