Over 50s Lifestyle

My journey to the Silver Side

July 25, 2018
Why going grey is your choice

Do you colour your hair or have you gone ‘au naturale’?

The stereotypical mature woman is no longer someone who looks like our grandmothers (no offense to our grandmothers).  We are grandmothers ourselves, but are showing the world that we are certainly still vibrant, wise and wonderful women, living with an Ageless Attitude.

Nothing is more important than the person we are inside, however, for some of us it can boost our self-esteem if we take extra care with our appearance.  We are all individuals and need to feel happy with the person we are – both inside and out.

I admit, I still colour mine and have low and highlights added.  I’m not hung up on going ‘to the Silver Side’ but at the moment, I’m happy. The wonderful part of reaching Midlife & Beyond is that we have Choice in all areas of our lives including our appearance.

Christine Blundell, ST60 & Beyond’s new Fashion Editor, is sharing her ‘journey to the Silver Side’ and also providing tips on changing the colours of makeup and clothes to suit your ‘new hair colour’.

My Journey to The Silver Side

I remember spending my 30th birthday getting my first colour to cover some grey hairs I had.

My Dad had many siblings, mostly brothers and they all turned grey or white quite young. I always loved their thick head of lovely white hair.

Over the years I have met women around my age who did not cover their greys and I perceived them as being older than they were and wondered why they didn’t do as I did and cover them up. I admit that, to my shame, because the problem was with my own limiting belief, that to allow yourself to go grey was to announce that you were now part of the “older set”.

To colour or not to colour?

The issue to colour or not to colour is a very individual and personal decision and we arrive at that decision in different ways and for different reasons. My hair when I was younger was very dark brown and there weren’t that many grey hairs, but as the years passed those greys made more and more of an appearance and subsequently it became harder to cover them, so it became necessary for my hairdresser to gradually take me over to the ash blonde shades. Besides going lighter, I also needed to have it coloured more often.

Still, I stubbornly said that I wasn’t emotionally ready to go grey, and that I might think about it when I was 80!

Over the last year however, my attitude has changed a lot!

I have observed so many women, often a lot younger than me who have gone over to the silver side and they look amazing! There is even a young apprentice at my hairdressers who has her hair dyed grey. I have been thinking of the irony of her changing her blonde hair to dye it grey while I was sitting there paying quite a bit of money to have my grey covered to go blonde!

I finally made the decision to stop colouring! My hairdresser put a tonal grey on me last week which took me grey straight away and will gradually lessen that as my natural salt and pepper greys come through.

My verdict?

I love it!

Having said that, my hairdresser did point out that grey hair can be more coarse and frizzy and recommended using a special purple shampoo to help prevent yellowing of my grey and a spray to use on my hair while wet.

It feels very liberating and I feel it’s an expression of me being more authentic about who I am. My son didn’t even notice! When I mentioned it to him, he said that my hair had become so blonde that it didn’t look much different. That comment told me a lot! Mainly how silly I was to pay all that money for something that really didn’t look much different than my natural grey!

My Progression to the Silver Side

As we move into the second stage of life we need to be aware that our hair, skin and eye tones all become lighter and more muted. With this softening of our natural colours we often need to re think our colours in clothing and makeup.

As an example, being very dark haired and with more porcelain skin, I found that the bright magenta’s and other very vibrant shades made me come alive, but over the years as my hair colour lightened and my skin became a little sallow, I found it necessary to tone down the intensity of colours and shades I wore. They were still in my cool colour category, however it’s not always the case that we stay within our warm or cool tones.

Our hair and skin even our eyes lose some of their pigmentation as we age and this decides whether we remain warm or cool.

While I still wear the same shade in my foundation, I have found that I need to go a shade lighter in my lipstick and apply a little more blush. I have also changed my eyeliner from black to charcoal and sometimes an aubergine colour.

Just a tip while talking eye makeup, the colour that is opposite on the colour wheel of our eye colour intensifies our eyes, so in my case with greenish eyes, the opposite on the colour wheel is the purples.

This also applies to our clothing– if we wear colours on our top half that are the opposite on the colour wheel, it intensifies our eye colour and brings us alive. If we wear clothes that are the same as our eye colour, then it links our overall look.

While its early days living with my grey hair, I feel that for me, it is the right decision and I will save quite a bit in time and $’s. It may not be the right decision for everyone and we should not feel pressured either way.

So what what is your choice – Colour or Au Naturale?  Join the conversation and share your thoughts.

