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Is your Comfort Zone too Comfortable? 3 simple steps to change your ‘If I could’ to ‘I will try’

July 29, 2018
Is your Comfort Zone too Comfortable?

‘Comfort Zone’.  We hear this term quite often and like many terms can become so over-used that they lose their impact.  Some of you might even say that you are very happy in your ‘comfort zone’ and don’t want to move outside.  That is perfectly fine, because to me, being happy is paramount and happiness for one person might be totally different to another person’s vision of happiness.

However, I have a question for you:  ‘Is your ‘comfort zone’ too comfortable?’

In the past, I’ve associated the word ‘comfortable’ with boring, routine and rut.  It is easy to fall into a pattern where each day we are just existing rather than living.

It isn’t until we explore the notion of looking outside our ‘comfort zone’ that we realise that perhaps there is merit, adventure and satisfaction in venturing outside occasionally.

Rather than saying ‘if I could’ why not look at trying to actually do it.   Most of us have dreams or goals and sometimes they seem unattainable.  Just think for a moment, think about the phrase, ‘If I could’.  to me, the phrase places limitations on us rather than encouraging us. It is a wish which probably won’t happen.

Replacing ‘If I could’ with ‘I will try’ gives us a sense of purpose and will definitely take courage to step outside our comfort zone.

3 simple steps to change your ‘If I could’ with ‘I will try’

1. Define what you would do ‘if you could’

We can’t achieve what we don’t know.  Define what you would like to do is the starting point. Be realistic and don’t try to change everything all at once. You don’t have to make huge changes immediately as long as you start the process.  We can still achieve what we want by making smaller changes along the way.  You will feel more confident with each small change you make.

2. Write it down

Write down what you would like to do starting the sentence with ‘If I could’….. Then determine what you need to do to achieve it.  You might need to make some changes in your life.  You might need a budget if you want to travel but can’t afford it at the moment.

Once you have your thoughts written down, stick it in a place where you will see it everyday as a reminder to keep moving forward.

3. Be open to change and challenge

By accepting the ‘I will try’ attitude you will be more open to making changes and accepting the challenge of trying new things.  Challenge doesn’t have to be huge.  A challenge to step out of your comfy comfort zone might be as simple as changing up your morning routine, which can be harder than we think.

Putting yourself out there to try new things will mix life up a little and bring back the enthusiasm for life that can happen when we are just going through the motions of living.

What is one thing you would do ‘if you could’ TODAY?

Is your Comfort Zone too Comfortable?

What did I do to step out of my comfort zone in July?

For the last three months, I’ve been training for a long run with my Saturday Sisters.  Last year, before my 60th birthday I had the goal to run the 35km Bloody Long Walk.  Unfortunately, due to a bout of pleurisy I was unable to complete more than 25km.  I had to listen to my body and stop.  I wasn’t devastated but I was disappointed. This year, I trained hard, took up the challenge and crossed the finish line.

I also ran the 5,000 steps ‘Stadium Stomp’ which again challenged me.  It was wonderful to see so many people giving it a go either walking or running.

Yes it was hard, yes I wondered why I was doing it at times, but I stepped out of my comfort zone and achieved my goal.

Comfort Zone

Is your Comfort Zone Too Comfortable




Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone is a monthly idea from my friend Leslie at Once Upon A Time, Happily Ever After.  Leslie described her new series as:

My vision for this series is to push myself out of my comfort zone so that I begin doing things that I have until now been scared or uncomfortable to try. Nothing illegal – ha – or too crazy!

and she has invited others to take this challenge with her.  You can read about what others did to step out of their comfort zone through the link up at the end of this post.

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  • Reply Jennifer Jones July 29, 2018 at 20:12

    Sue this post is really timely for me. I’ve been thinking about goals until the end of 2018. I love the steps tpuve outlined and plan to use them in the process of goal setting. During July my Night Walk has definitely put me out of my comfort zone as the nights have been freezing cold. Would definitely have been more comfortable to stay home in front of the heater

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:50

      Oh I can imagine how cold it must be and good for you Jen to keep going in Winter. That shows commitment for sure!

