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Midlife Circus Ring Master Thriving in the Greatest Show on Earth

August 16, 2018
Midlife Circus Ring Master

Do you sometimes feel that Life is a Circus and you are the Ring Master?  This week, my guest is Lori Jo from 50 with Flair and I’m delighted to introduce her to you all.  Lori hasn’t been blogging for very long, however, I enjoy reading her fashion tips and admire her elegant style.  I also appreciate that she can look elegant but not take herself too seriously (see the photo at the end).

In her post for the Over 50 and Thriving Series, Lori Jo, writes about her ‘next phase of the three-ring circus’ which is life after 50.  Don’t forget to check out Lori Jo’s blog and connect with her through the links at the end of this post.

Midlife Circus Ring Master

Midlife Circus Ring Master

It has been said that “Life is a Circus”. And my mother always used to say, “life is a merry-go-round, hang on or you’ll fall off”.

After living under the big top of life for almost 58 years now, I find myself wanting to become reacquainted with who I am and to take things more lightly as I ease into this next phase of the three-ring circus – becoming a very new over-50 blogger wanting to exercise my writing skills has been a real eyeopener.

After just 12 weeks into this new adventure, the circus analogy came to me for thoughts and reflections on my own little sideshow that may connect with you as well.

Circus Ring #1

In my teens and early twenties, I was the star of the show — the Opening Act, as novice Ring Master. Even though parts of it felt like being shot out of a cannon, the excitement of youth and a thriving career helped build necessary skills to juggle the balls and twirl all of the plates of what was yet to come. We had technology in the workplace but left it behind at the end of the day. Simpler, unplugged times where we connected with each other in person in a more tangible way.

Circus Ring #2

Marriage came in my late 20s, with children in my early 30s, the Main Event. We made the decision that I would be a full-time mother, boom! I had never done any babysitting and had zero experience with babies. But, I joyfully transferred my work ethic into on-the-job training for motherhood.

When our first daughter was born, it was a scary high-flying trapeze and walking a tightrope with full focus to make sure I did all of the right things — with no safety net, I wanted to figure it out on my own. I gradually gained my balance, but I missed my career, A LOT. There were a few small creative businesses that filled that void for a while then eventually ran their course.

Circus Ring #3

In the blink of an eye, the big brass band from the Main Event kept marching along until one day the tuba tooted its last note and the girls became adults and started their own lives. While simultaneously being impacted by the loss of dear parents, friends and beloved pets, I quickly realized that Tim and I were approaching the Grand Finale. Not in the sense of our final performance, LOL, but, in the sense that this is the biggest show of all where we still have a few more acts ahead of us!

Tim is still working and wants to put in his maximum time for retirement. I have chosen blogging as a creative mental engagement and writing outlet to connect with other 50-somethings who may have things in common with what I feel and describe.

I also feel the need to stay current with technology and don’t want to feel like I am struggling to understand it or am falling behind in some way. Becoming a published author is also woven into all of this as well, in its own timing, a bucket list item.

The blogging learning curve was, and still is, steep at times for me. A different type of technology and language that I expected to click more quickly than it did.

My blog is based on reinventing ourselves over 50. I realized that I could not re-create myself, so I had to reinvent what and who I wanted to be now, another Novice Ring Master. I offer frugal, wearable fashion and lifestyle inspiration that can suit the majority of body types and personalities who are looking for something refreshing and updated. “Find Your Flair, Be You” is my theme.

The Social Media Circus

Taking a high dive leap of faith, I dove headfirst into the world of blogging. Being discovered as a blogger online means offering helpful quality content that readers want and enjoy. Exposing the blog to gain these readers meant that my blog needed to engage with social media platforms.

Quickly discovering that social media can be a circus all on its own, I put on my tall man stilts to view these arenas from a distance, trying to keep it in perspective.

There is kind of a noisy freak show happening online. Averting my eyes and sifting down to the useful things that don’t suck me into the elephant’s trunk have been useful, enjoyable and helpful.

Social media has also shown me how others choose to announce and express midlife. There are roars from the crowd shouting “rebellion”, “fierce”, “unshackled”, “warrior” and other phrases relative to being a female entering life over 50. If this works for some and it feels good, wonderful!

As for myself, I am more of a steady drive trying to keep it between the lines without too many clowns jumping out of the car at one time, LOL!

Midlife Circus Ring Master

How is your circus going? I would love to hear about it!


Meet Lori Jo – 50 With Flair:

Midlife Circus Ring MasterI have lived in the South for most of my life. After growing up in Naples, Florida, my career brought me to Atlanta, Georgia in 1983 (I was actually born in London, England due to my dad’s military service with the U. S. Air Force). Moving to Atlanta was my “Mary Tyler Moore moment”, career girl in the big city! I met my husband in February of 1988 while on the dance floor with friends; we were married in April of 1989 – loved the ‘80s music and lots of dancing!

We eventually settled into a suburb of Atlanta known as Peachtree City, Georgia, where we raised our two daughters from 1999 through their adulthood. It is a quaint, eco-wise golf cart community with a top-rated school system. I chose to raise my daughters full-time which was a joy, but I have always missed my career.

