Discover Yourself Over 50 & Thriving Series

Don’t keep saying ‘one day’ – make it happen

January 22, 2018

Making It Happen After 50


 Making It Happen After 50

In my previous post I wrote about Thriving with the right mindset. I discussed tools like making a life audit and setting some dreams and goals.  Ideas that I had found working through my ‘Thrive Journal’.  If you missed the post you can read it HERE.

I briefly discussed Setting your Intentions to achieve your dreams and goals.  We all have our own ideas of what this means but the most important thing is to acknowledge that if we want something to happen it is up to us as individuals to make it happen.

Over 50 & Thriving - Making It Happen

Setting your Intentions

In the journal THRIVE which I have been working through, once you have undertaken a life audit it is time to set some goals and dreams.  This also means setting your intentions for making things happen every day.  Setting your intentions will keep you on track and help you to focus as you move forward.

For example one of my intentions is:

I choose to look after my mind, body and spirit by nurturing, exercising and making healthier lifestyle choices.

We are our own enemy

I’m guilty of saying:  ‘if only’ or ‘but’ and I’m sure many of you are too.  However, we need to try to stop using these words and replacing them with ‘I can’, reinforcing a more positive attitude to what we want from life.  WE CAN ALL ACHIEVE WHAT WE WANT IF WE WANT IT BADLY ENOUGH.

You can’t stay in one spot we are constantly changing even if we don’t realise it.  Life is about growing, experiencing new things and moving out of your comfort zone. Age shouldn’t be a factor.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

Some of us have big dreams or goals and others just want to find their ‘happy place’ in life.  There is quite a lot written about changing ourselves or rediscovering ourselves and I have written about these topics before.

However, we are all individuals and some of us are quite content with who we are – THAT IS FABULOUS!  But for those who are still wanting more, then you need to just focus on what YOU want and not worry or compare yourself to others and their achievements.  Success means different things to different people.

It is up to you – will you stop saying ‘one day’ and just make it happen?  You have the power to do it, so start making things happen for you.

What is one dream or goal you would like to realise this year? I would love you to share it with me in the comments section below.

A great example of making things happen is my next guest in the Over 50 & Thriving Series.  Kathy Marris from 50 Shades of Age will be sharing her experiences with us in her post ‘How to Slot Travel into your life’. Kathy shares her love of travel and also shows us ways to make sure you don’t put off your dreams.

If you are enjoying the Over 50 & Thriving series I would love you to share with your friends so we can all spread the message and make 2018 the best year ever.

Don’t forget to post your Instagram photos using the hashtag #over50andthriving.

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Let’s Keep Sizzling and Thriving in 2018!

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  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl January 22, 2018 at 10:14

    Great life advice, Sue! Comparison is something I really do need to be more consious off. It is counterproductive and that energy spent could’ve been put to much better use.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 22, 2018 at 12:04

      That is something I struggle with SSG – comparison. I am asked to write guest posts from time to time and always compare my blog or writing to others. I feel I’m not good enough but when I submit the article I always get very positive feedback. I’m my own worst enemy I know. Have a great week and here is to being unique and celebrating it! xx

  • Reply Leanne | January 22, 2018 at 11:42

    I think the words “we can all achieve what we want, if we want it badly enough” sums it up beautifully Sue – we are so good at making excuses and putting things off. I’m coming to realize that I need to start things now rather than later, everything I’ve put off has turned out to be something I wish I’d started much sooner. 2018 is my year of getting on with things – less hesitating and more doing!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 22, 2018 at 12:08

      Now that sounds very positive Leanne. We keep each other motivated so I think 2018 is going to be a great year to Rise and Thrive! They go well together don’t they? Have a beautiful week, my friend xx

  • Reply Jan Wild January 22, 2018 at 15:22

    If it’s to be it’s up to me 🙂
    Great reminder Sue that we have to take action to turn dreams into reality.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:44

      Hi Jan, yes I go through phases where I really can make things happen and then other times when it all seems too hard. We can all do with a little reminder occasionally. Have a beautiful week. x

