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In the ‘face’ of death, I learned to celebrate life – Guest Post

August 29, 2017
Learn to celebrate life

Learn to celebrate life

This week, my guest is Carol Cassara from A Healing Spirit.  Another blogging friend of mine, Carol has recently shown that we all have the ability to follow our passion – if we want it enough.  Carol recently started a new business ‘A Healing Spirit’ and I would encourage you to link through to read more about Carol in the links provided at the end of this post.

I love Carol’s forthright manner but she is also very caring. This caring nature in helping people deal with grief combined with her products which are beautifully presented is very inspiring.  Though I’m not sure how I feel about ‘connecting to the other side’ I do believe that there is an afterlife.  I am very interested in how we deal with grief and anxiety in our lives, especially after the loss of a loved one of if we have been affected by cancer.  I’ve recently purchased a healing pack from Carol which I will be writing a review about in September.

In her post today, Carol looks at Death and how that can actually help us to Celebrate life!  For me personally, I have feared death and I don’t think I’m alone in thinking this way.  Carol has written a beautiful yet poignant account of her experiences today and I’m sure you will enjoy her thoughts as much as I do.


Carol writes:

Learn to celebrate life

Only familiarity with the thought of death creates true inner freedom. –Albert Schweitzer

Before death touched my life, I feared it in a big way. I didn’t like to talk about it, much less consider the possibility of it happening to a loved one or even me.

Ironic that I spent so much of volunteer time over the past 30 years with people who are dying.  But as they say: no accidents.

Over time, I’ve become more comfortable with the idea of death. Oh, I don’t want to die. I’d rather not. But that’s not one of my choices. Or yours.

But what I found was that the reality of death has made life a bigger celebration.

Knowing that life is finite—and that one more day, week, month year is not granted everyone—has made me appreciate every bit of life—even the hard times.  I am intent on making the most of every minute granted me on this earth.

Isn’t it also ironic that out, the thing I feared most has become my biggest teacher?

Part of getting to this point was learning more about the Mexican culture’s fall celebration of the Day of the Dead—a time in late October in which the dead are said to be given permission to come down to earth and celebrate life with family and friends here on earth.

Whether this is a literal belief or a ritualistic metaphor doesn’t matter because the celebration brings the subject of death to the table. It is, after all, a universal. No one escapes it, and Mexicans have what I believe to be a healthy approach.

“The Mexican … is familiar with death, jokes about it, caresses it, sleeps with it, celebrates it. True, there is as much fear in his attitude as in that of others, but at least death is not hidden away: he looks at it face to face, with impatience, disdain or irony.” 

-Nobel prize-winning Mexican author Octavio Paz

So it’s true: The reality of death makes life a bigger celebration and on the Day of the Dead, those who have left this life come back to tell us that.

When my mother knew she was dying, she turned to me and said plaintively, “Now I’ll miss everything.”

Her words inspired me to do as much as I can.  To really LIVE in every possible way. To have the experiences of a lifetime, as I define them.

The reality of death has also been the catalyst for asking myself the hard questions about what I believe, for digging deeper into my own personal spirituality. Facing my own mortality and my own spirituality, I’ve found, assuages some of my longstanding fear of death. Meeting it up close –and being fully present with others when dying and death are near – have allowed me to be more fully present in my own life. Maybe you’ve had the same experience.

Does it sound strange that I see death as an excuse to celebrate life?

At A Healing Spirit I work with people who are grieving or longing to connect with the other side. They, too, are coming to terms with the reality of death and how it impacts their lives and I love hearing their thoughts.

I’d love your thoughts, too.


Meet Carol

Learn to celebrate life

Inspired by her best friend’s seven year battle with cancer, Carol launched A Healing Spirit/support for healing last spring and dedicated it to her friend. Her products and services gently support people who have significant chronic and other diseases, such as cancer, M.S., Crohns among many others, and also provide support to those who are grieving. She offers condolence gift packages at two price points, and similarly, offers two packages for those who are working on healing in treatment of any kind or just dealing with an illness.