Until recently, flexible, creative home businesses have filled my need to remain current and provide a supplemental income.

My blog’s theme is “Find Your Flair, Be You!” I do believe that age is just a number, but I can tell you that 50-something has been an ongoing reinvention period for me for a while now. Major life moments and seasons of change have happened during this stage of life over the past few years.

Many women are where I am right now and I want to share my style and interests with you. It is time for you, give yourself permission to be YOU!

I want to make the most of each day and try to be positive, energetic, current, and creative. I enjoy DIY projects, reading, walking, cooking, growing a few things in my little raised bed kitchen garden, and nostalgic things like an old classic movie every now and then.

Connect with Lori Jo

“50 With Flair” blog:  www.50withflair.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/50withflair/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/50WithFlair
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/50withflair/
Twitter:  https://twitter.com/50WithFlair

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  • Reply Lori Jo August 17, 2018 at 05:55

    Hi, Sue: Thank you for inviting me to write this guest post – It was fun to write and I am looking forward to interacting with everyone!

    Lori Jo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 17, 2018 at 06:53

      My pleasure, Lori and I loved your article. Thanks for being part of my ‘Sizzling’ community. 🙂

  • Reply Donna August 17, 2018 at 07:00

    Hi, Lori Jo – It is a pleasure to meet you here at Sue’s. Much of what you have written has resonated strongly for me. I look forward to checking out your blog and reading more of your posts.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 17, 2018 at 07:25

      Hi Donna, I’ve only recently met Lori Jo but we connected immediately. I’m sure you will enjoy adding her blog to your ‘long’ reading list 🙂 xx

      • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:32

        Sue, you are so sweet and always so helpful as I am still learning about the blogging world!

        Lori Jo

  • Reply Lori Jo August 17, 2018 at 07:24

    Hey, Donna! So glad you connected with the post. I am enjoying my reinvention, even though it has emotional moments. When that happens, I have to put on the clown nose and carry on, LOL. Thank you for also visiting my blog, it is practical fashion and topics for refreshing updates as we roll forward.

    Lori Jo

  • Reply Jodie August 17, 2018 at 12:20

    I love reading Lori Jo’s blog—-and what a fun way to think of life!!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 18, 2018 at 05:51

      I love Lori Jo’s style and vibrant personality, Jodie. I’m sure you two would have loads in common. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by xx

      • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:34

        Thank you, Sue! I have to learn how to keep up with Jodie, she’s a pep!

        Lori Jo

    • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:20

      Hey, Jodie my friend! I can get way too serious sometimes, so I snap myself out of it with my own spin and goofiness, LOL. Glad you enjoyed the post, I can be blunt sometimes but I hope putting a candy wrapper on it brings out the humorous intent. Talk soon!

      Lori Jo

  • Reply Victoria August 17, 2018 at 13:30

    Life does feel like a three-ring circus sometimes but I like your mothers thought about the merry go round. I think this stage of life is the final act and we need to make it the best act yet.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 18, 2018 at 05:50

      We certainly do need to make the most of the third act, don’t we Victoria? Have a beautiful weekend and thanks for stopping by. xx

    • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:26

      Hi, Victoria! So glad you found connection with the post. Living through almost 6 decades now brings reflection, but I try to not look backward too much. I am looking forward to steering and molding the future years into what feels right for the richest experience, making moments really count. Thanks so much for your comment 🙂

      Lori Jo

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au August 17, 2018 at 16:29

    Hi Lori Jo – lovely to see you guesting on Sue’s wonderful blog. I thought you had a bit of a Celine Dion vibe going on with your tophat and coat BTW 🙂 Your summing up of life being a three ring circus was so true – it’s quite easy to see how our life stages are different acts that require a re-think as we launch into them. Like you, I’ve found blogging to be a wonderful stepping stone into handling Midlife with grace and anticipation – both necessary attributes if we don’t want to fade into the wallpaper!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 18, 2018 at 05:45

      Lori Jo looks great doesn’t she? I’m loving the series, Leanne because each guest has a different take on Midlife & Beyond. I’m sure you are finding that also with your Social Saturdays. I’ve said it before but ‘our generation rocks’! Have a beautiful weekend xx

      • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:38

        Thank you, Sue! I strive to be unique and honest, but not too wack-o, LOL. Just couldn’t find a good ringmaster photo, so I thought, what the heck! And now I have something to wear every Halloween, right?

        Lori Jo

    • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:41

      Hey, Leanne!! You and Sue are such inspirations and have been so helpful to me, I am still such a baby blogger. And, golly, Celine Dion? Maybe I will end up on stage in Vegas someday too with some type of midlife act, now that would REALLY embarrass my kids, LOL!

