In this week’s Micro Mondays episode on the Women Living Well After 50 Podcast, I’m discussing the importance of finding happiness in the ‘Now’ not ‘When’. You can listen to the podcast episode which also includes a one minute meditation to reset and refocus for the week ahead.
‘I’ll be happy when…….’ you can fill in the blank but whatever you write, will it really make you happy?
The ‘Now’ for many of us over the last couple of years hasn’t been brilliant and I’m sure we have all looked to the future. A friend suggested that 2022 hasn’t really started much better than where we finished in 2021 and the COVID woes just seem to have continued to flow into the New Year.
I agree, it is difficult and I don’t see improvement with COVID anytime soon, so that doesn’t mean I can’t be happy now.so I’ve decided that I don’t want to wait for happiness, I don’t want to wait for life to get better, I want it to happen right now and that’s up to me. I want to find happiness in the ‘Now’ no matter that life might not be perfect. I’m mean, is life ever perfect?
A friend gifted me the ‘Manifesting Challenge’ with Gabby Bernstein. It is a 21 day challenge to help ‘clear the blocks from 2021 and step into the New Year with confidence and magnetic attracting power.’
In Day 5 of the challenge Gabby discusses the ‘“I’ll be happy when” syndrome’. We think that placing importance on something external will make us happy when we should make feeling good within ourselves a priority.
We all want to be happy don’t we? But, too often we focus on the future rather than on the here and now. Our happiness depends on ourselves and happiness is different for everyone. We are unique and happiness means different things to each of us.
Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside yourself to make you happy in the future.Earl Nightingale
My WOTY for 2022 is ‘BE’ and as I wrote in my post ‘Just Be’ – Living Life Your Way in 2022, it is a small word but can have a big impact. I am committed to being in the moment and appreciating the ‘Now’ not ‘When’. It can be so easy to miss out on the small, yet precious things because we are looking forward with anticipation or looking back with regret.
I’m a planner. I like to plan and have goals but in the past I’ve been guilty of looking to the future as I work towards my goal, looking at the end goal, the finish line, rather than appreciating the ‘journey along the way’. A little bit like going on a holiday and you’re clicking away taking lot of photos but you are actually missing out on the moment. You’re not standing there breathing in the atmosphere and taking a photo with my mind appreciating the view and experience.
3 reasons to find happiness in the ‘Now’ not ‘When’ – even when the ‘Now’ is not great
- Life is too short to wait and the future is unpredictable – make every moment count. Be in the present and appreciate the little things in life.
- Feeling happy and positive is good for our mental & physical health and well-being. When you laugh, smile and feel happiness we have a positive mindset.
- We develop a sense of gratitude for all that is precious in our life. By trying to be happy in the Now and appreciating what we have Now brings a sense of calm, peace and appreciation and gratitude.
Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.Mandy Hale
So don’t think about what your life should like. Don’t compare yourself to others and how they are finding happiness or how their life looks. Concentrate on what brings you happiness, no comparison but Living Life Your Way and finding what works for you.
Do not set aside your happiness. Do not wait to be happy in the future. The best time to be happy is always now.Roy T Bennett, The Light in the Heart
Smile, put some music on and dance, find happiness in nature. Do whatever makes you ‘feel’ happiness.
“Let us dance in the sun, wearing wild flowers in our hair…”Susan Polis Schutz