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Midlife Mental Health – Recognising the Warning Signs

April 10, 2019
Mental Health Recognising the Warning Signs

Midlife mental health is often affected by menopause but life in general can affect our mental state at any given time.  So how do we know if what we are feeling is normal or something more serious.  How are we alerted to family or friends who might be experiencing poor mental health?

Midlife Mental Health – Recognising the Warning Signs

Most of us or our family and friends experience more than one of the following.  For example, we all get anxious or worried at times.  However, if these feelings start to take over our lives then this could be a warning sign that you may be suffering from mental illness.

  • Feeling worried or anxious
  • Feeling unhappy or depressed for long periods of time
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Experiencing highs and lows
  • Difficulty controlling emotions
  • Becoming Withdrawn and not wanting to communicate
  • Changes in diet and eating patterns
  • Changes in general behaviour






Mental illness affects 1 in 5 Australians, and according to SANE up to 45% of us will experience some form of mental illness during our lives

What can you do?

Ask for Help

If you or your friend or family member are showing signs of the above symptoms then you/they need to consult a professional.  Start with your local general practitioner who can make an initial assessment.


R U Okay?

If you have a friend or family member who you think is struggling –


There is always support and ways to address the issue of mental illness.

Get Moving

Research has shown that regular daily exercise is not only good for our physical health but also our mental health. Endorphins are created when we exercise and these lift our mood.

Eat Healthy

Making healthier food choices will not only give us more energy but also can lift our mood.

Visualise your Happy Place

When we are feeling overwhelmed or stressed we feel like stepping out of the world for a while. Finding your ‘happy place’ in your mind that is calm and relaxing will help reduce stress and anxiety. Think of somewhere that you feel happy, safe and calm and visualise this in your mind. When you feel anxious visit your ‘happy place’ for a while.

For more information click on the link below or phone Lifeline: 13 11 14 (in Australia):

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This post was originally published in 2016 and has been updated and republished.

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  • Reply Michelle Schurman October 10, 2016 at 14:10

    This is a very important topic Sue…good for you for helping to shine a light on mental illness, at all stages of life.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 10, 2016 at 16:48

      Hi Michelle! Yes, it is important and I think we need to move passed the stigma associated with mental illness and encourage people to talk about their feelings and reach out to others for help. Thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful day.

  • Reply Cathy Lawdanski October 11, 2016 at 10:29

    Knowing these signs are so important. Depression runs in our family.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 12, 2016 at 14:09

      Sometimes it is hard to accept that we are feeling depressed that is why others should be supportive if they see that perhaps their friend is headed down that path.

  • Reply Lisa Carpenter October 11, 2016 at 10:36

    Thank you so much for this. It’s often hard to see for yourself when feeling a little blue becomes full-blown depression. I sincerely appreciate your information on the signs ā€” to apply to myself as well as a few loved ones around me I’ve been concerned about.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 12, 2016 at 14:09

      Oh I’m so pleased Lisa – you have made my day as my aim is to make people aware not just about their own mental health but also their family and friends. Thanks for the lovely comment.

  • Reply Carol Cassara October 11, 2016 at 10:39

    It’s been a while since I’ve needed to get a therapy tune up, but i used to routinely do it. I am a big fan of asking for help and getting it. I think it’s the best thing we can do for ourselves.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 12, 2016 at 14:10

      Unfortunately, Carol not everyone is as open as you and the thought of having therapy is still a taboo in some people’s mind. Education is important to know that therapy is just a way to talk it out with someone who isn’t directly involved in your life.

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski October 11, 2016 at 15:56

    Important information. I would add noticing a dependence on drugs or alcohol as well. That’s a sure sign someone has emotional issues they aren’t addressing.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 12, 2016 at 14:11

      Yes Rebecca although I think that emotional issues is part of mental health and then people look to other substances to ease the pain they feel.

