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Letting Go and Overcoming Your Limiting Beliefs

January 10, 2020
Letting Go and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs – what are they? We all have them and usually the biggest is our lack of self-belief. Recently I asked the following question in the Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond Facebook Group:

Reflecting on 2019 what held you back from making changes or achieving your goals?

The responses were varied but these two that I’ve selected shared a common theme. Can you relate to them? I know I can.

Myself! My self esteem, my lack of confidence, and my anxiety, combined with being a natural introvert, means that for many years things have passed me by. However, I am improving and have big plans in place for 2020. I feel quietly optimistic that this is going to be one of my best for a long time.


I can honestly say me.


Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Sometimes we are held back because we just don’t have faith in ourselves.  We’ve tried and failed and instead of learning from that experience we write it off by saying ‘I can’t do it’, ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I don’t deserve it’.

Limiting beliefs hold us back and stops us living to our full potential. Limiting beliefs:

  • can stop us from trying new things,
  • they cloud of view and way of thinking so that we don’t see opportunities
  • they keep us stuck and we often don’t even realise how damaging they are
  • they increase our fear of change
  • can be imposed upon us by others

I’ve written before about the Mean Girl who lives in our head and whispers negative thoughts. Not only do we put limiting beliefs on ourselves but we allow others to influence our own self-belief.

If we want to keep moving forward we need to silence that Mean Girl who has been influencing us for too long.

Overcome your limiting beliefs

Overcoming Your Limiting Beliefs

You have the power. You just have to find a way to use it. Time to let go!

You have the power in the present moment to change limiting beliefs and consciously plant the seeds for the future of your choosing. As you change your mind, you change your experience.

Serge King


Identifying our limiting beliefs and replacing them with a more positive one helps us to achieve our goals. In the attached Beliefs Table document. Consider some of the beliefs that are holding you back and how you can replace it with a more positive thought pattern.


There have surely been times in life where you have achieved something.  Think back to what that was, how it felt during the process and the feeling of accomplishment when you achieved it.  This is the basis to rebuild your self-confidence. You can do it!  You might need help or support but you can do it.

In your notebook/journal write down 3 major achievements in your life. How each achievement made you feel and the positive flow on effect from achieving them. Share your achievements in the Facebook group.

Next in Make It Happen 2020 – Breaking your goal into Manageable Microsteps

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  • Reply Patricia Doyle January 10, 2020 at 04:18

    Sue, I am all about releasing self-limiting beliefs this year! As I’ve explored this area, I found references that it’s easier to start (new) beliefs than to let go of old ones. Essentially, crowd out the negative with positive. So my approach will be for every self-limiting belief, I will create a corresponding self-empowering belief…. and turn those into affirmations. That’s my approach anyway…. and I will see how ti works in the months to come!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 10, 2020 at 11:32

      Love the way you are handling your self-limiting beliefs Pat. It takes time to change our thoughts but if you have the tools and resources to use it makes it easier. Look forward to reading about your progress. x

  • Reply Jennifer Jones January 10, 2020 at 06:02

    Another great post Sue. I do love this exercise. I have a photo of me taken while walking the Camino. When I look at that photo I just know that I can do anything. Self belief is at the heart of everything

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 10, 2020 at 11:33

      Thanks Jen and isn’t it wonderful when we achieve something we thought we couldn’t do? I felt like that when I finished both of my marathon runs in my 50s. Have a wonderful weekend and Happy New Year! xx

  • Reply Jo January 10, 2020 at 06:27

    Excellent advice. I think about the excuses that I put in place and the layers between me and where I want to be – and it all comes down to self belief.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 10, 2020 at 11:34

      Self-belief is a struggle for me, Jo – some days I’m full of confidence in myself and my abilities and other days I question. I think that is the case with many so I’m not alone in the way I feel. xx

  • Reply Candi Randolph January 11, 2020 at 21:48

    That Mean Girl sure can be convincing if we let her. Like you and Jo mentioned in the comments above, my confidence will take dips that I have to fight to take back and quiet that voice in my head. I don’t know if I’ll ever “arrive”, but it helps to know that I am more powerful than “she” is and I can win that battle every time if I believe that I can. xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 13, 2020 at 07:15

      Hi Candi, my Mean Girl works overtime sometimes and it is a battle to keep her quiet. Like you I have highs and lows regarding confidence. All we can do is try and remember that we can achieve things, we are strong enough. Have a great week xx

  • Reply Donna Connolly January 12, 2020 at 12:32

    Hi, Sue – You have shared many pearls of wisdom in this post. Even our attributes that we view as our strength (for example, diligence) can limit us from realizing many of our goals (example, I can’t relax because that interfers with my belief of who I am). Lots of great food for thought here.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 13, 2020 at 07:15

      Hi Donna, thank you my friend and I agree that our strength can be a limiting factor – good point!

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl January 13, 2020 at 07:16

    ‘ A future of my choosing’, such empowering words!

