Do you colour your hair or have you gone ‘au naturale’?
The stereotypical mature woman is no longer someone who looks like our grandmothers (no offense to our grandmothers). We are grandmothers ourselves, but are showing the world that we are certainly still vibrant, wise and wonderful women, living with an Ageless Attitude.
Nothing is more important than the person we are inside, however, for some of us it can boost our self-esteem if we take extra care with our appearance. We are all individuals and need to feel happy with the person we are – both inside and out.
I admit, I still colour mine and have low and highlights added. I’m not hung up on going ‘to the Silver Side’ but at the moment, I’m happy. The wonderful part of reaching Midlife & Beyond is that we have Choice in all areas of our lives including our appearance.
Christine Blundell, ST60 & Beyond’s new Fashion Editor, is sharing her ‘journey to the Silver Side’ and also providing tips on changing the colours of makeup and clothes to suit your ‘new hair colour’.
My Journey to The Silver Side
I remember spending my 30th birthday getting my first colour to cover some grey hairs I had.
My Dad had many siblings, mostly brothers and they all turned grey or white quite young. I always loved their thick head of lovely white hair.
Over the years I have met women around my age who did not cover their greys and I perceived them as being older than they were and wondered why they didn’t do as I did and cover them up. I admit that, to my shame, because the problem was with my own limiting belief, that to allow yourself to go grey was to announce that you were now part of the “older set”.
To colour or not to colour?
The issue to colour or not to colour is a very individual and personal decision and we arrive at that decision in different ways and for different reasons. My hair when I was younger was very dark brown and there weren’t that many grey hairs, but as the years passed those greys made more and more of an appearance and subsequently it became harder to cover them, so it became necessary for my hairdresser to gradually take me over to the ash blonde shades. Besides going lighter, I also needed to have it coloured more often.
Still, I stubbornly said that I wasn’t emotionally ready to go grey, and that I might think about it when I was 80!
Over the last year however, my attitude has changed a lot!
I have observed so many women, often a lot younger than me who have gone over to the silver side and they look amazing! There is even a young apprentice at my hairdressers who has her hair dyed grey. I have been thinking of the irony of her changing her blonde hair to dye it grey while I was sitting there paying quite a bit of money to have my grey covered to go blonde!
I finally made the decision to stop colouring! My hairdresser put a tonal grey on me last week which took me grey straight away and will gradually lessen that as my natural salt and pepper greys come through.
I love it!
Having said that, my hairdresser did point out that grey hair can be more coarse and frizzy and recommended using a special purple shampoo to help prevent yellowing of my grey and a spray to use on my hair while wet.
It feels very liberating and I feel it’s an expression of me being more authentic about who I am. My son didn’t even notice! When I mentioned it to him, he said that my hair had become so blonde that it didn’t look much different. That comment told me a lot! Mainly how silly I was to pay all that money for something that really didn’t look much different than my natural grey!
My Progression to the Silver Side
As we move into the second stage of life we need to be aware that our hair, skin and eye tones all become lighter and more muted. With this softening of our natural colours we often need to re think our colours in clothing and makeup.
As an example, being very dark haired and with more porcelain skin, I found that the bright magenta’s and other very vibrant shades made me come alive, but over the years as my hair colour lightened and my skin became a little sallow, I found it necessary to tone down the intensity of colours and shades I wore. They were still in my cool colour category, however it’s not always the case that we stay within our warm or cool tones.
Our hair and skin even our eyes lose some of their pigmentation as we age and this decides whether we remain warm or cool.
While I still wear the same shade in my foundation, I have found that I need to go a shade lighter in my lipstick and apply a little more blush. I have also changed my eyeliner from black to charcoal and sometimes an aubergine colour.
Just a tip while talking eye makeup, the colour that is opposite on the colour wheel of our eye colour intensifies our eyes, so in my case with greenish eyes, the opposite on the colour wheel is the purples.
This also applies to our clothing– if we wear colours on our top half that are the opposite on the colour wheel, it intensifies our eye colour and brings us alive. If we wear clothes that are the same as our eye colour, then it links our overall look.
While its early days living with my grey hair, I feel that for me, it is the right decision and I will save quite a bit in time and $’s. It may not be the right decision for everyone and we should not feel pressured either way.