Discover Yourself Fit & Fabulous 2017 Health & Wellness Over 50s Lifestyle

6 ways to take back control of your life

January 16, 2017
take back control of your life


Take control of your life quote

‘I am so busy’, ‘sorry, too busy’, ‘I never have time for myself’, ‘I feel guilty I don’t have enough time to spend with the children or grandchildren’

Can you relate to any of these statements?  I know I can and you know what?  We only have ourselves to blame.  Instead of taking control of our life we are letting life take control of us.

It’s time to take back control of your life

We all have the same amount of time each day, each week, each year.  So how come some people always seem to be able to fit everything in and others are chasing their tails and feeling like the mouse on the wheel, running like crazy?

My word for 2017 is ‘Simplify’ and that encompasses all areas of our life.  We can make our lives simpler and more enjoyable if we just take back control.

Know when to say YES and when to say NO

THIS IS NOT EASY!  I’ve written about Ways to get back on track when life gets in the way  and that includes realising that we can’t do everything, and we can’t be everything to everyone.  Superwoman doesn’t exist!

Ask for help

Don’t be too proud or hesitant to ask for help.  You will find that family and friends are only too willing to help out.  Sometimes we don’t offer to help others because we don’t want them to feel inadequate.  However, asking for help DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE INADEQUATE it means you are VALUING YOURSELF AND YOUR TIME.


It is so important to prioritise our time and VERY IMPORTANT to also prioritise time for ourselves.  Schedule in some time for you so you can nurture and be kind to you.  You will function better and be more productive if you give yourself some down time just for you to do what you enjoy.  Do it for YOU but also for your FAMILY.

Enjoy the little things

Make time each day to enjoy the little things.  Many little things can add up to a lot of ‘feel good’ moments.  Dr James Rouse advises to GO SLOW – “see the blessings much more readily under the influence of slow”


We never really achieve anything without commitment.  You need to commit to making positive changes in your life and taking back control.

Introduce Healthy Habits

Creating healthy habits for our mind, body and spirit helps us to cope with the stresses of life.  Daily exercise, such as a brisk walk, taking time to give thanks and reflect, making healthier food choices, all add up to a much healthier and happier YOU!


Let’s Keep Sizzling!




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  • Reply Maria Parenti-Baldey January 16, 2017 at 08:44

    My focus will be on exercise because I feel energetic and clear minded when I gym and yoga.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2017 at 09:16

      Oh that sounds perfect Maria. I’ve started to do yoga almost daily and feel so much better for it. Have a fabulous day!

  • Reply Leanne | crestingthehill January 16, 2017 at 11:54

    I love how simple these suggestions are Sue. The last thing we all need is to be overwhelmed with a list of huge things we should be achieving in our lives. Taking time to just be in the moment and to work out what is important to us and focusing on those things are what successful living is all about isn’t it?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2017 at 13:35

      That is what I’m all about this year Leanne – Simple! Have a wonderful week my friend. x

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville January 16, 2017 at 13:17

    “simplify” that is one great word! Anther fab read Sue xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2017 at 13:34

      It seems many are looking to simplfy their lives so I hope I can do that with mine. Thanks Mackenzie and have a beautiful day. x

  • Reply Jo Tracey January 16, 2017 at 17:33

    Some great tips here Sue. I’m practising saying the n word…. nnnnnnnooooooo.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2017 at 20:32

      It isn’t easy is it Jo but we just need to keep trying. Have a beautiful day. x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan Blogs January 16, 2017 at 17:40

    Sometimes we need to take a good hard look at ourselves and our thoughts/beliefs which are holding us back don’t we? Thank you for a helpful and most appreciated post. I am always glad to see your link up for #lifethisweek and thanks for doing so this week, 3/52. Denyse

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2017 at 20:34

      Hi Denyse thank you for your lovely words and I’m so pleased they were helpful. It isn’t easy to face up to things sometimes but once we do and accept we can change things life can become easier. Thanks so much for hosting the link up. Have a beautiful week. x

  • Reply Roxanne Jones January 17, 2017 at 07:33

    Prioritize–that’s a BIG one! If something is truly important, we will find the time to incorporate it into our lives. And it all comes back to us–we really are in control! Thanks for the reminder–and great pointers.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 17, 2017 at 20:05

      That’s it Roxanne! If it is important enough but sometimes we don’t realise how important it is. We also don’t realise that we have the power. Thanks so much for stopping by and have a great day!

  • Reply Teresa Branam Wilgus January 17, 2017 at 16:46

    Hello Sue!

    I am Teresa and first and foremost I have to say what an inspiring Website you have here! I actually came across your Blog on Twitter while “following” Kathleen Aherne. When I popped on, your Blog put a smile on my face! Very uplifting and I LOVE the attitude. I reached 51 in December and honestly, the year before I embraced 50 with open arms. Felt it is an exciting time in life! I will definitely return to see what inspirations you have next!!