  • Reply cathi July 29, 2018 at 22:04

    I love your suggestion to write down the steps I’d need in order to accomplish goals that are out of my comfort zone. That makes them seem more reachable. Thanks!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:49

      I think once you write them down, Cathi it is a plan and a commitment. I find that I get a sense of satisfaction when I tick off each step. Enjoy your week and thanks for visiting xx

  • Reply Leanne | July 29, 2018 at 23:00

    So great to see you achieving both your goals for July Sue – especially finishing the run this year after not making it the end last time – you would have been so chuffed! My goals have been smaller but I did start Tai Chi – and in July I paid my membership for a year to inspire me to keep going and to master it. I also finished the online course I challenged myself to do – I don’t think I’ll bother to do any more, but it was good to have a go at it and to pass at the end.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:48

      Well done you! I’m sure you will benefit for the Tai Chi and I agree that whilst the online course may have been a once off it was good to try something different. xx

  • Reply DeeDee July 30, 2018 at 05:11

    Great advice! I have not been in my comfort zone for. a couple years now and am having a blast??

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:46

      We should all be like you Dee Dee keep on enjoying life!

  • Reply Janet Mary Cobb July 30, 2018 at 05:45

    Sue – great post and great ideas — and great job on your July goals. I’ve been wondering about my own comfort zone lately –but haven’t really felt in a rut because I’ve pushed myself to new things a great deal in the last few years. Through pushing those zones, I have identified certain things I don’t want to do – they are out of my comfort zone for a reason! But with a very recent hiccup in my business model, I am facing a few new challenges and think this will stretch my professional comfort zones quite a bit. I’m up for the challenge! Thanks for this bit of encouragement.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:45

      I think it is so important to recognise what we don’t want to do, Janet. We seem to focus on what we want and still keep doing what we don’t want in our lives. Hope your business hiccup was just that and I know you are up for the challenge, my friend, you’ve got this!

      • Reply Janet Mary Cobb August 1, 2018 at 16:08

        Thanks for the encouragement Sue — I spent some hours on my roadtrip thinking through some next steps, but the hiccup will take a bit of figuring. I’ll keep you posted!

        • Reply Sue Loncaric August 1, 2018 at 17:35

          I’m sure you will figure it out and hopefully without too much stress. Take care. xx

  • Reply Natalie July 30, 2018 at 09:44

    Congratulations, Sue, for achieving both the Bloody Long Walk and the Stadium Stomp! I like your “I will try” for its future / forward thinking and it implies action. I agree with your three steps, too.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:44

      Thanks Natalie! It is always satisfying to cross the finish line. I agree that we need to look forward and make things happen. Sometimes we don’t succeed but at least we have tried 🙂

  • Reply Karen Hume July 30, 2018 at 10:14

    Congratulations, Sue! I hope you’re taking the time to enjoy and bask in your achievements. They are not little things that you’ve done there, my friend.
    I appreciate your steps for stepping out of your comfort zone, especially the one about writing it down. Writing has so clearly been shown to make a major difference to our willingness to actually do what we say we want to do. Sometimes the thing needs to be written down over and over and over again, but eventually it does sink it and the action does happen – even if only so we don’t have to keep writing it down!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 30, 2018 at 14:43

      Thanks Karen, I do have one more goal which is next Sunday. It will be tough so I will see how I go. Writing things down for me is always a way to commit. Hope you enjoyed your catch up and day spa. xx

  • Reply Joanne Tracey July 30, 2018 at 17:55

    You are an inspiration to me. Congratulations for these achievements. As for if I could? That all sounds a tad regretty & I don’t do regrets, but if I could I’d write fulltime & make money from it. But, I am trying, so that counts, right?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 31, 2018 at 06:48

      Thanks Jo, I try. Oh you are so doing it! Trying to juggle writing with full time work isn’t easy, No pressure, but I can’t wait until your next book is published so I hope your fingers are flying across the keyboard LOL:)

  • Reply Debbie July 31, 2018 at 01:16

    Great tips Sue and you’re an inspiration to many of us with your enthusiasm and zest for life. Well done on your achievements this month. I will be working on staying out of a rut once I get home, after all this excitement in the past few months!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 31, 2018 at 06:18

      Thanks Deb. It will be a huge adjustment coming home after your great adventure. However, I know you will be continue your life’s adventure so can’t see you falling into a rut. P.S. If you are visiting your Mum or Daughter up this way, would love to catch up if we can.

