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3 ways my grandson helps me find Joy

September 1, 2016
3 ways my grandson helps me find joy

3 ways my grandson helps me find joy


“Joy comes to us in ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary” – Brene Brown

The first thing I thought about when I read this quote was my darling grandson!


From the moment Ethan was born just two short years ago he has brought constant joy to my life.  Now I’m not saying I haven’t felt joy before or after his birth from other areas in my life, but I love the pure, unadulterated feeling of joy that I experience when I’m with him.

Joy:  a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.

Each week, since he was born, I have spent the day with him and took over minding him one day per week when his Mum and Dad went back to work.  What a privilege I feel being able to have this one-on-one time with him and watching him develop from a vulnerable baby to a toddler and my ‘main little man’ as I call him.

Through his eyes I have experienced wonder and yes ‘joy’ to the point where my heart actually sings!

3 ways my grandson helped me find Joy in my life

1. Slow Down

Ethan has also taught me to slow down and appreciate the moment.  As a parent, we love our children but unfortunately, life and responsibilities can rob us of time.  We want the best for our children and that means working hard to provide a secure, safe and comfortable environment.

The greatest advantage of being a grandparent is having the time to just sit and explore with our grandchildren.  My favourite times have been when I hear ‘Nan! Nan!’ and we sit on the step watching a lizard darting in and out of it’s home.  Or we watch ants, or play in the garden or lay down and watch the clouds.  No rush, no need to be anywhere except the here and now.

2. Breathe

There are so many moments in our life where if we took a moment to step back and breathe, we would find joy.  That uplifting feeling that can bring so much happiness to our lives.

3. Appreciate your surroundings

Another area I find great joy is nature.  A beautiful blue sky can fill me with joy and well-being.  The sound of the ocean or the expanse of a mountain range or the delicate beauty of a flower.  Yes, it sounds like a cliche but it is true. The beauty of nature can be so powerful, unfortunately sometimes we are too busy to appreciate it.

In my post “Why you need to slow down and live the life you want now” I write about slowing down and appreciating life.  I also talk about our priorities and the cost of wanting to provide a comfortable life for our families.

I recently met a fabulous lady, Kimberly Montgomery from  She is all about happiness and joy and her purpose in life is to help others find their own joy. I asked Kimberly to write a guest post for Sizzling Towards Sixty, How to Find Happiness and I’ve left the link here for you to read.

How to Find Happiness


You are in control of how busy you are – so make time to ‘smell the roses’ and enjoy life – we only get one chance!

So let's stop trying to chase down the extraordinary and find joy in the simple things of life.Click To Tweet

Joy is such a small word – only three letters, but it can provide a wealth of happiness if we just take the time to appreciate what lie has to offer.


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  • Reply Mason Canyon May 6, 2016 at 09:16

    What an inspiring post and such a worthy message. Thanks for sharing. We should all take this to heart and enjoy life more.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 6, 2016 at 10:28

      Thank you Mason, you made my day with your positive comments. Have a beautiful weekend and I hope you visit again.

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill May 6, 2016 at 12:10

    You are so blessed to have that little boy in your life – grandchildren definitely bring joy with them! Their fresh little faces and fascination with all the things we take for granted can’t help but make us smile 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 7, 2016 at 06:36

      I know Leanne he just fills my life with light. You will now have this wonderful experience with Sophia! xx

  • Reply Lata Sunil May 6, 2016 at 14:01

    Beautiful and inspiring post. A good reminder for taking one moment at a time and feeling joy.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 7, 2016 at 06:38

      Thank you Lata I’m happy that you enjoyed my post. My little man certainly brings me such joy I can’t help but appreciate life when I am with him.

  • Reply LuAnn Braley May 7, 2016 at 09:56

    Hi Sue, I’m following you on Twitter and subscribing from the Blogger’s Pit Stop. I have to work at joy most of the time…but it is so worth it! I did the A to Z this year too! There are so many people participating it’s hard to get to even a fraction, but I got to as many as I could.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 8, 2016 at 04:59

      Hi LuAnn Welcome! I’m so pleased you stopped by to comment. I know what you mean about AtoZ I found it difficult trying to keep up with commenting on others and completely missed some. It was a great experience though.

  • Reply Corinne Rodrigues May 9, 2016 at 11:50

    How lovely that you have Ethan – children do have a way of making us take notice of things – and I’m guessing with a grandchild, you have so much more time and patience. I’m so glad you joined us despite the blogger burnout!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 9, 2016 at 19:23

      Yes Corinne he just fills my heart with joy! We have such fun together and yes having a grandchild is different we have the time to spend with them and just ‘be’. Glad I could make Friday Reflection so hopefully see you next week!