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  • Reply Silly Mummy October 14, 2016 at 05:52

    Good tips for the signs to look for. And, as you say, the important things is for people to get the support they need and not ignore the signs.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 14, 2016 at 06:27

      Sometimes we focus on the person with the mental health problem rather than also including those of us who are their friends or family. We need to be aware of the signs as well so we can reach out and support if we can.

  • Reply Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle October 15, 2016 at 18:55

    Thanks for writing and making it easier to talk about.

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    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 21, 2016 at 06:44

      Thanks Kathleen and thanks for the opportunity to share at Blogger’s Pit Stop.

  • Reply Bren Pace April 10, 2019 at 03:28

    Hi Sue,
    Well said. I don’t understand why so many feel ashamed to talk about mental illness. Personally, as those who read my blog, know that I battle anxiety. I think it’s important to share my experiences with it so (1) people struggling don’t feel alone, and (2) share what may help me because it may help someone else. We definitely need more awareness especially as we get older. I’ve found many over 50 struggle with some sort of anxiety or depression and need to know there are support groups out there.
    Thanks for sharing this!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 11, 2019 at 08:39

      I know, Bren. It is hard for some people to let others know how they are feeling and I blame society for attaching the stigma to mental health issues. You make two valide points – we aren’t alone and sharing may help others tell their story. Thanks for the comment and have a great day! x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan April 10, 2019 at 19:09

    A timely and helpful post. Thanks Sue. No-one “need” be ashamed of asking for help or in accepting any offers of help but unfortunately many are.
    Denyse x
    Lifeline: 13 11 14.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 11, 2019 at 09:00

      thanks for including the Lifeline number, Denyse I will go in and add it to the post. xx

  • Reply Natalie April 11, 2019 at 07:12

    Very good tips, Sue. I saw on the news that Prince Harry and Oprah are going to produce a mental health series which would help raise awareness. Thank you for linking up this #Wellness Wednesday.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 11, 2019 at 09:12

      Hi Natalie! I haven’t heard about Prince Harry and Oprah but what a great idea. Their celebrity profile will do much to promote mental health awareness.

  • Reply Retirement Reflections April 11, 2019 at 07:34

    Hi, Sue – This is such an important topic that is never discussed enough (IMHO). Thank you for including this in your #ActiveApril series! Great tips!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 11, 2019 at 09:15

      Hi Donna, you know that I’m all about holistic health – Mind, Body and Soul and so I needed to include Mental Health as part of #ActiveApril. šŸ™‚

  • Reply Johanna Castro April 11, 2019 at 10:13

    Such an important topic Sue, and one that gets swept under the table. Coming from a dysfunctional childhood I understand how mental illness can severely incapacitate a family. The warning signs by themselves are sometimes dismissible, but they creep up, and you’re right sometimes it’s up to those close around us to ask, “are you okay”, because while we think we are doing fine, maybe we actually are not. #MLSTL and Shared on SM

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 12, 2019 at 13:44

      Hi Jo, I agree we can’t talk about Mental Health Awareness enough. I’ve been there and my husband has PTSD so I know first hand what it is like. I also think we say ‘I’m fine’ because we feel the need to be strong all the time. The reality is we need to be able to say ‘well actually, I’m not fine, I’m struggling’ and not feel ashamed or guilty about it. Have a lovely weekend and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. x

  • Reply Janet Mary Cobb April 12, 2019 at 14:58

    Important post Sue! Thanks!

  • Reply Leanne | April 12, 2019 at 15:45

    There have been times when my head has felt like it’s not on straight Sue. I think when major change hits me I go into a bit of an inner meltdown and question a lot of my closely held beliefs. I am such a controlled person who believes she has life figured out – when life pulls a shifty on me I’m often left out of sorts. But that’s where core values, a good husband (who’s also a counsellor) and close friends have helped pull me through (and blogging too! I love how we cheer each other on.)

  • Reply Debbie April 12, 2019 at 18:02

    Yes Sue, I agree with all your points here and I know the feeling of being overwhelmed. It’s often hard to ask for help but I’m getting better at doing it. This is a great reminder and fits perfectly in Active April :0) Well said!

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