A to Z Challenge 2016

‘L’ is for Letting Go – Why you need to let go & accept before you can move forward

April 14, 2016
Letting Go

Today I close the door

Do you ever feel like something is holding you back from actually getting on with life?  Something gnawing away at the back of your mind or in your heart that just won’t let you go?  Something or someone holding you back from happiness?

Most of us at some time in our life need to go through the process of letting go.  It might be letting go of a loved one who has passed away, letting go of a toxic relationship or letting go of the negativity in our life.

We all have dreams and want to move forward with our lives but until we fully let go of what is holding us back, we will stay in the same place.

Sometimes letting go can be painful or requires change and that is why we resist it.  Perhaps we feel guilty ‘letting go’ of a loved one who has died, because we fear with time our memories of them will fade, or we don’t want to face the finality.  Perhaps we are harbouring resentment and bitterness which is twisting us up inside and preventing us from being happy.

We fear the future or change and so reluctantly hold on to something which is not healthy for our mental and spiritual health.

We have been taught not to give up but sometimes we need to walk away from unhealthy relationships no matter how hard it may be.

Until we accept what is holding us back and make the decision to ‘let go’ we will never move forward.

decide to let go

6 Reasons to Let Go, Accept & Move Forward

1. Improved mental state

Once you let go you immediately feel a load has been lifted and you feel lighter.  The cloud hanging over you has gone.

2. Positivity

Letting go and accepting paves the way for a positive future with new possibilities

3. You deserve to be happy

You will never be happy if you are holding resentment, or trying to hold onto something that is no longer there.  You deserve happiness in life and ‘letting go’ is the start to a new and exciting future.

4. No Regrets

Research has shown that living without regrets may be a key to healthy aging http://www.livescience.com/19788-regrets-healthy-aging.html

5. Less stress and anxiety

When you let go and accept you feel less stressed and anxious.  Your blood pressure lowers and your immune system improves.

6. Improved self-esteem

You have made a decision and can now move forward in your life.  You had the courage to take that decision even though it may have been frightening or painful.

“Do you have something that you really need to let go of in order to have a healthier and happier life?”

Letting Go Quote

Here is a post I found on tinybuddha.com suggesting 40 Ways to let go and feel less pain

As Queen Elsa in the movie Frozen sings:  Let it Go!  In the movie, Elsa realizes that she doesn’t need to hide her abilities and declares herself free of all restrictions she has put up with since childhood.  She celebrates being able to use her power and to let go of her past. https://youtu.be/L0MK7qz13bU

What is one thing that you can let go of today?


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  • Reply Jeffrey Scott April 14, 2016 at 12:48

    Letting go. Good suggestion. But I’m not really sure what I may need to let go of. I’m pretty happy with who I am and in what direction I am heading. It’s not so much letting go for me, but getting started on tasks I know I need to get started on.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 14, 2016 at 21:01

      Hi Jeffrey, hopefully my ‘M’ is for Motivation might help you get started. It is great though that you don’t have anything holding you back I’m sure you will do what you set out to do it is just a matter of starting. Have a great day!

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill April 14, 2016 at 21:20

    I’ve learned a lot about letting go over the last few years. If we hold on to things too tightly they end up causing us pain. I needed to face life with my arms open and let our children go when they become adults, let bad friendships go, let boring jobs go, let perfectionism go…… my list could go on all day, but I’m getting there! Great post Sue. Leanne @ cresting the hill

  • Reply Kala Ravi April 14, 2016 at 21:26

    Letting go is really a powerful way to move ahead. Past wounds, hurts, biases, fears are some things that hold us back. We need to break these shackles and let go of them. Beautiful post!
    @KalaRavi16 from

  • Reply Michelle April 14, 2016 at 21:32

    So many great tips in how to achieve the letting go process here Sue. I also focus on #2, thinking positive thoughts especially during difficult times. I know in my own life it has been difficult to let go of some things, but once we work through the process, freedom takes hold. Today the one thing I would say I have to let go of, is SUGAR! I know laugh, but I’m on a personal quest to cut it out of my diet, or at least cut back much of it. You know the baked goods we see all over blog land! So far this has been my first week without a cookie, cake or other refined junk I shouldn’t be eating.

  • Reply gigi April 14, 2016 at 21:35

    what an awesome A-Z series Sue!

  • Reply Positive Vibes April 14, 2016 at 22:12

    Letting go is for sure a step towards positivety and self happiness
    Loved the post ☺
    PositiveVibes ✌
    L for Love ❤

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2016 at 15:38

      Oh I’m so pleased you enjoyed the post. Thank you for stopping by and have a lovely day 🙂

  • Reply Stuart Nager April 15, 2016 at 06:19

    Thanks. I needed this.

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    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2016 at 15:45

      Oh I’m so pleased my post was helpful Stuart. Have a lovely day 🙂

  • Reply Joy April 15, 2016 at 06:29

    Great reminders, Sue! I particularly love that one that says ‘Letting go is about accepting that there are things that cannot be”. A lot of the times people think letting go is a sign of being defeated. But actually, as you pointed out, it’s an opening up to new possibilities and having the wisdom to recognize what no longer works for us or our growth. Have a great rest of the week, and thank you for this wisdom-filled post! #pbaus

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2016 at 15:46

      Hi Joy! Yes sometimes accepting that something is not meant to be can be so difficult but there is a world of opportunities awaiting us if we just take that step. Thank you for stopping by you have a wonderful week and hope to talk again soon.

  • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2016 at 07:19

    Oh thank you Gigi! Great feedback and I’m glad you are enjoying the series.

  • Reply Kathleen April 15, 2016 at 11:24

    Who would guess that ‘L’ could be so inspiring? I love your quotes in the post, so true, as is your observations on letting go.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2016 at 15:48

      Oh thanks Kathleen. This challenge has certainly expanded my thought patterns that is for sure. Have a lovely weekend and thanks for stopping by 🙂

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill April 15, 2016 at 12:14

    Hi Sue – stumbled and pinned this today xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 15, 2016 at 15:48

      Thank you! 🙂

  • Reply Chicky April 17, 2016 at 02:44

    Hi Sue!
    I think I’d do good to let go of my fears!
    You’re right. Acceptance is the first step in letting go of things harmful to us. Especially toxic relationships.
    I really loved the first two picture quotes you picked for this topic.
    – Chicky @ http://www.mysteriouskaddu.com

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 17, 2016 at 07:04

      It isn’t always easy Chicky but the benefits are great if we can overcome our fears. Have a lovely day and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply Wendy April 19, 2016 at 13:00

    This is such a great reminder, Sue. Letting go is sometimes so hard, but sometimes it is just something we must do. I am really enjoying your A to Z challenge, Sue, such great topics! 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2016 at 21:30

      Thank you Wendy your word means a lot to me and I’ve really found the challenge has extended me. I didn’t think I had it in me really but I’ve proven myself wrong. 🙂

  • Reply Michelle April 20, 2016 at 19:34

    Hi Sue, Just wanted you to know this post will be featured with a shout out on my party this week – Party at My Place as it was MOST VIEWED from last week.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 21, 2016 at 07:00

      Oh Wow! Thanks Michelle what a lovely surprise. I’ve been a bit irregular visiting the party but after my break I will hopefully feel more energised and organised. Thank you so much again and also for the I Am Woman series.

  • Reply Sandy Sandmeyer April 25, 2016 at 10:51

    Letting go is such a healing process, Sue. It really shows you what’s really important in life. Thanks for sharing at the Over the Moon Link Party.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 25, 2016 at 11:19

      Thanks Sandy! Yes letting go is not easy but a weight is certainly lifted when we do go through the process.

  • Reply Corinne Rodrigues June 3, 2016 at 16:48

    Letting go is difficult, but is the only way for us to move forward.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 15:57

      Thanks for stopping by Corinne. Letting go is not easy at all but once we try we certainly feel lighter and ready to take on something new.

  • Reply gigi June 3, 2016 at 18:29

    I love the song Let It Go! Have you heard Pentatonix sing it? Or seen Idina Menzel sing it with classroom instruments on the Jimmy Fallon Show? Its great! I love the quotes in this post Sue.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 5, 2016 at 16:03

      I haven’t seen either version of Let it Go so should check them out. I love a good quote!

  • Reply Suzi T June 5, 2016 at 20:46

    I let go of a toxic friendship last year. Will always miss the person but gosh I feel better. It had to happen.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 7, 2016 at 08:46

      I agree it is hard Suzi and sometime we feel guilty but if the person is not ‘good’ for us we just have to take the step and remove them from our lives. So glad that you feel better and that you accept it had to happen. Have a great day!

  • Reply Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life June 7, 2016 at 19:32

    Love both the quotes…it’s hard to let go sometimes I think because we are scared of the change that might occur. Good or bad, change is difficult for a lot of people!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 8, 2016 at 09:34

      Change is so difficult Sanch but once we bite the bullet and make changes we feel a weight lifted from our shoulders.

  • Reply Debbie-Dabble June 11, 2017 at 06:45

    Another wonderful post!! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 11, 2017 at 09:51

      Thanks for your encouraging words, Debbie and for stopping by to comment. Have a beautiful day x

  • Reply Christina Daggett October 28, 2018 at 14:50

    A few years ago my 93 year old mom dis-owned me. I learned from my younger sister, that my older siblings may have had something to do with it, but when I tried to talk to my mom about it, she refused to tell me the truth about why she had done it. I felt crushed and betrayed by a family who I thought loved me. It took awhile to let all this go. I finally realized that there was nothing wrong with me, and that I couldn’t control the behaviors of others. With my husbands support I was able to get through it, and not hang on to bitterness or resentment. Thanks for an enlightening post, Sue

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 29, 2018 at 07:10

      What a difficult time for you Christina and I can certainly feel your hurt. These feelings would not be easy to overcome but how wonderful that your husband has been such a support which you needed. It is so hard to let go of the bitterness and resentment but once you do, you feel so much lighter and can move forward with life. Life isn’t always fair, but it all comes down to how we can handle the hurt and disappointment. I’m sending you my love and hugs and have a beautiful week. x

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