    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 17, 2017 at 20:06

      Oh Teresa you have made my day with your encouraging words! Thank you so much and I’m so pleased I could put a smile on your face. You sound like you have certainly embraced this fabulous time of life. I will be 60 this year but I will still be Sizzling!!! Lovely to meet you and I hope to hear from you again. xx

  • Reply Grammy Dee January 17, 2017 at 21:02

    These are all good suggestions Sue. Being overwhelmed is what I felt with all those blog post emails coming in…so many I couldn’t read them all. Yes, I already told you about it but I’m using Bloglovin’ and I think I’m going to like it 🙂 Seems like the more advanced we get in this life with technology the less time we have to do everything. I think about my grandparents and great-grandparents and wonder what they would think about our lives today.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 08:49

      Yes I know what you mean Dee. I’ve been unsubcribing in an attempt to get my life back in control. It is overwhelming to open my email and have so many emails of which half I don’t even open. I’ve followed you on Bloglovin’ as well and I think that is a great way to keep up with the blogs we love.

  • Reply Kathy Marris January 17, 2017 at 22:02

    Sounds like good advice. Life does get crazy at times and we all need to slow down and enjoy the simple things in life. I’m making 2017 about taking better care of me. ?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 08:50

      Sounds like a plan Kathy! 2016 was out of control for me and I’m taking my own advice and making things simpler. I’m still going to be active and enjoy life but not stress about things like – who is reading my blog?, should I check social media? that sort of thing. Have a great day!

  • Reply candy January 18, 2017 at 00:35

    Commitment and follow through seems to be getting less and less important today. Nice to read your post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 08:50

      I know Candy it is so easy for everyone to give up instead of really staying the course. Thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful day. xx

  • Reply Clearissa Coward January 18, 2017 at 02:20

    What a great article. and just what I needed. I just found out this past weekend that I will be adding care for my mother to my list of life changing events. Right now I am simply digesting the news and breathing. Your article provided some much needed steps to help. Thanks for sharing. I popped over from #blogginggrandmothers.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 08:52

      Oh Clearissa I know where you are coming from and I hope your mother is okay. We have finally found an aged care facility for my 90 year old Mother-in-law. She will be much happier there surrounded by people and with lots of activities to fill her day. Take care and remember to take care of YOU!

  • Reply Michele January 19, 2017 at 01:28

    I have been feeling a little overwhelmed with all the things I have to do and caring for my father who has cancer. This is a good reminder to me to control what I can.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:11

      Oh I’m sorry to hear about your father and it is quite stressful being a carer. Just remember to make time to look after yourself and be kind to you. xx

  • Reply Deborah January 19, 2017 at 09:54

    This fits really well with my post today as you know Sue and it really resonates. I need to rethink what it is I think I SHOULD be doing and ask myself why. Some of these things have been on my list for so long I’ve forgotten why they’re there in the first place.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:09

      I agree Deb, I’ve written lists and wondered why I added items to it. I just want to take a step back and realise that life doesn’t have to be complicated. We make it that way. Have a wonderful weekend and thanks for stopping by. xx

  • Reply Darlene January 19, 2017 at 09:57

    My word is BALANCE. Stress and overwhelm are an indication that the various aspects of our life is out of balance. Financial balance ( get rid of debt) and work-life balance ( for the workaholics) are at the top of the list.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:08

      Hi Darlene, my word was BALANCE last year and unfortunately, I don’t think I succeeded very well. I love the two items at the top of your list because I think they go a long way to how stressed we are. Fixing them can really help in all areas of our life. xx

  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle January 19, 2017 at 13:57

    Great suggestions Sue. Ahhh yes it’s so important to get the right balance for ourselves in our lives. Having crashed and burned myself I know only too well. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:06

      Balance was my word for 2016 and I failed miserably Min. We impose so much pressure on ourselves but even writing the post made me more determined to be in control of how I live my life. Have a beautiful weekend and thanks for stopping by. xx

  • Reply Grammy Dee January 19, 2017 at 14:53

    All good tips and something we all need to do. Thank you for sharing this post at the Wednesday AIM Link Party. I shared it on my social media sites.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:05

      Thanks Dee!

  • Reply Janet aka Middle Aged Mama January 19, 2017 at 15:59

    *Sigh* I have been trying to teach the hubster the word “NO” for years … he lets himself get so stressed and pressured!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:04

      It is hard Janet! I’m still trying to work at it but it does take away the joy of life when we are running around doing things because we just couldn’t say NO. Have a lovely weekend and hopefully your hubster can destress!!!

