Children’s books and spending time with children can remind us of the simplest things in life. My daughter has been reading to her sons since they were born and both now have a love of books even at the young ages of 6 and 2. She includes books that are fun to read, educational books and one in particular that I love is ‘Have you Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids’ by Carol McLoud. Perhaps you have heard of it or read it with your children or grandchildren?
As adults we get caught up in the stresses of life and forget the basic principles that help us to find happiness and contentment in life. The principles that make us caring and considerate of not only others but ourselves.
In the Women Living Well After 50 Facebook Group, I’ve started a ‘weekly focus’. Recent topics have included Finding Silence and Stillness each day and this week we have put the focus on the Value of a Smile. This coming week the focus will be on Kindness to others and ourselves. Sometimes I feel that words can be overused and lose impact but now when there is so much pain in the world is the perfect time to focus on the simple act of being kind to others.
Filling a bucket each day
In the book , Have you Filled your Bucket today?, the author, Carol McCloud uses a metaphor of filling a bucket and dipper, to illustrate that when we choose to be kind, we not only fill the buckets of those around us, but also fill our OWN bucket! Conversely, when we are unkind to others we are dipping into their buckets and taking happiness away.
Such a simple metaphor but one I know my grandson remembered. He often does something for me and explains that he is ‘filling your bucket with happiness, Nan.’
The story reminds us that showing kindness and appreciation helps to make the world a happier place, which we all know is not the case at the moment. Being kind has many health benefits for the giver and the receiver.
The Benefits of Showing Kindness
- You make someone feel special and loved
- You will feel happier and more fulfilled being kind to others
- The reward of a smile and knowing you have made someone feel good makes you feel good
- Kindness is contagious
- It builds relationships – we are nicer people to be around
- Improves your mental well-being
- We feel more compassion
- You will feel more positive and enjoy life
- It makes us appreciate and be grateful for all we have
- We learn tolerance
We can be a role model to our children and grandchildren who learn from us. Our own actions influence their behaviour and showing kindness may just help world be a nicer place to live in.
Random acts of kindness don’t have to be big
I remember paying for a cup of coffee for the next person at a Coffee Shop. For the price of a coffee I felt excitement and joy at doing something for a complete stranger.
Asking a friend ‘if they are okay?’ I hadn’t seen a friend on Facebook over the last week and this was unusal. I gave her a quick call to see if she was okay and she was so appreciative of my call.
It is the little things that matter.
Becoming your own best friend
Why is it that we find it easy to show kindness and love to others but feel guilty about showing that same respect to ourselves? We need to friends with ourself.
Being kind to others is so important but we also need to be kind to ourselves.
Life gets busy or because of limiting beliefs we forget that we need show ourselves some kindness. Self-care and self-love are important areas to truly become a Woman Living Well. We need to become friends with ourselves and treat ourselves the way we treat our best friend – with respect and love.
Making time to Nurture yourself and you will be a better person for not only for yourself but for others.