  • Reply Jenni | Unclutter Your Universe January 22, 2018 at 16:45

    Comparing myself to others is an easy habit to get into and something that most of us waste so much time doing and that’s me included. Confidence is my chosen word and I think that this has a strong connection to comparison. My mission this year is to increase my confidence to a level, where I can follow my own why without needing to compare what, why or how others are doing this.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:45

      You aren’t alone Jenni that is for sure. Most of us feel this way but only some of us admit it. What a great word for the year you have chosen and a very worthy mission. I will join you in that and I know you can do it! 🙂

  • Reply Donna January 22, 2018 at 17:01

    Hi, Sue – Thank you for another thought-provoking article. I’ve always been frustrated by the overly generalized “one day we will….” and much prefer “let’s make a solid plan to…”
    I look forward to reading Kathy’s post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:47

      Yes, I’m a planner Donna. Sometimes I think my husband gets a little overwhelmed with all of my lists 🙂 However there are times when say one day – like the e-book. It wasn’t a huge task but I kept putting it off and wasted so much energy thinking about something I was actually giving away for free. My standards on myself are pretty high so that has a lot to do with it as well. Have a great week and I enjoyed reading Anabel’s post on Sundays at 6. xx

  • Reply Jennifer January 22, 2018 at 22:22

    I set my intentions when I create my Vision Board. It’s a visible reflection of the goals I’m working towards. By putting those pictures and words onto something I look at daily, I am setting a very real intention.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:50

      That is a great way to set intentions Jennifer and I do love your idea of vision boards. You can visually see what your goals are and that is certainly motivating. x

  • Reply Linda Barnby January 22, 2018 at 23:14

    Great post! A great reminder to just DO IT!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:50

      It sounds easy doesn’t it Linda? Sometimes though we just need a little reminder. Thanks so much for stopping by and have a great week! xx

  • Reply shirley corder January 23, 2018 at 01:08

    A great kick in the tail, Sue. What I want to happen, I must make happen or at least make a move towards happening!
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    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:53

      We all need that from time to time, Shirley. When I write these posts it really is for selfish reasons as I am trying to not only motivate others but myself. I’m sure your year is going to be wonderful. xx

  • Reply Kirsty Russell January 23, 2018 at 05:49

    This is exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been struggling with future plans, dealing with current responsibilities and telling myself that I have little control over anything. But that’s not true. I do have control, I just need to choose to use it and stop living in the shadow of my responsibilities. Wise advice!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 23, 2018 at 07:57

      Hi Kirsty! I’m so pleased my post was timely, I love it when that happens and someone who reads it really gets so much out of it. We all feel the struggle but as you say we do have control it is just a matter of reminding ourselves. Have a fabulous week and thank you for stopping by to comment. x

  • Reply Kerrie January 24, 2018 at 07:17

    Thanks for all this amazing advice! It’s a bit timely for me right now as I am in a bit of a slump… being overwhelmed by so much in my life right now.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 24, 2018 at 15:26

      Hi Kerrie! The secret when you are feeling overwhelmed is trying to let go of what isn’t important and take baby steps to work through what is. We all get that way from time to time so just take a deep breath and take five minutes to be still. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you have a beautiful day x

  • Reply Denyse January 24, 2018 at 11:59

    Great post Sue and we can all take something from it as we enter this new IS still new in January, right?

    Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 4/52. Next Week is the FIRST photo-centred prompt (no topic!) called #ShareYourSnaps. Looking forward to seeing everyone’s photos every 5th week this year!

  • Reply Christie Hawkes January 25, 2018 at 08:21

    Thanks for the reminder, Sue. It’s scary to accept that the quality of my life really is up to me, but it’s also liberating and exciting. I’m loving this series!


