I’m honoured to be part of a Women’s Circle of friends who meet weekly via a Zoom chat. We live in different states in Australia and a couple of our group live on the other side of the world. However, when we attend the meeting, distance is not relevant and I always come away from the meeting feeling uplifted and supported. Women are great at supporting each other and valuing friendships.
Each week, we chat about life but also have a guiding question to ponder and then discuss. Everyone takes a turn to pose a question and the recent question caused me to pause and reflect on 2020.
If you chose a word of the year, how has that manifested for you? If you didn’t have a WOTY were there any goals, resolutions or even vague ideas as to what you hoped this year would mean for you? how did that pan out?
WOTY means Word of the Year. Selecting a word to focus on each year has become a common practice for many. It is an alternative to New Year Resolutions which many of us struggle to continue with beyond the first few weeks of January.
I started selecting a WOTY back in 2016 and this question for the group, was a good opportunity to look back at words I had chosen over the last few years and whether I had actually lived the word with intention. On reflection most, if not all, are sill a work in progress but I am making progress!
- 2016 I wanted to find more BALANCE in my life.
- 2017 I wanted to SIMPLIFY.
- 2018 I wanted to THRIVE and in
- 2019 I chose two words – COMMIT AND EVOLVE.
When I first saw this question, I thought that I hadn’t chosen a word for 2020 and if I did, I couldn’t remember it.
If I couldn’t remember it, I certainly hadn’t lived daily life with this as my focus.
I looked through the archive posts on the blog and found that although I hadn’t chosen a word, I had chosen a statement – ‘Make it Happen’. I made this a challenge for myself and also the Women Living Well After 50 Facebook Group. Below is a couple of paragraphs I wrote about my Make It Happen focus and the challenge.
My goal for 2020 is to regain my mojo and help others achieve theirs. One habit or goal at a time.
The idea of the Make it Happen 2020 Challenge is to start by selecting just one thing you would like to change in your life OR one dream you want to make a reality and MAKE IT HAPPEN!
We all agree that 2020 has been a dreadful year. There were two major impacts on my life in 2020,.
The first was not being able to see my family during a six week lock down period and then heavily restricted visits to my mother-in-law in aged care. Secondly, the unexpected loss of my dear MIL, Luisa who passed away at the end of October which my husband and I are still coming to terms with.
So how did I go with ‘Making It Happen’?
Putting aside COVID-19, I was pleasantly surprised to see that I did Make things happen during 2020 despite the imposed restrictions. This certainly lifted my spirits as I feel that the year hasn’t been totally wasted.
- I achieved my Group Fitness Instructor Certification and gained a position in the Strong Healthy Women Virtual Studio taking group classes. I love working with the ladies, some of whom are in their late 70’s and 80’s to help them stay active and enjoy life.
- I started the Women Living Well After 50 Podcast and made 26 episodes – I’m disappointed that I’ve had to put this on hold for a time but will definitely be back with more guests in 2021. I love connecting with Women 50+ who are ‘Living Well’ and sharing their experiences. I’ve learned so much from each of my guests.
- I co-founded a Women’s Circle with 5 beautiful women who inspire, support and motivate me to be a better person.
- I completed a Yoga Coaching certification
- I completed my 3rd Full Marathon – 42.2kms at aged 63 with my Saturday Sisters. My first was at 55, my second at 61 and the time I ran this year was an hour faster than 2 years ago.
- I completed a Meditation and Mindfulness Certification
- I completed a Sun Salutations course
- I completed a certification in Training Seniors and am currently studying Training Women 50+ to add to my knowledge gained in the Group Fitness Instructor course.
- I conducted my first Wellness Retreat collaborating with Carol from Harmony & Healthy Yoga.
- I ran challenges in the Facebook Group to continue to inspire and motivtate women to live well. These included:
How did my focus for Make it Happen improve my ability to be a Woman Living Well?
The last six weeks have been the most difficult for me to cope with and I have to say I’ve been a little concerned about my coping skills and mental health. I’ve had some days where I’ve felt sadness, resentment, anger and despair which is certainly not my normal self.
Reflecting on the question and how I lived 2020 despite the sadness and loss, especially the last six weeks has helped me enormously. I feel positive mentally. I’ve proven to myself that I can push through in difficult times and that I have resilience and inner strength. I’m grateful to my lovely friend, Jo who posed the question.
I would encourage you to try this exercise to see what you did this year to overcome the COVID-19 restrictions to make things happen in your life. Even the smallest of achievements matter.