Many of us have a Bucket List but are we actually living it or just looking at the list and dreaming about it. My guest this week in the Ageing Well, Living Well series, is Emily Jones, who works for a Swiss Adventure Travel company, Alpenwild . Emily discusses her N-O-W theory and why NOW is the perfect time to live your bucket list.
Now is the Perfect Time to Live your Bucket List
My friend called me up and asked if I wanted to do a marathon. I squirmed as she finished her question. I knew I wanted to – running a marathon has been on my bucket list – but oh the idea of running such a distance! The most I had run up to that point was 14 miles, running 10.2 more sounded intimidating. I inhaled and said, “Yes, now or never!”
I like to say, N-O-W is the best time to live your bucket list!
Consider this before you consider reading, what is on your life bucket list? Are there any time sensitive items on the list? What is the item that is calling to you most now?
N-O-W stands for
- No excuses
- What are you waiting for?
What made me squirm when the chance to live my bucket list? Two things: fear and stepping (more like running) outside of my comfort zone. However, I realized these two things lead to excuses that if I failed to address, would keep me from living my bucket list.
I feared failure. I wasn’t in shape, I subconsciously imagined my present self in a future time. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to finish the race or “run fast enough”. I had to go back to my original goal: to run a marathon. My vague goal to run a marathon was a good idea; had I put “Qualify for the Boston Marathon” on the list, I would’ve been a little more intimidated. (That one will move up on the list.)
I was able to identify the false notion of my fear – puting my out-of-shape self in the middle of a long race I’d never trained for – and replace it with a vision of my disciplined, trained self at the end of the finish line, celebrating the sweat, tears and blisters with my friend.
What fears do you have about an item on your bucket list, if any? Are there any false subconscious assumptions that you can eliminate to help you accomplish your goal?
Running Outside of my Comfort Zone
Training for a marathon entails significant life changes in order to keep up with the body’s demands, including going to bed early, getting up early, making time to run, stretch and recover, making healthy meals, staying hydrated and more. Ultimately, discipline is helping me overcome my fears.
According to Webster’s, overcome is a transitive verb that means “to get the better of”. I love that it is a transitive verb – implying a state of promised change with a promised word. It sings an ode to “There is no growth in the comfort zone.” I think that “overcome” means to win one little battle at a time. All of the little battles won – leaving the warm bed, running despite the below-freezing temperatures, taking a hilly route rather than the coaxing route lined with flat, even pavement – add up to help win the big victory, accomplishing a marathon in my case.
What are you waiting for?
“The joy is in the journey, not the destination” they say.
I would have to agree. Full disclosure, I am still training for my marathon. I am set to run it in May of 2020. Despite the early-to-beds and early-to-rises, I’ve already seen the joy in living my bucket list item. I feel the energy I’ve gained in eating healthy. I’ve embraced the joy of reaching the double digits again – all the sudden running miles in the single digits feels like a breeze. Had I not signed up for the marathon, I wouldn’t be experiencing the joys in the journey.
What items are on your bucket list?
They could include places to travel, skills to learn, races to run and more. I want to hear about them in the comments below. I had a goal to travel to Switzerland and found a roundabout way of going through my job. I am so excited to get to go again this year.