She’s discounted shipping of the gift packages to Australia and Canada; US shipping is free. Carol would love you to browse her products and services at AHealingSpirit.org and sign up for her newsletter on the bottom of just about any page of her website.

Feel free to Like her FB page, too! And, since he is also a hypnotherapist and past life regressionist, for readers of this post, she is offering a 20 percent discount for any regression booked in August but carried out via Skype in October or November. Email her at carol@ahealing spirit.org for more information.

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Website – ‘A Healing Spirit’





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  • Reply Donna August 29, 2017 at 08:01

    Hi, Carol (and Sue) – Thank you for sharing this very thought-provoking post. Being ‘fully present’ in our own lives now (and not waiting for later) is a very important reminder.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 29, 2017 at 14:40

      Carol wrote a beautiful post, didn’t she Donna. Have a beautiful week. xx

  • Reply Shirley Corder August 30, 2017 at 02:08

    Thank you for sharing this and getting us thinking. I know when I was fighting cancer, I faced death several times, and although I didn’t fear BEING dead, I didn’t like the idea of going through the process. The Best of Everything. #SYW

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 31, 2017 at 13:55

      Yes sometimes we need to be in a situation where our mortality or that of a friend to really make us appreciate what we have. xx

  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid September 1, 2017 at 16:13

    Thank you Sue for linking up and co-hosting at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. I shared your post on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, and Twitter.

  • Reply Christie Hawkes September 2, 2017 at 04:42

    Thanks Sue for sharing this on #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty and to Carol for sharing your thoughts on death and celebrating life. I think a certain fear of death is part of being human and having a survival instinct. If we can use it as motivation to really live life while we are in it, all the better. Death is certain, truly living isn’t. Thanks for the reminder.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 4, 2017 at 13:16

      I love that sentence Christie ‘Death is certain, truly living isn’t’ that is so true isn’t it? Thanks for co-hosting #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty and for taking time to stop by and comment. Have a beautiful day. xx

  • Reply Roseann Hampton September 2, 2017 at 10:32

    I would agree – when you experience a death it really makes you think about how you are living your life! Thanks for sharing at The Blogger’s Pit Stop!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 4, 2017 at 13:15

      I lost my brother almost two years ago and it was quite unexpected. He was only 65 so that really made me sit up and take notice of what I was doing with my life. Thanks for visiting Roseanne and have a beautiful day xx

  • Reply Teresa - Aging Like a Fine Wine September 6, 2017 at 13:30

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on death and dying. I was a hospice nurse for a couple years and it forced me to look at my own immortality quite often. Every day is a gift! Thank you for sharing at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty! Now following you on Pinterest, Twitter and liked your Facebook page!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 8, 2017 at 05:19

      Oh that must have been hard Teresa and I admire people like yourself who want to care for those who are in their last days. You are so right that every day is a gift but it is so easy to forget as we get caught up in life, isn’t it?

  • Reply Beverly September 7, 2017 at 12:18

    What a lovely story. It certainly makes you think. Thanks for sharing your wonderful posts at Over The Moon Party.
    See you next week.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 8, 2017 at 05:07

      Thanks Bev and I do hope you are okay with ‘Irma’. Take care and thank you for stopping by to comment, this post certainly does make you think and appreciate what we have in life. xx

  • Reply The perfect gift - A Healing Spirit Gift Pack - Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond September 13, 2017 at 01:02

    […] a guest writer for my August theme – 31 days to Celebrate Life Now! Her poignant post about How in the ‘face of death’ she learned to Celebrate Life was personal and touching and certainly brought home the message of not taking life for […]

  • Reply Lori Hill-Smith September 18, 2017 at 11:37

    A very thought provoking post! So important to savor every day we are given!


    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 19, 2017 at 04:48

      Yes Carol certainly had an important message for us all, Lori. Have a great day! xx

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