  • Reply Kathleen May 9, 2016 at 16:46

    You describe your time with Ethan so beautifully, that is why grandmothers are so very special and important. A nice way to experience joy. Joy is such a lovely word, I feel happy just reading it. Yes,as you mention, appreciating the creation around us is so awesome too.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 9, 2016 at 19:24

      Thank you Kathleen I never thought I could be so close to a grandchild but it certainly is an extra special bond that is for sure.

  • Reply Michelle May 9, 2016 at 19:32

    You described my sentiments exactly when I’m with my two grandchildren. Joy! This weekend being in the mountains with my girls gave me the joy of just being!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 9, 2016 at 20:26

      I’m so glad you enjoyed your weekend Michelle what a beautiful way to spend Mother’s Day.

  • Reply Becky, Cuddle Fairy May 9, 2016 at 20:21

    You are so right – we should enjoy & find joy in life! We only get the one chance we might as well enjoy it to the fullest. #MG

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 9, 2016 at 20:26

      That is exactly right Becky! Thanks for stopping by and have a great week. x

  • Reply Carol Cassara May 10, 2016 at 01:06

    Children are the epitome of joy. They can make the old feel young, the sick feel healthy, and the brokenhearted healed.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 10, 2016 at 07:55

      They certainly are Carol and you have captured this perfectly in your comment. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Cheryl Nicholl May 10, 2016 at 01:30

    What a wonderful message and you’re so right- we need to just stop and smell the roses, even the stinky diapers. HA!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 10, 2016 at 07:57

      Yes the stinky diapers are a trial Cheryl but it is all worth it!

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski May 10, 2016 at 09:38

    Enjoy your time with him. It goes so fast. There are so many things to be joyful about. I’m convinced there are more good things than bad in the world if you look for them.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 10, 2016 at 12:00

      Hi Rebecca! My grandson is growing too fast – he is 2 years old now but I just love him to bits. It is so lovely to have people like you in the world with a positive outlook on life. We need more of you!

  • Reply Carolann May 10, 2016 at 22:49

    Yes, you described the word joy perfectly! I can’t wait to have grandchildren. I’m hoping this year as the kids are planning their family. Thanks so much for sharing this. I was able to feel the joy right through your words…ahhhhh wonderful!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 11, 2016 at 13:57

      Grandchildren are such a blessing Carolann. I am minding my darling boy today and he is having a nap at the moment. We have been to the park, played with trucks and cars, had morning tea and chased some birds at the park. You will love this time of life I can assure you. x

  • Reply Nikki May 11, 2016 at 10:50

    I have just been commenting on the fact that it’s already May, and 1/3 of May is gone. I have no idea where it went. I need to make sure I am stopping to smell the flowers or listen to the ocean waves, life is moving just too fast. It’s hard to find Joy when you’re trying to keep up, isn’t it?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 11, 2016 at 16:41

      Yes life certainly takes over and it is hard to stop and breathe sometimes. I think though that you find joy in helping others and I’m loving your pillows that you are making you are so talented.

  • Reply Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life May 11, 2016 at 17:09

    It’s lovely that Ethan not only brings so much joy, he also makes you live in the present. I am totally with you on nature — it brings me a lot of joy when I’m at the beach or hiking in the bush.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 12, 2016 at 09:22

      Hi Sanch! Yes I love the time I spend with him being a grandparent certainly means a different relationship with your grandchild – you have more patience and time to just ‘be’.

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville May 14, 2016 at 11:37

    so beautifully written, I can feel your love and joy in this post. I gave my second daughter the midd;e name Joy, she and her siblings fill me with so much happiness, I do feel as a parent we can be so busy with ‘life’ that we miss moments with them. The other day my son who is 6, was home unwell, he had a sore tummy, but and hour later he was magically healed lol. I could have taken him to school, but it was a horrible windy and rainy day outside so i decided to let him stay home. We spent hours playing board games that we had packed away for months and finally had back, and we read stories. I focussed my day around him and it filled both of us with so much joy. Thank you so much for sharing with #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 16, 2016 at 12:58

      Oh you certainly have the right attitude Mackenzie and your children are so lucky to have you as their Mum. Sometimes we all need some timeout and it must have been lovely for you to have some one on one time with your son. I’m sure children need a ‘mental health day’ just as much as adults because of this crazy, busy world we live in.

  • Reply Regina L. L. Wells May 16, 2016 at 23:19

    Yes, Sue! I make a conscious choice to find joy in many things. My Mom used to tease me about being the easiest person in the world to make happy (and the easiest person in the world to make angry). LOL! I really appreciate this piece. I get so bummed out being around or listening to people complain about so many things when there’s so much more to be grateful for and in which to find joy. We all suffer, but re choose how we respond and on what we focus for the large part. Thank you so much for sharing this!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 17, 2016 at 16:05

      Hi Regina!! Thanks for stopping by I always love hearing from you. I can tell from your photo that you are a happy person and we need to surround ourselves with positivity don’t we? Life is too short to be grumpy about insignificant things. Have a fab week!