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60 Comments

  • Reply samfiftysomething July 25, 2018 at 01:42

    I think you’re very brave. I’m sure I’ll go for it soon, but just not quite ready yet ? I think you look great by the way ? nice make up tips too ?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 06:57

      I’m with you, Sam. I’m not quite ready but Christine looks lovely doesn’t she? Have a beautiful week! 🙂

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 10:56

      Hi Sam, I was like you for a long time and not ready. I think we need to get to a point where we feel it is the right time for us personally. That may mean for some it’s never the right time and that’s ok too.
      Christine x

  • Reply Donna July 25, 2018 at 04:44

    I’m 62 and have been gray about 10 years. I love it. I get a little grief that’s it’s too long for my age, but that argument makes no sense to me. At this point, I would feel weird with anything but my silver.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 06:56

      Hi Donna and thanks for stopping by. I would love long hair but it doesn’t suit me as it is too fine and just hangs. I start to grow it, then get frustrated and have it chopped off. To me, women Over 50 today are so much more confident about wearing a ‘look’ that feels right for them. I’m sure your hair looks beautiful and in fashion today there are definitely no right or wrong rules. You go girl! 🙂

      • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 11:00

        Hi Donna, I agree with Sue, there are no rules, it’s what feels right for you. Rock it proudly and ignore those who give you grief over it.
        Christine x

  • Reply Heather Erickson July 25, 2018 at 04:54

    I have been getting highlights to blend the gray in. It works pretty well and improves the overall texture and body of my tresses. I sure do admire you for going silver. I think I’ll do it one day, but for now, there is enough caramel left on this sundae to keep my typical regimen up. I did recently get it cut shorter and my kids love it.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 06:54

      Hi Heather, I’m like you and get highlights but not quite ready for the full jump into a new ‘natural’ colour. I went to the hair salon on Monday and always feel a million dollars after a visit. Have a beautiful week and thanks for visiting. 🙂

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 11:02

      Hi Heather, a great idea to blend the greys in and I love your comment about enough caramel on this Sundae!
      Christine x

  • Reply The Widow Badass July 25, 2018 at 05:22

    Hi Christine and Sue,

    I used to colour my hair but for over a year now I’ve been letting the silver come in. It is mostly around my temples though, so like Heather, I am using highlights to blend the silver better with my non-silver hair. I do love it. The silvery white hair frames my face nicely, and with a bit of summer colour I think I look like a Palomino…hehehe!!!! I can’t wait, really, for a head of complete silvery white. The women in my family seem to all eventually have the most beautiful heads of white hair so I hope I go that way too.

    Deb

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 06:53

      Hi Deb, I went to a new hair salon on Monday. The hairstylist told me my hair would be a beautiful grey eventually. At the moment, I have silver, grey, blonde and dark blonde so I still get my hair coloured. Eventually, I will work towards my new ‘natural’ colour but can’t take the leap at the moment. 🙂

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 11:04

      Hi Deb, your family sounds like mine, going a beautiful silvery white. I think that look is stunning.
      Christine x

  • Reply Christie Hawkes July 25, 2018 at 07:52

    Hello Christine & Sue! I currently have low-lights added to my hair. They let some gray show through and I don’t get the obvious outgrowth between colors. If my husband and I follow through with our dream to travel the states in a motorhome for a year after I retire, I may decide to go gray before then. I love my hairdresser, but it might be tough to find a different one that I trust in various states that I’ve never been before. I guess that’s one more thing to think about while I’m making my retirement plans. I appreciate the tips on makeup and clothing changes. I hadn’t thought of that.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 09:49

      I tried a new hairdresser this week, Christie and I was so nervous because I’ve been going to the same girl for about 6 years. The new one did a great job so it wasn’t a disaster story. I hadn’t thought about the idea of travelling for long periods and having to find different hairdressers on the way. Now that would be a little scary LOL:) Christine looks lovely and I also enjoyed her makeup tips as well. xx

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 11:08

      Hi Christie, I have been going to the same hairdresser for many years and I love him. He understands both me and my hair. A great combination! While I was having my hair coloured every 5 weeks, it would have been impossible for me to find a new hairdresser each time if traveling!
      Christine x