      Lori Jo

  • Reply Janet Mary Cobb August 17, 2018 at 22:18

    Great analogy – I just wonder if midlife is the point where we can all finally say, “Not my circus, not my monkeys”?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 18, 2018 at 05:39

      Love that Janet! Actually I think I first heard ‘not my circus, not my monkeys’ from my BBB, Leanne from Cresting the Hill. It is perfect isn’t it? Have a great weekend and I agree if we can step away from the ringmaster role, life might be a little less pressured. 🙂

    • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:47

      Hey, Janet! Love that phrase, and that is where I finally landed. I was on a hamster wheel of “busy-ness”and feeling responsible for everything, and that was for “what”? I just told myself one day to slow down and stop it. And I did just that for about one year, then decided to start blogging on May 1st of this year. Still a lot to learn and finding my way, but it is a nice way to connect and share what over 50 can be and practice my writing since I want to be a published author while I still have the time!

      Thanks so much for reading the post and commenting.

      Lori Jo

  • Reply Candi Randolph August 18, 2018 at 05:47

    Thanks Lori Jo, and Sue, for another fascinating perspective on this thing called midlife. I love the circus analogy, as it sure seems like one at times! As a new blogger myself, just into my 7th month, I can relate to the enormous amount of online education, including social media, that has become a part of my life. But I love blogging and have embraced the challenge, with successes and failures along the way. I love your blog, Lori Jo, and will be checking in often!

    • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 02:53

      Thanks so much, Candi! Right there with you, and you are leaps ahead of me….. My blog went live on May 1st of this year, so I am REALLY new. I struggled with WordPress for several months on private mode, then finally had to hit PUBLISH. It keeps getting better and it will probably transform as time goes on and as I become more comfortable with what I want to express and share. My brain explodes sometimes with reading and even though social media is part of becoming noticed, I have to choose what to read and limit the number of FB pages and other blogs to follow. It can just be overload and I don’t want it to be that. I am slow and steady right now.

      Thank you again for visiting and commenting!

      Lori Jo

  • Reply suzanne vosbikian August 18, 2018 at 22:03

    Hi Lori Jo, Many of us can relate to your comments regarding “reinventing” ourselves. I think I have passed through that phase more than once. Love your circus analogy. I just clicked on your Instagram account and “followed.” Best of luck with your new journey! P.S. you have beautiful skin – please share your secret in a future post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 19, 2018 at 11:50

      Hi Suzanne, I enjoyed Lori Jo’s approach to thriving and now I have two more ladies to follow on Instagram. What a fabulous group of women I have met over the last 6 months. Have a beautiful weekend xx P.S. I pulled out my camera today and am going to try to learn how to use it properly xx

  • Reply Lori Jo August 18, 2018 at 22:26

    Thank you for all of the compliments and for following, Suzanne! I do have a skin care post coming soon, all over-the-counter easy things that are very affordable and do give great results — glad to hear about your reinventions, I do expect I will have “mini reboots” along the way as I pave my path. I still feel that there are parts and pieces yet to come! Lovely meeting you <3

    Lori Jo

  • Reply Karen Hume August 18, 2018 at 22:40

    Hi Lori Jo,
    I love your circus analogy. I’ve never been able to embrace the social media circus. The “noisy freak show” aspects of it (well said) make me grumpy, angry and more than a little bit scared. They offer a sad commentary on life today – a myopic, self-absorbed focus on all that is trivial. Kudos to you for averting your eyes and finding your way to say things that matter.

    • Reply Lori Jo August 19, 2018 at 03:03

      Hi, Karen! So glad you enjoyed the post. I think too much social media has an affect on us just by reading it and processing it through our minds on a regular basis. It is just too much information about too many people, drama, etc.. My brain explodes sometimes with reading and seeing too much.
      Even though social media is part of becoming noticed as a blogger, I have to choose what I allow myself to participate in and limit the number of Facebook pages and other blogs to follow. It can just be overload and I don’t want it to be that. I strive to be honest and real without being pretentious and jumping on every trend and bandwagon.

      Thank you again for visiting and commenting!

      Lori Jo

  • Reply Natalie August 19, 2018 at 22:40

    Hi Lori Jo – I enjoyed reading your post, and love your sense of humour. I find too much time on social media can be detrimental to our well-being, and actually keep us out of touch with the natural, real world we live in. Moderation is the key, right? Best of luck with your new blogging journey!

    • Reply Lori Jo August 20, 2018 at 23:02

      Hey, Natalie! Thank you for reading my guest post, and I am so glad you found the connection and also humor in it. It is certainly a balance online with sharing my thoughts and creativity yet not getting too sucked into the very platforms that I need to share what I have to say. I enjoy the writing most of all and am using this as a big experiment to feel out the online world, the blog will morph eventually, probably with my eventual book with fashion and other things in the background as part of who I am.

      Thank you for the kind encouragement 😀

      Lori Jo

  • Reply Debbie Harris August 22, 2018 at 19:49

    This was a fun read Lori Jo and I can so relate to your various stages, what a fun way of looking at things 🙂 Off to follow you now on your various social media. All the best with your new blogging venture and welcome to our world. Thanks Sue for another great blogger.

  • Reply Lori Jo August 22, 2018 at 20:02

    So glad you enjoyed it, Debbie! And thank you for the welcome. It is nice to connect with likeminds, I have more to learn and blogger friends have been very kind and helpful. See you out there!

    Lori Jo

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