  • Reply Nikki@Wonderfully Women January 19, 2017 at 17:21

    My word for this year is RELAX, as I struggle to take time for myself without feeling guilty.
    Here is to creating a new habit. xx N

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:03

      What a great word Nikki! I don’t think we incorporate RELAXATION enough in our lives that is why I chose Simplify for my word. Good for you and don’t feel guilty about making time for yourself. You will be happier and a better person for you and your loved ones. xx

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  • Reply Charlotte January 20, 2017 at 03:39

    I definitely need to work on taking control of my life at the moment, everything is so busy and I feel like I don’t have any time at all!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:02

      You are busy Charlotte and with the baby on the way you need to take care of YOU!!! xx

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit January 20, 2017 at 04:53

    Funnily enough I don’t have a problem with commitment.
    My problem is combining the whole “commit” thing with the “learn when to say yes and learn when to say no” thing. Because once I say “yes” I commit to the end even when it’s clearly not in my own best interests.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:02

      Me neither Leanne but as you say the pressure is on because when we say ‘YES’ we are committed to stay the course and sometimes we wish we hadn’t started LOL:) Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely day. xx

  • Reply Carol Cameleon January 20, 2017 at 07:18

    All of these things make so much sense to me. It’s all about taking control isn’t it? Then we can start to be positive! #LovinLifeLinky

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:01

      It certainly is Carol. Once we decide we are in control of what we do life seems so much easier. Have a beautiful day and enjoy your weekend. xx

  • Reply Lyndall @ SeizeThe Day Project January 20, 2017 at 08:00

    Thanks for the reminders Sue! I love your list. I really need to learn when to say NO more. I’ve started doing it recently and it’s very empowering, but more practice is definitely required. Sometimes it’s good to lighten the load!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:00

      Thanks Lyndall! I think saying ‘NO’ will be an ongoing project for me but I am getting better! Have a lovely weekend and thanks for stopping by. x

  • Reply Vanessa January 20, 2017 at 08:38

    Busy is a pet peeve of mine. I don’t want to be busy!! I’m sure bore my colleagues when we chat about the weekend and I say I’ve got nothing planned but oh well 🙂

    It really clicked with me how much I hated ‘busy’ when I had a conversation with someone a year or so about not needing a GPS because it’s more fun to get lost. They said they didn’t have time to get lost and I reaslied that pretty much, the only thing I need to be on time for are things like medical appointments! I don’t have masses of obligations, even work I don’t have strictly set hours (though habitually I do tend to work the same hours) so if I am 15 or 30mins earlier or later one day it makes no difference to anything.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 09:00

      Yes ‘I’m so busy’ is the buzz word these days Vanessa but really we can control how busy we are. Sometimes we are just filling in time because we feel we need to be busy. I used to be like that but I’ve changed my thinking and I’m feeling much happier these days. Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely weekend. x

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl January 20, 2017 at 11:54

    Thank you for these practical words of wisdom, Sue!

    Feeling ready for the week to come!

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2017 at 15:53

      Thank you and have a beautiful weekend!!!

  • Reply Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle January 20, 2017 at 22:08

    You are right, we all have 24 hours and we can control how busy we are. Learning not to be a man pleaser goes a long way to helping. Often that is easier said than done.

    Great encouragement, Sue

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 21, 2017 at 11:39

      The feeling to want to please everyone is quite strong but I’m learning to take a step back and say No occasionally for a simpler and happier life. Thanks for hosting Blogger’s Pitstop Kathleen and have a lovely weekend xx

  • Reply candy January 20, 2017 at 23:21

    Talk about life getting overwhelming at times. Always a solution and sometimes we just have to say no. Thanks for linking up with Blogging Grandmothers.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 21, 2017 at 11:35

      Saying No is not easy for me but I’m learning and it makes life so much easier Candy! Thanks for stopping by

  • Reply Clearissa Coward January 22, 2017 at 08:41

    Good suggestions. It gets difficult sometimes to prioritize but your suggestions are very helpful. I get overwhelmed sometimes but when I step back and breathe and reevaluate, it gets easier. Thank you and thank you for sharing with #blogginggrandmothers. I have shared and stumbled.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2017 at 13:50

      Yes it isn’t easy Clearissa and not always easy to step back for a moment either. As you say once you step back and breathe and reevaluate things become clearer. Have a great week.

  • Reply Grammy Dee January 23, 2017 at 02:25

    Thank you Sue for partying with us at Blogging Grandmothers Link Party. I shared your post on my social media sites.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2017 at 13:52

      Oh thanks so much for sharing Dee. See you next week! Don’t forget to link up at #OvertheMoon Link Party we would love to have you.

  • Reply Menaka Bharathi Blogger' s Stop Crew January 24, 2017 at 00:52

    Prioritizing works best to make sure you reach your goal. I loved your list and it actually is a doable list!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 24, 2017 at 19:52

      Hi Menaka! Yes no point having a list that we just can’t stick to. We are more likely to achieve our goal if as you say the list is ‘doable’. Thanks for stopping by to visit and have a lovely day.

  • Reply Sinziana Romanescu January 24, 2017 at 19:33

    Sound like a great to do list Sue! I am sure your 2017 will be a great one.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 24, 2017 at 19:55

      Thanks Sinziana and I hope you have a wonderful 2017!

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