  • Reply Debbie-Dabble July 25, 2018 at 08:56

    Sue,
    I went natural with my hair color 3 years ago at the ripe old age of 57 years old!!! I was tired of having to sit in a salon every 3 months for 4 hours to get my hair colored. It kept taking longer and longer for the color to take. And I was paying $130 each time I got it colored and cut. My Mother had beautiful silver hair and since I was having my hair colored using the foil method blending my gray hair in with blonde dyed hair, I noticed that my hair color was the same color as my Mother’s was. So I decided that I would just let the color grow out It only took 2 hair cuts and I had my natural salt and pepper hair. I too had dark brown hair originally and had to go blonde because it was easier to keep the grays away. It was extremely liberating and my hair is in the best shape that it has been in years!! After years of perming and coloring, my hair is healthier than it has ever been!! Now I only have to pay $27 every month for a hair cut and I am only there for a half hour out of my day!!! I think Christine looks lovely!! I am noticing more and more younger women dying their hair gray and more “Older” women letting their hair go gray…….. I think we have to start looking at gray s just a color and not as a sign of age…….. I enjoyed this post very much!! Thanks for sharing!!!!
    Hugs,
    Deb

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 09:46

      Hi Deb good for you and I’m working towards letting my natural look shine through. I was at the hair salon this week with a new hair stylist who said my natural grey/silver colour is beautiful so that made me seriously think about letting go and going ‘au naturale’. Grey is actually an ‘in’ colour now for all ages. Glad you enjoyed the post and I agree Christine looks lovely. Have a great week xx

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 11:26

      Hi Deb, thank you for your comment that I look lovely! Whereas you had your hair coloured every three months or so mine was every 5 weeks and $150 each time! Just think of all the money I will save! I’m so pleased you enjoyed the post. Thank you.
      Christine x

  • Reply Karen Hume July 25, 2018 at 09:11

    I’ve had my hair grey since I was 55. It’s a really beautiful grey and I’m very happy with it. I agree with Deb that it is just a colour, and doesn’t need to have a thing to do with age. That said, I appreciate Christine’s tips for accentuating my eyes and skin tone. The one problem I have with grey is losing the look of vitality that I seek.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 25, 2018 at 09:44

      I haven’t gone grey as yet, Karen but working towards it. I do get my eyebrows and lashes tinted to add a little colour to my face. As you say we all need to look vital and it makes us feel so much better. xx

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 11:30

      Hi Karen, I understand what you mean with losing the vitality of colour. I think perhaps some women haven’t been given the knowledge of how to change their makeup and sometimes clothing colours when going grey and I think that’s why often women with grey hair can look rather washed out.
      Christine x

  • Reply leslie roberts clingan July 25, 2018 at 12:09

    Oh, I want to go au naturale and save that money for something more fun!! Right now I have low lights (I thought) that with summer sun and swimming have gone HIGH. I am much blonder than I like. Haven’t been a blonde since I was two years old. You have inspired me to think again about phasing out the color. You look smashing and authentic! Bravo!

    • Reply Christine July 25, 2018 at 12:17

      Hi Leslie, thank you for your lovely comments! I too was going much more blonde than I liked and I had never been blonde until trying to cover the greys. No more!
      Christine x

  • Reply Candi Randolph July 25, 2018 at 20:30

    I still color my hair, and even though it can be a hassle sometimes, I like having the red tones instead of the blend of dark and gray that I would have if I let my hair grow out naturally. But, I love the look of beautiful gray/silver hair on women. It is such a classic look! I’ll get there at some point, just not yet.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 26, 2018 at 07:34

      I still colour mine Candi because at the moment the colour is not consistent and to be honest I might look like a badger with dark parts and white/silver. I do love the grey/silver look as well but not quite ready to get to that point. I actually love getting my hair done – it is a treat for me. x

  • Reply Joanne Tracey July 26, 2018 at 09:05

    I’m nowhere near ready for that. My hair naturally is almost black and I have been going lighter for the past 10 years or so – since I was 40 – mainly because it grows so quickly that I was needing the roots done 3 weekly. These days I’m much lighter and can make it last 4 weeks. I asked my hairdresser last time just how much grey I have & apparently it’s mostly at the front of my head & relatively patchy on the side. The back has very little. Some women look fabulous grey – as you do, Christine – but I suspect that I won’t be one of them!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 26, 2018 at 12:38

      Sounds the same as my hair, Jo. Mine is mostly at the front so I can’t see myself giving up the colour just yet. 🙂

  • Reply Anne Downing July 26, 2018 at 09:27

    I am allergic to hair dye, my whole head swells up and my scalp gets covered in scabs. Looks like I will be going grey when the time comes!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 26, 2018 at 12:41

      Hi Anne! Fortunately, I’m not allergic to hair dye but I can imagine how painful it could be. I’m sure you will look lovely. I think my problem is that once you start colouring, it is difficult to actually stop and grow it out. Have a lovely day and thanks for stopping by 🙂