  • Reply Anna R Palmer September 2, 2016 at 01:40

    This is lovely. One of the things I appreciate about little kids is how non-linear they are. Ideas, things that catch their attention…it helps me follow what is happening in the moment rather than what is on the agenda.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 3, 2016 at 10:49

      Absolutely right Anna! I love how my grandson can spend hours watching ants or lizards. He makes me take the time to stop and actually take in the moment.

  • Reply Carol Cassara September 2, 2016 at 06:02

    I believe the whole purpose of grandkids is to bring joy. I regret that I won’t ever have one.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 3, 2016 at 10:50

      My grandson certainly brings me Joy Carol. He is such a character and has certainly stolen my heart.

  • Reply Cathy Lawdanski September 2, 2016 at 10:58

    What a beautiful season of life we are in with the luxury of being able to slow down and the blessing of grandchildren who give us such joy!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 3, 2016 at 10:52

      I know Cathy, I just love it! I don’t want him to grow up but I know he must.

  • Reply Jody Cowan September 3, 2016 at 07:34

    This post is just lovely! My grandchildren bring joy to me, also. I know what you mean! They live in a different state now and I miss them so much! They’re growing up so fast. Being a grandparent is awesome!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 3, 2016 at 10:55

      Oh that must be hard Jody with your grandchildren so far away. Mine lives 10 minutes away and I just look forward to each Wednesday when we spend the day together. Yes, being a grandparent is awesome!

  • Reply Pam September 5, 2016 at 13:29

    Sure, I could not agree more! I am blessed with six grandchildren, 3 boys and 3 girls. One additional thing I have discovered as their Gram has been the delight of learning how to play again. I was always super-responsible growing up and remained so as an adult, but my grandchildren gave me a new dimension of play. Thanks so much for this post!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 6, 2016 at 09:27

      I’m the same Pam, I love ‘playing’ again. Just taking the time to enjoy ourselves and have fun together. I’m glad you enjoyed the post and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply Vidya Sury September 6, 2016 at 02:27

    I love spending time with children, Sue. Pure joy, and the best way to see true happiness. Thank you for sharing your grandson with us – he must adore you! Have a great week! #overthemoon

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 6, 2016 at 09:25

      Yes it is such a wonderful time of our life Vidya. You have a lovely week also!

  • Reply Aletha Oglesby September 7, 2016 at 08:23

    Everyone I knew said being a grandparent was special and once I became one I heartily agreed. But the things that bring joy can also bring sorrow. By the time my grandson turned 2 years old, we suspected he might be autistic; a year later it was confirmed. My heart broke for him, his parents, his sister, and his grandfather and I. I feared I might never feel joy again. But now, a few years later, as I watch him grow, develop, learn, and do things we feared he might never do, I feel the joy of answered prayer, and faith and hope for a bright future, albeit different than the one we expected.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 7, 2016 at 12:49

      Life can be so difficult, can’t it Aletha? However, I so happy that your grandson is doing well and brings you joy. It must have been a shock to everyone at first, however, autistic children are very gifted and we love our children and grandchildren no matter what. All the best to you and your family. xx

      • Reply Aletha Oglesby September 12, 2016 at 10:51

        Thank you Sue, that’s kind of you to say. Yes, we love them no matter what, maybe more so when they struggle; we may be the only people in the world who will love them. And yes he is smart and talented, and it is exciting to see the unexpected ways he shows us . Every day is an adventure.

        • Reply Sue Loncaric September 12, 2016 at 20:01

          And it can be a wonderful adventure Aletha. These children have so much to offer and your grandson is lucky to have you. Take care and best wishes to you and your family.

  • Reply Dawn Rae May 6, 2017 at 12:42

    What a wonderful post. I agree completely. Grandbabies bring such joy… especially if we slow down and enjoy the moments.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 6, 2017 at 15:55

      Thank you Dawn. Yes I didn’t know how much he could steal my heart. When he was born my heart just melted and he is the light of my life. Thanks so much for stopping by to comment and have a beautiful day. x

  • Reply Grammy Dee May 18, 2017 at 06:52

    Love this 🙂

  • Reply Leslie May 23, 2017 at 02:08

    Grandbabies are joy personified. They are joyous and bring joy, both. Ditto to everything you have written in this beautiful post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 28, 2017 at 15:53

      They most certainly are Leslie I didn’t know how much love I could have for my darling grandson until he captured my heart the day he was born. Xx

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