As you would have read, I’ve been taking a break from blogging whilst supporting my husband after the loss of my dear mother-in-law in late October. It has been a difficult time not only for our loss and adjusting to life without this delightful 94 year old, but also I’ve been struggling to regain my place in the world.
I’ve been questioning my path; do I continue blogging, podcasting, my Facebook group or not? After a loss it is normal to reassess life and how we are living it. My husband, for example is 73 and for at least 65 of those years has been responsible in some form or other for his Mum and Dad, who had come to Australia from Italy in 1952.
Now that we no longer have that responsibility, we are both looking at life, knowing that the sands are quickly draining through the hour glass of life and wondering how to spend this time to make the most of everyday.
I’ve realised that I do miss my blogging, the podcast and Facebook interaction, but I also have realised that I need to balance this with spending quality time with my husband as well as trying new things in 2021.
I also accept that I’m not in the right mindset yet, to step back into this world in the same capacity as I did before – but I feel a yearning deep inside which will probably bring me back sooner rather than later.
I’ve been using the last few weeks to step back, not follow any timetable and just taking life slowly. I know I must be slowly coming back as the ‘up and down’ feelings are becoming less, I feel more energised and because I’ve written a blog post!
I came across a regular weekly email from Peta Gillian at Strong Healthy Women that I had received some time ago. The topic was Nourishment. No, not nourishment derived from food but rather nourishment for all of our senses – touch, smell, taste, sight and sound.
Too often, we rush through each day without taking time to nourish our senses – to be present.
I’ve had this time during the last couple of weeks, so the email was a reminder to reconnect with myself and my senses. I’m sharing Peta’s thoughts as well as some of my own, with you and hope you will take some time to reconnect with yourself.
Nourishment for the Senses
Peta gave five suggestions:
- Seek out and nurture relationships that make you feel good and say goodbye to the ones that drain your energy.
- Remember, that your environment affects your mood and energy. So it’s time to ditch the home office, it’s time to kick off your shoes and run around outside and feel the sunshine on your back and breeze on your skin.
- We spend so much of our time alone at our computers or behind high walls and yet it’s so important for our spirits to make connections with others. So, join a club, meet up on line and make new connections!
- Sleep —there is just nothing quite like sleep to rejuvenate your body and restore your entire system to better functioning.
- Movement sparks your endorphins, which make you feel energised and excited and keeps the oxygen circulating through your system, so you can feel refreshed and alive.
I would also add:
- Create a morning ritual to start your day. One that works for you and not necessarily what others are saying we should do
- Self-care is self-respect so ensure that you make time for your needs – mentally, physically and spiritually
- Breathe – when you feel yourself tensing or becoming overwhelmed during the day taking some time to close your eyes, take some deep breaths and focus on your breathing to clear your mind and reduce tension.
- Create a space just for you in your home – a corner where you can relax read a book, meditate or journal. Be creative and make the space unique to you. Make it a space that you love being in and is also pleasing to the eye.
- Create an atmosphere to allow you to enjoy a special meal and savour the flavours. Be mindful of the taste of the food that you are eating, the aroma that you smell, the different herbs and spices that add flavour.
- Create a playlist of your favourite music and songs
- Keep your brain healthy by learning and delving into your creative side, you may surprise yourself.
These are some ideas for nourishing your senses. Can you add to the list?