  • Reply Life Images by Jill July 26, 2018 at 11:09

    I’ve only just been having colouring (foils) in the last 10 years or so. I only go irregularly to the hairdresser, but every time I do I think, this will be the last time to have a colour. But I don’t want to be rid of my blonde just yet. I have below shoulder length hair, so unfortunately will take a lot longer to grow out. Perhaps I should start with the ash blonde look. Thanks for the post. I’m joining you today from the Loving Life linky.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 26, 2018 at 12:44

      Hi Jill and welcome! It is lovely of you to visit and leave a comment. The growing out part is my dilemma also. I’ve been having a colour for so long that even though I have short hair, it always seems forever to grow out the colour and I give up half way through and colour it again! Ash blonde is probably a good way to go I might try that myself. Have a beautiful day and hope you visit again. 🙂

  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle July 26, 2018 at 11:28

    I have bits of grey – here and there – and what I call my ‘skunk streak’ in my fringe at the front. I still choose to cover it and get my hair coloured. I think if my regrowth were grey then I may need to reconsider! Your hair looks beautiful Christine! 🙂 #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 26, 2018 at 12:45

      Hi Min, I am white across the front and dark at the back so I would look ridiculous at the moment if I didn’t colour my hair. Christine shows that we can look lovely with grey hair but I’m not sure I’m quite ready yet! Have a great week, Min and hope you are enjoying your kitchen. xx

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au July 26, 2018 at 16:12

    I don’t have much in the way of grey in my hair at this stage – I have blonde highlights and they disguise any grey bits – I also choose to add a bit of colour to the underneath to brighten me up and distract from any regrowth. Embracing the grey is definitely a personal decision – I think I’ll be fighting it for as long as possible – and when the inevitable comes, I’ll be going rainbow and being a crazy old lady who makes people smile!

  • Reply Kathy Marris July 26, 2018 at 16:51

    Christine I think you look great with your grey locks. I also have dark brown hair and I’m too frightened to let it go salt and pepper just yet. When I asked my daughter and hairdresser they both said a definite “No”, so I will continue to colour the greys for a few more years. Some ladies look great with grey hair and with others it makes them look older. It’s an individual thing I feel. #TeamLovinLife

  • Reply Ally Bean July 26, 2018 at 21:38

    I’m a blonde so going gray has been easier for me. I now rock what my hair stylist calls “gronde.” That is, gray + blonde. It’s a thing apparently, and here I am part of it. Who’d of thought that I could be part of a trend?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 27, 2018 at 16:25

      Well that’s a term I haven’t heard of ‘gronde’ but it sounds funky! 🙂

  • Reply Jennifer Jones July 27, 2018 at 10:05

    I loved reading this and agreed with so many of your thoughts about going grey. After dying my hair blonde ever since I was a teenager, I made the decision 18months ago that it was time to let my natural grey come through. I didn’t like sitting at hairdressers for all of those hours it took to keep my blonde look and dreaded each appointment. Even though my grey isn’t one of those beautiful greys that some are lucky to have, I found the experience of letting my natural colour come through, very liberating.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 27, 2018 at 16:31

      Hi Jennifer, I actually enjoy going to have my hair done but it is starting to become quite expensive. I might have to start my journey to the silver side sooner than I expected 🙂

  • Reply Lee MacArthur July 27, 2018 at 12:39

    I’ve had grey hairs growing in for several years. I admit to coloring my hair because we still live in a society who see’s men with grey or silver hair as being distinguished but women are seen as old. In addition, I color my hair because I do not feel as old as my chronological age and I do not want to admit to my age. I am not ready. Its just me.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 27, 2018 at 16:32

      Hi Lee, we have choice which is wonderful. Some women are quite happy to journey to the silver side. I’m not quite ready either so it isn’t just you 🙂

  • Reply Michele July 27, 2018 at 13:21

    My dear friend went gray in her forties and she looks stunning. I think it is wonderful that today women have a choice and can do whatever they want with their hair. I don’t have many gray hairs, and I am not sure if I will. I have my grandmother’s hair and she never had a lot of gray ( either that or you don’t see it in the blond!) My mother had dark hair and she went gray in her thirties and keep dying until her sixties. She was happier when she allowed it to go gray.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 27, 2018 at 16:22

      Hi Michele, my Mum went grey in her late twenties and never coloured it. I agree that being able to make our own choices is the best part. Our generation has proven that we can go with our hearts and be happy rather than trying to ‘fit in’ when we don’t feel comfortable. 🙂

  • Reply Deborah July 28, 2018 at 15:27

    I must admit I’m loath to go grey. My mum went grey early and has quite a nice colour of grey but I just don’t feel as if I want to be middle-aged let alone grey! I’ve been babysitting a friend’s 6yr old a bit lately and get depressed when someone assumes I’m his grandma. I guess I could I ‘could’ be, but given I was still trying to get pregnant myself 8 or so years ago grandmotherhood couldn’t be further from where I’m at!

