Over 50s Lifestyle

It’s the little things……#2

May 24, 2023
It's the little things

Too often we get caught up in life and forget to appreciate the every day things that bring us joy. Some, as part of their morning ritual when they wake, think of 3 things that they are grateful for. Others journal, others meditate. For me, writing a dedicated post is a great way to stop, reflect and appreciate what has brought some sunshine to my life and it is usually the little things that can brighten my day. All of the little things in one place can add up to quite a few!

Life has been a struggle this week, although I can’t put my finger on why. Some of my friends have felt the same and perhaps it is because we are feeling tired as we approach the halfway mark of another year. I’ve had some sadness during the week which you will read about. Feeling this way makes it even more important to try to focus on the little joyful things or what I’ve been grateful for.

On reflection and in keeping with my WOTY – TIME, the little things this week were made up of being there for others. We talk about making time for ourselves and I certainly do that because it is important to carve out our own time each day to nuture, enjoy, relax and play. ME time is not selfish but vital to living well.

However, being there for others and as someone who is a ‘giver’, is also an important part of living well. It’s about finding the right balance between giving and being there for others and creating boundaries to ensure I still have time for myself.

So here are some little things that I loved or am grateful for that happened over the last week…

It’s the little things….#2

Making time to Be there for my friend

One of my closest friends lost her Mum last week. She had been in palliative care for around 6 weeks and passed peacefully which is all we can ever ask, isn’t it? At 89 many would say ‘she had a good innings’ but although this is true it is so hard to lose a loved one, especially our Mum, especially just a few days before Mother’s Day. I lost my Mum in 1985 at the age of 63 which is way to young, so I know first hand what it’s like.

As my friend doesn’t have a partner or children, I’ve made sure she has known she has had support and love around her. It is going to be a huge adjustment for her as although she didn’t live with her Mum, who lived a couple of streets away, my friend spoke with her every day and saw her several times a week. I’m sure she will feel the loss and a huge hole in her life in coming weeks, months and years.

The funeral was simple, tasteful and private, so I attended a small get-together afterwards.

At times like these, words are never enough and just being there can be all that is needed.

At times like these, it makes you appreciate your loved ones – family and friends and reminds you that they or you won’t always be around. Tell them how important they are to you before it is too late.

Making time to Be there for my family when they need me

There were 165 kids absent from school last week with illness and my grandson was one of them. His Dad was also sick with the flu. When my family need me I am there. I took Elliot to and from school a couple of days and then on the weekend took the boys to the park. It was such a glorious day and Ethan needed some fresh air having been cooped up all week in bed. I am Grateful to have the energy and time to spend with my grandsons and to help my family when they need support.

Making time to Be present to appreciate and enjoy my surroundings

I am Grateful for the beautiful Autumn sunsets viewed from my back yard. I am also grateful for the glorious Autumn weather, clear blue skies, sunshine combined with crisp mornings and evenings when I run by our beautiful Brisbane River and City on a chilly early morning.

Making time for a coffee and croissant plus my friend had waffles- yum!

After our usual Saturday morning run, we treated ourselves to breakfast. As I mentioned above, my friend has just lost her Mum so she appreciated getting out for a long run with me followed by breakfast. When we run we talk, we vent, we are silent or we are puffing depending on how we are feeling. I am Grateful to be fit and healthy to run at almost 66 and also to spend time with my friend, especially at this sad time. I am Grateful for our friendship. I am Grateful for the delicious food. I had the pistachio croissant and my friend had the waffles with ice cream and strawberries.

What are the little things that you are grateful for this week or that have brought sunshine to your day?

Sue Loncaric

Joining Denyse Whelan for her Wednesday Words & Pics link up each week….