  • Reply Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski July 31, 2018 at 02:03

    You’re really amazing with all the running you do. Doing something physical like that is a great way to develop discipline.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 31, 2018 at 06:16

      Thanks Rebecca and it does take discipline, I don’t actually ponder that thought much. Now that you mention it, discipline is a huge factor. Consistently getting out of bed at 4am ready to run at 5 or 5:30am in winter needs some inner strength 🙂

  • Reply Pat July 31, 2018 at 03:49

    Sue, I’m going to ponder the “If I could….” to see if it stimulates some out-of-comfort-zone desires. I did another prompt recently that really opened my thinking. ” The truth is…”. Answer it three times and see what emerges! Now “If I could… I would…. .” Hmmm.

    Congrats on both running accomplishments! Combined with nailing your speaking engagement, you are showing us all how “easy” getting out of the comfort zone seems to be!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 31, 2018 at 06:15

      Hi Pat, I hope the prompt can be of help although I really think you are doing things out of your comfort zone already. Just trying new things takes us to a new place. I’m not sure that what I do is ‘easy’ but my attitude is to give it a try and see what happens. Enjoy your week, Pat. xx

  • Reply Rebecca Brown July 31, 2018 at 06:37

    A lovely post Sue – and an important reminder that life happens beyond our comfort zones. When we step out of the “box” so to speak, a world of possibility awaits!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 1, 2018 at 17:08

      It is all a matter of our attitude, isn’t it, Rebecca? We can make excuses or we can take a leap of faith and try. Thanks for visiting and have a beautiful day. 🙂

  • Reply Vanessa July 31, 2018 at 10:15

    I find myself seeing both sides of comfort zones. There’s an immense privilege in being able to have a comfort zone that I don’t think should be overlooked. Constantly living on the edges is exhausting. I guess like most things it’s finding a balance that allows us to appreciate what we have but not stagnate.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 1, 2018 at 17:14

      I agree Vanessa that yes comfort zones are something we all need and it is just a matter of finding the right balance. Some people are very happy with their life and that is wonderful. Others are always looking for ways to push their boundaries. The important thing is that we all find what is best for us. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by 🙂

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl July 31, 2018 at 16:47

    I’ve always wanted to try the Stadium Stomp, Sue! On my list for next year.

    I’m challenging myself to the City To Surf next month. It will be my first.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 1, 2018 at 17:15

      It’s great fun SSG and something different to the normal runs that I do. I’m sure you will do well with the City to Surf and good luck on ‘heart break hill’. You’ve got this!!!

  • Reply Kalpana August 1, 2018 at 13:21

    I’m very impressed by all that running you’re doing Sue. I personally love walking and hiking but don’t run much. What a wonderful idea this blog hop is. I’m definitely going to check out the other blogs and keep it in mind so that at the end of August I have something to contribute. Perhaps it will be running, who knows 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 1, 2018 at 17:32

      Thank you Kalpana I do enjoy running but also walking and hiking is an excellent way to keep fit. Glad you like the blog hop and hope you find some new bloggers to enjoy! See you next month perhaps 🙂

  • Reply Denyse Whelan August 1, 2018 at 18:40

    I would love some comfort zone right now. It has been everything but for the past 3 years, even before cancer! However, I know that your message is spot on. I try every day to get myself out of any perceived or real “feeling sorry space” but some days (and one is right now, I have to give in for a bit and have a cry and a bit of a chat with myself…and one with my hub which usually helps.

    Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek. Next week’s optional prompt is: Countries I Have Visited. Denyse x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 2, 2018 at 17:38

      Oh Denyse I wish I could give you a great big hug! Of course you can have your ‘feeling sorry space’ – we all do and you have more right to than others. I feel much better after a cry and a chat so I hope you are feeling better after yours. Take care and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. xx

  • Reply Kathy Marris August 1, 2018 at 22:04

    You certainly have fulfilled your promise to step outside your comfort zone Sue. You’re incredible. I think I did something that I’ve been meaning to do for ages last month and that was learning more about affiliate marketing and applying it to my website. It did take me out of my comfort zone, because I’ve been frightened to take my website to the next level for ages.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 2, 2018 at 17:45

      I know nothing about affiliate marketing, Kathy so good for you in applying to your website. Maybe you can give me a lesson. I do want to take my website to the next level but I’m not sure if I can. Maybe I need to step out of my comfort zone and do something 🙂

  • Reply Juhli August 1, 2018 at 23:37

    Congrats on achieving both exercise goals!

  • Reply Deborah August 2, 2018 at 13:37

    You’re great at challenging yourself Sue and I need to take a leaf out of your book. Particularly as my work ‘end’ draws near and I’m not sure what’s happening next. I’m trying to tell myself it could be a good thing and something great will be around the corner, but nervous nonetheless. x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 2, 2018 at 17:56

      I think deep down I’ve always been driven, Deb even though I have been very self-conscious which doesn’t make sense. I’m sure you are very capable and valuable to any company and something will turn up for you. If you ever need to chat I’m here 🙂

  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle August 2, 2018 at 13:48

    You are amazing Sue. That stadium stomp would be hard work! You most certainly step out of your comfort zone and often! I try to but not enough. Love your tips for changing your mindset to ‘I will try’! xo #TeamLovinLife

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 2, 2018 at 17:57

      Thank you lovely, Min. I actually surprised myself and the Stomp is fun because they have a great atmosphere with music and people of all ages and fitness levels giving it a go. I do like to challenge myself but I also like to have my own comfort zone days which I think is important. I love to just lay down and get lost in a book or do some crochet or knitting. Have a great week and hope you are enjoying your new kitchen! 🙂

  • Reply leslie roberts clingan August 4, 2018 at 06:53

    Good gravy woman, you are an inspiration of the highest order. No wonder you have the hottest 60/61 year old body ever. Geez!

    I am reading It’s Never Too Late by Julia Cameron. Some of our mutual blogging buds have shared it. You may have mentioned it, too. Anyway, I will be writing up If I Coulds and I Will Tries as part of the work required by this book. Love interactive reading!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 4, 2018 at 08:51

      Well you are looking pretty hot yourselve, Cuz. I saw a photo the other day and you are Sizzling! xx

  • Reply Sue August 5, 2018 at 20:04

    Good on you Sue, you’re an inspiration!!
    When I met my husband, I noticed that he would often say to his kids “We don’t say I can’t, we say how can I”. I found this to be a really helpful way of looking at many aspects of life, including stepping outside of my comfort zone!
    Thanks for a thought-provoking post xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 7, 2018 at 09:05

      Hi Sue, what a great way to teach children that we can always find a way to achieve our goals or dreams. So pleased you enjoy the post and have a beautiful week xx

  • Reply leslie roberts clingan August 7, 2018 at 11:45

    I am just so proud of you. Your blog has just blossomed. You inspire so many with your activity and your vitality. Thank you for sharing the stretches you made outside your comfort zone. I cannot imagine doing what you’ve done!! Bravo!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 8, 2018 at 10:30

      Thanks Cuz. I think it is in my DNA to always keep pushing myself. But, I need to know when to have a break as well. xx

  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit August 9, 2018 at 07:39

    I like to think we’re not so much stepping out of our comfort zone, but continually expanding it.
    Look at you go!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 9, 2018 at 09:52

      That’s a great way to look at it Leanne. Expanding our comfort zone – I like it!

  • Reply Miriam August 13, 2018 at 11:14

    Good on you Sue, you’re so incredibly motivating. And it’s true that we first have to define what we want. So many of us are way too comfortable “plodding” and just need that extra push to live a more inspired life. Have a wonderful week.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 13, 2018 at 13:29

      Thanks Miriam! Some people are happy just ‘plodding’ along but I have something inside that just keeps driving me and its in my makeup. You have a wonderful week, too! xx

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