Valentine’s Day, a day devoted to Love, although for me (and many of you), I question why we need one day each year to be reminded to show love. Shouldn’t that be every day?
I am very fortunate to be surrounded by love – from my husband, my children, my grandchildren and my friends (IRL and online). I also know that the special people in my life, know how much I love them because I show them each day – even in the smallest of ways.
It is easy though to fall out of the habit of showing those we love that we care. For 2023, TIME (and using it wisely) is my focus so I’m making a conscious effort to do things with my time that bring joy and contentment. To show my love to those in my inner circle at every opportunity. To tell them I love them because you never know what tomorrow will bring.
Recently, we moved back to Brisbane so we could be closer to my family. I feel the love from my grandsons everytime they see me. In fact, as I walk through the gate and they are at the window and shout ‘Nan’s here!’ I feel like a rockstar. They both tell me they love me spontaneously at different times and it fills my heart with endless joy and love.
I have the love of my darling husband and will be celebrating a special wedding anniversary in April. We certainly have had an interesting life together and despite it all the love is still strong. I’ve recently reintroduced our Home Restaurant Date Nights where we take turns in making a special me for each other. We enjoy travelling and have two holidays booked for June and November to look forward to.
My children show me love in many ways and I sometimes forget they are adults now in their 40s with lives of their own. I think we are always Mums though, and a mother/child love is such a strong, bond. A mother’s love is unconditional.
My friends are constantly showing me love and support and vice versa. I am so grateful to have them all in my life.
So I’ve written about the love I’m surrounded by and the love I give, but what about the title of my post?
Making TIME for the most important love of all
I recently was chatting with a guest, Susie Pettit during an upcoming episode of the Women Living Well After 50 podcast. We were discussing how to live the life we love by setting healthy boundaries. (It is a great interview so watch this space). During the interview, Susie suggested that the one relationship that is with you all your life is the one you have with yourself.
Self-love is a term that seems to be everywhere but what does it actually mean? Take a moment to think about it…….
Self-love is the foundation that allows us to be assertive, set boundaries and create healthy relationships with others, practice self-care, pursue our interests and goals, and feel proud of who we are.Sharon Martin, LCSW.
Why should we make the time to show ourselves love and compassion?
“There is you and you. This is a relationship. This is the most important relationship.”―Nayyirah Waheed
5 reasons why you should take TIME to experience self-love
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”Buddha
- Builds Self-Respect – we respect others and their beliefs but sometimes we don’t respect ourselves. We treat ourselves less than we would others. We aren’t always kind to ourselves. We allow the negative voice in our head to pull us down. Would we treat others like that? No, we wouldn’t.
- Builds Self-Confidence – if we respect ourselves and show ourselves kindness we build self-confidence to ensure that we create healthy boundaries. We have the confidence to say ‘No’ if something is robbing us of joy or being able to decline if we don’t want to do something because it doesn’t align with our core values. We have the confidence to guard our time to use is wisely rather than saying ‘Yes’ all the time.
- Builds a positive view – if we love ourselves we have a more positive attitude towards our life.
- Enables you to accept who you are as a person. You avoid the comparison trap, comparing yourself to others and you stay true to yourself.“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”—Buddha
- Keeps you healthy and happy – looking after your mind and body through movement, healthy eating and taking time out has wonderful benefits to you overall health and happiness.