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18 Comments

  • Reply Retirement Reflections May 24, 2023 at 10:05

    Hi, Sue – I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your friend’s mom. It was wonderful that you could be there for her. You are so right that both the sweetness and the purpose of lives is made up of the little things. Being there for family, for friends and making time for others and importantly, ourselves our excellent examples. I would add in ‘movement’ which I know you always do. Along with your list, this is something that makes a big difference for me.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 24, 2023 at 13:49

      Hi Donna yes it was sad for Caz to lose her Mum and as she did so much for her Mum it will certainly leave a hole in her life. Of course, movement does make a difference and we are lucky our bodies are fit and we can remain active. x

  • Reply leannelc May 24, 2023 at 10:32

    Hi Sue – I noted that you said in your comments to Denyse that you don’t do many taking stock posts. I think these “little things” are the perfect way to do a taking stock without actually calling it that. It’s some little snippets into your world. Sorry to hear about your friend’s mum – I dread the day my mum passes, we know it’s inevitable, but it’s still so hard. I’ve been loving these Autumn days too – the last couple of weeks here have been absolutely beautiful and I’m savouring them before cold, wet winter arrives.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 24, 2023 at 13:51

      Hi Leanne, I suppose I do a version of the wrap up for WBOYC at the end of each month but not using the word prompts. Rachel’s work friend just lost her Mum and Rachel said to me ‘I’m glad I went to the funeral, but it made me think about losing you and that is just not something I can bear to think about.’ x

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee May 24, 2023 at 12:35

    Oh, that’s a hard one for your friend. It’s nevereasy, regardless of age or timeto mentally prepare. But constantly reaching out will be good for her, even if she doesn’t accept (or want) company at first. Here’s to your mood picking up…sometimes I think it’s just the change of season, and as simple as that. #WWandP (like Denyse mentioned last week – it’s your boidy remembering past struggle before your brain even recognises it)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 24, 2023 at 13:52

      It is difficult Lydia as her Mum has been there for Caz’s 55 years – that’s a long time. She and I are close so we talk all the time and our running certainly helps as well. I’m feeling better this week and the weather is glorious at the moment so that certainly perks you up. x

  • Reply Toni Pike May 24, 2023 at 15:39

    Hi Sue, I’m so sorry to ehar about your friend’s Mum – good you could be there. xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 25, 2023 at 06:35

      Yes it was sad as her Mum lived to a great age. Fortunately it was a peaceful passing. xx

  • Reply Joanne May 25, 2023 at 06:36

    Aw, your friend and your family are so lucky to have you. What a delicious looking breakfast!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 26, 2023 at 08:56

      Oh thank you Joanne, I know what it is like to lose your Mum so trying to be supportive. The breakfast was super yummy! x

  • Reply Jennifer Jones May 25, 2023 at 10:23

    Hi Sue, I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s loss. I still have my Mum and am very grateful that she is well. We lost a friend this week, who died suddenly, so there has been sadness for us also. It seems that the flu is going through our workplace also, but so far I haven’t caught it. I do still wear my mask all the time, so perhaps that’s helping. I agree with you, that life is all about the small things.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 26, 2023 at 08:57

      You are fortunate to still have your Mum, Jen and also that she is well. I’m sorry to hear about your friend and it certainly brings home that life isn’t forever and we have to make the most of it. You are wise still wearing your mask and taking precautions. x

  • Reply Gail Is This Mutton May 25, 2023 at 15:30

    Sorry to hear about your friend’s mother. You sound such a thoughtful and kind friend and grandmother. Thanks for linking

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 26, 2023 at 08:57

      Oh thank you Gail, that is so lovely of you x

  • Reply Debbie May 26, 2023 at 07:31

    Hi sue, I too am sorry about the los of your friend’s mum, it must be hard on her but she’s lucky to have you as a friend. I’m loving these little things posts.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 26, 2023 at 08:58

      Thanks, Deb. I’m hoping to stick to the weekly little things post even if sometimes it is just photos. It reminds me to be grateful for all I have. x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan Hosts A Weekly Blog Link Up on Wednesdays. May 26, 2023 at 15:04

    Making a post about life, and being grateful for what comes along, no matter what, has been something that has engaged me as a reader..I am so sorry about your friend’s mum. I am glad she has a kind friend in you. The notion of time passing, along with death, are still hard ones to fathom and grasp. You are on the right track, noticing the LITTLE things, which are, when we consider it…the BIG ones. Life, Love, Connections…. So good to see your post this week for Wednesday’s Words and Pics Link Up on Denyse Whelan Blogs. I look forward to you joining us next week too! Denyse.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 27, 2023 at 10:58

      HI Denyse, I hope I can maintain the weekly schedule for the It’s the little things… because it really helps me to reflect and remember the good things. x

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