    Thanks for sharing these words, Sue!

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 13, 2020 at 07:25

      My pleasure SSG – have a great week xx

  • Reply Natalie January 13, 2020 at 10:14

    Hi Sue – Very good advice and useful tool to overcome limiting beliefs. Thanks for sharing this post. #lifethisweek

  • Reply Deborah January 13, 2020 at 10:32

    I can certainly relate to these beliefs and stumbling blocks. The whole enoughness / worth thing is a big one for me.

    I’ve downloaded the table and will fill it out. Hopefully thinking of something to replace the problematic belief with will be a step forward!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:01

      Hi Deb, I hope you find the table useful. From the comments I’ve received, it appears that Limiting Beliefs is something many of us have and find difficult to overcome. I suppose it just takes time, plugging away and reinforcing the positive until it becomes our natural thought. Have a great wee! x

  • Reply Leanne | January 13, 2020 at 11:50

    Hi Sue – I’m definitely a victim of that little negative voice inside my head that tells me I’m less than I’m capable of being. Fortunately I’ve woken up to the fact that I’m more valuable than I’ve been brought up to believe, but it’s a constant battle to believe that I can achieve what I set my mind to. Limiting beliefs will always be a part of my life – but I also like Pat’s idea of adding in so many new positive ones that it drowns out the Debbie Downer variety!

    • Reply Leanne | January 15, 2020 at 18:30

      Back again for #MLSTL and another great group of posts to read and share. Thanks again for co-hosting with me and for all the encouragement you send my way xx and I’ve shared this on my SM ?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:03

      Hi Leanne, I agree with Pat about drowning out Debbie Downer. It takes effort to change the way we think but if we can just keep working on reinforcing the positives we will start to think that way. x

  • Reply CJ January 13, 2020 at 19:17

    I love the notion of ‘the mean girl who lives inside’. So very true. I try to teach my girls that you have to treat yourself mentally the same way you do your friends. And your words really help solidify that. Nicely put.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:05

      Hi CJ thanks for dropping by to leave me a comment. I love how you are teaching your daughters because that’s when the limiting beliefs begin – way back in childhood. We need to be friends with ourselves don’t we and as you say treat yourself mentally the way you do your friends. Love this concept! Have a great week. x

  • Reply Laurie January 13, 2020 at 23:17

    Thanks for the wonderful encouragement. I need to get that Mean Girl out of my head! I will ork on the table.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:06

      Hi Laurie, you aren’t alone as I believe we all suffer from the Mean Girl and sometimes she is just a bully isn’t she? Good luck with the table and let me know if you find it valuable. Have a lovely week. xx

  • Reply Erica/Erika January 14, 2020 at 07:17

    Limiting Beliefs is a significant topic, Sue, applying to all parts of our life. You have likely heard the saying ‘if you believe you can or you believe you can’t, you are right.’ A great, thought-provoking post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:10

      Hi Erica, I love your quote and will use it if I may. It is so true isn’t it? It all comes down to how we think and although sometimes that Mean Girl is holding court, we can silence her. Have a beautiful week, my friend. xx

  • Reply Suger January 14, 2020 at 10:36

    Such great advice, thank you for sharing.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:11

      Hi Melissa, thank you for stopping by and I’m happy to hear that you found some useful takeaways to help with Limiting beliefs. Have a great week! x

  • Reply Leslie Susan Clingan January 14, 2020 at 12:14

    So sad that we can be our own worst enemy or own biggest stumbling block. Certainly the case, here!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:12

      You aren’t alone, Leslie. I’m the same and many others allow themselves to be their own stumbling block. Just remember how unique and special you are and that your smile lights up a room. Have a lovely day and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Denyse Whelan January 15, 2020 at 17:36

    I am pleased to see such positive examples Sue. Great work.

    I started saying “yes” when my automatic response is NO. And that has been a powerful game changer for me.

    Thanks so much for joining in the 2nd Life This Week in 2020 and next week the optional prompt is 3/51 Remember This 20.1.2020. I do hope to see you link up too. Denyse.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:13

      Thanks Denyse. Being able to Say ‘Yes’ and overcome an automatic response is a great game changer. Thanks for sharing your tip and also for hosting Life This Week. See you Monday! x

  • Reply Margaretha Montagu January 15, 2020 at 18:41

    So difficult to get rid of limiting beliefs…some are so deeply entrenched that they are all but invisible. The Belief Table seems a practical way to approach getting rid of limiting beliefs for good. Great article, Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:14

      Hi Margaretha, lovely to hear from you. Yes, limiting beliefs are definitely a challenge to overcome and I hope the table can provide a starting point for readers to actually examine what their limiting beliefs are. Have a beautiful day and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply A,my Johnson January 16, 2020 at 00:57

    Such a great inspirational post for the new year. TFS!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:15

      Thanks Amy and I’m pleased you found some inspiration for the New Year. Let’s do this! xx