    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 09:23

      I know Christie and I don’t always practice what I preach. Writing about it on the blog really helps to reinforce ideas and thoughts with me so I get just as much out of my posts as you do! Have a great week and yes I’m loving the series as well. xx

  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle January 25, 2018 at 09:26

    Great reminder Sue! This year I want to feel a greater sense of achievement and purpose. I also like to travel to at least one place per year that I have never been to before. Doesn’t have to be overseas – just somewhere I haven’t been before. #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 09:45

      Hi Min! After the sad time last year with the loss of your Dad, you have really bounced back and I’m sure this year is going to be an exciting one for you. Yes anywhere new is wonderful to discover – in Australia or Overseas. xx

  • Reply Natalie January 25, 2018 at 11:14

    I’m certainly in the “make it happen” camp, Sue. Look forward to Kathy’s post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 16:38

      I know you are Natalie and I always enjoy looking at your travel photos and blog posts x

  • Reply Jo Castro January 25, 2018 at 11:55

    As I’m about to turn 60, making the most of every day and thriving are increasingly important. I think there comes a stage in life when we really do take the ‘live in the moment’ adage seriously – because life is short. Quality of life is up to us at any age (health permitting) – thanks for the reminder to take life by the horns today 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 16:39

      So right Jo. My brother passed away 2 years ago at 65 so turning 60 for me really brought that message of living ‘now’ very close to home. x

  • Reply Leanne | January 25, 2018 at 12:25

    BTW just wanted to say I shared this everywhere and I LOVE the picture you chose – it’s so vibrant (like us!) x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 16:40

      Actually, I thought it was a photo of you LOL:) Thanks so much for sharing and looking forward to our join venture xx

  • Reply Jo Tracey January 25, 2018 at 12:50

    Oh, don’t get me started on comparisonitis! It’s the quickest & most surefire route to an unhappily unsatisfied life – and absolutely the opposite to thriving! As always thought provoking 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 16:41

      Thanks Jo and yes I am guilty of comparisonitis – I love that word! It does eat away and we just have to look at ourselves and appreciate the wonderful beings that we are 🙂

  • Reply Janet Camilleri aka Middle Aged Mama January 25, 2018 at 17:44

    *sigh* … my hubster is the reason behind me putting off some of my dreams until “some day”. I’d dearly love to travel overseas more with him, but he isn’t that keen (yet) … I’ll keep working on him!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2018 at 17:45

      You will just have to keep working away at it Janet or maybe just accidentally on purpose book a trip LOL:) You got him to Bali didn’t you? x

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit January 26, 2018 at 08:22

    I love that Michael Jordan quote. Words that I live by #teamlovinlife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 26, 2018 at 14:50

      It says it all, doesn’t it Leanne? Have a great week!

  • Reply Michele Morin January 27, 2018 at 00:38

    Love this!
    I have some writing goals that I’m going to work on TODAY!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 27, 2018 at 12:18

      Oh good for you Michele I hope you will share them with me!

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski January 30, 2018 at 05:38

    I love the Michael Jordan quote. It looks like you’re making it happen, Sue. Congrats! My goal is to make my blog completely self-sustaining. Slowly but surely it’s happening by being consistent and working on it every day.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 30, 2018 at 10:46

      Oh good for you Rebecca! I’m not sure mine will ever be more than a ‘hobby’ but I do love it and that is what really matters. xx

  • Reply Deborah January 30, 2018 at 15:06

    All of these are issues for me… the ‘if onlys’ and the guilt at decisions I’ve made or things I’ve done or not done. And then there’s the negative self-talk and the envy. I rarely compare myself to someone who has less – it’s always someone (I believe) has more.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 30, 2018 at 16:22

      Well just know you aren’t alone Deb and we ALL feel this way. But look at you now you have changed jobs, have a new look and also a great holiday to look forward to so you ARE MAKING IT HAPPEN! Have a great week! xx

  • Reply Dr Sock February 4, 2018 at 09:37

    Sue, a great reminder to stop thinking about it and just do it. Two of my goals for this year are to set up a studio/gallery in my home, and to finish a first draft of my novel.


    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 4, 2018 at 11:04

      Two great goals Jude! I’d love you to keep in touch with your progress! Have a great weekend xx

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