  • Reply Debbie July 29, 2018 at 05:19

    I think I’m quite lucky in that although I colour my hair regularly it’s not really to cover the grey, it’s to highlight the shade. I don’t have a great deal of greys yet for my age (57) and am very happy!! I love grey hair on women who have embraced it but I’m very aware that colours worn will have to change and perhaps make up too as mentioned in Christine’s post. I have a young friend who has been grey since 20 and she has just let it go now, as she’s got young children – she looks fabulous. When my time comes I will try to embrace the change of colour but as I’m quite dark skinned I’m a bit worried about it. I’m sure I’ll cope ? nice to read this post and everyone’s comments.

  • Reply Suzy July 29, 2018 at 19:42

    I have very dark hair but few greys are coming through now. Luckily I don’t need to dye that often. At present I’m not ready for the switchover so will keep dyeing every quarter like I do! Loved this post and the makeup tips were great.
    visiting via the LovinLife linkup.

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit July 30, 2018 at 13:00

    Nope. Not ready to go silver yet. But you look amazing Christine! I am off to get my hair done tomorrow in fact, Thinking I might go darker.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:41

      I’m not either Leanne but I do enjoy going to have hair done. Enjoy!

    • Reply Christine August 1, 2018 at 17:54

      Thank you so much Leanne x

  • Reply cathi July 30, 2018 at 23:48

    This is an inspiring post! I didn’t start coloring my hair until I turned 60 and my colorist couldn’t believe I’d waited that long. I didn’t like all the gray coming in and the texture. Now I’m a brownish-auburn color which I love. But…I have long hair and have often thought it might be pretty to have long, gray hair. Kind of out there, but so am I.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 31, 2018 at 06:44

      Hi Cathi, I’ve coloured my hair for many years now and although I have white and grey it is in large patches here and there. I’m not quite ready to start the journey to the Silver Side but Christine’s hair looks beautiful. Great to hear you are ‘out there’ and living life on your terms xx

  • Reply mrsluvit02 August 1, 2018 at 14:26

    Thanks, Sue and Christine. I love all the colour tips, they make a big difference when we get it right. As far as hair colour, grey suits some skin tones better than others. My hair is white around the face and with a very pale skin I look sickly pale and a whole lot older, I can do without that. I blonde my own hair and the cost is about $20 every six months. It is a pain to do, but really it only takes an hour.
    Ladies, be looking for a feature of this helpful post on the next Blogger’s Pit Stop.
    Kathleen

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 1, 2018 at 17:34

      Oh thank you Kathleen, I’m sure Christine will be thrilled. I’m still having my hair coloured but I do love Christine’s new look. Thanks so much for the feature and have a beautiful week 🙂

    • Reply Christine August 1, 2018 at 17:52

      That’s awesome! Thank you so much Kathleen x

  • Reply Kippi August 3, 2018 at 23:06

    Gray hair don’t care. Just kidding – I color! I am with you with the highlights too. Happy Summer, Kippi

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2018 at 08:47

      Hi Kippi! Thanks for visiting and here in Queensland it is winter, although you wouldn’t know it as today they are predicting summer temperatures! Have a great weekend x

  • Reply Victoria August 5, 2018 at 13:05

    I started letting my grey come out in Feb. It is amazing how much money I save now that I am not getting my hair colored. I love the color of grey my hair is though it is not as white as I thought it would be.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 7, 2018 at 09:06

      Hi Victoria, I have so many different patches around my head that it would be difficult to just stop colouring at this point. Maybe I could talk to the hairdresser and put a plan in place. 🙂

  • Reply Tina Gleisner August 18, 2018 at 05:22

    I’m sitting here smiling (laughing) and have a fun story to share. I’ve colored my hair since I was 45 and 22 years later (last month) did something totally different. I’m going through a divorce & decided going white/gray would help me look older & more in need of support during mediation & potentially the trial that will follow.

    I asked my trusted hair colorist to turn me white & while I had no idea what it would look like, I’m actually enjoying the look so maybe I’ll keep it after the divorce is final?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 18, 2018 at 05:35

      Hi Tina, sorry to hear you are going through a tough time and usually it is during these times that we really want to make changes, isn’t it? I haven’t taken the leap to white/grey yet but it does look beautiful and even the younger women are going for the look. Our generation are trendsetters! 🙂

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