  • Reply Michele Vosberg January 16, 2020 at 03:43

    It is just in the last year or two that I have really become aware of my limiting beliefs. Now that I have, I have started to work on them. I try to remind my self of my accomplishments, and read books or listen to podcasts that will help me overcome some of my limiting beliefs. I find that I often need to hear the positive message many times before it starts to stick!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:16

      Hi Michele, I’m like you in that I need to hear positive reinforcement many times before I actually start to believe it. I still have limiting beliefs and probably always will but I’ve learned how to overcome them, even if it is challenging to do. Have a lovely week and thanks for stopping by. xx

  • Reply Agnes Knowles January 16, 2020 at 06:58

    I’ve often said I’d go far if I would get out of my own way! By taking baby steps I do believe I’m getting better!! Thank you for the reminder, Sue!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 16, 2020 at 07:17

      Love your saying, Agnes and it is so true! I might use that if I may? I think that baby steps is the answer and I’m covering that in my next post! Have a great week. x

  • Reply Debbie Harris January 16, 2020 at 11:51

    Another great post Sue and full of words of wisdom. You are right we all have the mean girl inside us. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences #mlstl

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2020 at 07:10

      Thanks for sharing Deb and joining us at #MLSTL despite current circumstances. xx

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle January 16, 2020 at 13:58

    Oh my goodness Jane’s comment could be me! I have missed many opportunities and possibilities but then again I did grab quite a few too. I do have a lot of self limiting beliefs though Sue and so much more work to do on myself. I even mention it in my post today – as something I need to work on. At least I know I’m not alone with this problem. Thanks so much Sue and I hope that 2020 is a fulfilling year for you! xo #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2020 at 07:12

      I think we all have too many limiting beliefs Min and I also believe that we can’t change everything all at once. Starting to recognise those beliefs that are holding us back and reflecting on how we can work to change them is a great start. I’m hoping to not put so much pressure on myself in 2020 and do more of what I want to do rather than what I feel I should be doing. xx

  • Reply Nancy Andres January 16, 2020 at 23:18

    Referring to the negative voice inside as “the mean girl” definitely puts that voice in its place. Yay for you, for providing THE LIMITING BELIEFS TABLE. It can help us see, and let go of limiting beliefs, and make progress replacing them with more effective self-talk. Shared on SM. Thanks for hosting #MLSTL. What a fabulous party!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2020 at 07:13

      Hi Nancy, I’m sharing tools that I have found have helped me. Limiting beliefs can be difficult to change and the first step is to actually recognise what they are. I think the table is a good starting point. Thanks for sharing and being part of #MLSTL. Have a great week. x

  • Reply Christine January 17, 2020 at 11:03

    This is a post that is clearly resonating for many. I must say I was raised to believe I could do anything I want and I’ve maintained that way of thinking. That doesn’t mean I’m confident with everything: I’m also very self aware and know very well my weaknesses and the skills I lack. I do subscribe to the theory that there’s nothing wrong with trying something and failing. Just educates your next attempt.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2020 at 07:27

      Hi Christine, I think much of who we become can be influenced by how we are raised. You seem so well-adjusted and although you might not feel confident all the time, you certainly come across as being confident and going for what you want. I agree that failure can be a wonderful learning experience and a time for growth. x

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins January 19, 2020 at 00:33

    Hi Sue,
    This post is so telling…sometimes we are our “own worst enemies” – I know that is true for me. Self-talk is so limiting if we let it be. I know for me it can create a lot of anxiety and I am consciously working to change the feedback loop continually running in my head. Part of it is perfectionism – my self hates to fail so I really have to force myself out of my comfort zone sometimes. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2020 at 07:23

      We are so similar Nancy and like you I hate to fail that is why I was so disappointed in myself towards the end of last year. I had taken on too much and was not doing a good job of anything. I constantly battle my limiting beliefs but writing ways to overcome it helps me as well as my readers. have a lovely week and enjoyed your post about your Mum’s sewing box. xx

  • Reply Christie Hawkes January 19, 2020 at 07:33

    I love the idea of building confidence by looking at what we have achieved in the past and analyzing what skills and character traits allowed us that success. Top three off the top of my head: ran a marathon, earned a master’s degree, started a blog. Thanks, as always, for hosting #MLSTL!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2020 at 07:18

      Hi Christie, I think too often we forget what we have actually achieved and I love your top 3 – 2 of which I’ve accomplished as well. It does build confidence and I know running a marathon certainly taught me that I was capable of much more than I gave myself credit for. Thanks for being part of #MLSTL and see you next week. xx

  • Reply Corinne Rodrigues January 21, 2020 at 01:42

    This fits in so well with my plans for this year to focus on myself and my growth, Sue. Thanks for the nudge to journal on this on my self-limiting beliefs.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 27, 2020 at 06:39

      My pleasure Corinne and I look forward to reading about your new focus in 2020. x

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