Is 60 the Beginning or the End? Reaching 60 can be the beginning or the end of your life depending how you look at it. I read an article this week which made me feel sad and then frustrated. It was about a woman who feels invisible and 60. At first I felt quite sorry for the lady and then I started to feel quite frustrated as I read it. I wanted to say to her ‘Being 60 is not the end of your life it is just the beginning but it is up to YOU‘.
Yes we all grow older, however my philosophy is that you only have one life so make the most of it. What made me feel better was then reading another story from The Salvation Army on Facebook about a 102 year old lady who is still volunteering! Now that is inspirational and imagine if she had felt sorry for herself and gave up at the age of 60!
Here we have two stories completely opposite in thinking and that is the message to us all – THE WAY YOU THINK IS THE WAY YOU WILL FEEL.
In this post I would like to address some of the concerns raised.
Yes we get older but you don’t have to accept the changes that are happening to you. If you don’t like it do something about it!
Accept Growing Older Gracefully
So we get wrinkles, big deal. Wrinkles tell a story and when you smile they can look beautiful. However, my motto has always been ‘moisturize, moisturize, moisturize’. If you are really unhappy with your appearance do something about it. I’m not a fan of cosmetic surgery but if it makes you feel better about yourself go for it!
Don’t get lazy
Yes we all feel from time to time that we can’t be bothered with our appearance. That is okay occasionally but if you look good you feel good. Just because your hair might be thinning or you have added some extra kilos doesn’t mean you should let yourself go. Go and get a new hairstyle, have your nails done as a treat, have a massage – you will feel a million dollars and it will show from within because you are feeling happy about yourself. Live a healthy lifestyle and include some exercise and good food choices.
Don’t try to compete with the younger generation
There will always be someone brighter and better so don’t try to compete, especially with someone young enough to be your grandchild. Accept that you have your talents and you are valuable. Don’t put yourself down or feel jealous because you will never be happy until you get over these emotions.
Let your Children Go
Yes, I’ve experienced it! Your children actually grow up and become adults! They don’t need you all the time and yes this can be hard to take sometimes however, I have always wanted my children to be independent and I’m proud that they are. They don’t need me (not all the time anyway). I appreciate that they are busy and don’t expect to see them all the time. Don’t expect to be a part of everything they do – did you let your parents? Let them live their lives and enjoy the time you do spend together. Quality not Quantity remember.
Get a Life
At 60 you may have retired and so have time on your hands. Now is the time in your life for YOU. It’s your choice how you spend the rest of your life but I know I’m going to LIVE and LOVE and ENJOY my life until the end. There are so many ways you can have a fulfilled life. Social clubs, volunteering, friends, family, go back to school and even learn to enjoy your own company, doing what you want to do when you want to do it.
You are not Invisible
I cannot believe that this lady feels invisible. Everyone has something to offer, however if you are going to wallow in self pity then do it on your own. If you act invisible and are miserable you will be invisible. If you say ‘Hey! Here I am and I’ve got a lot to offer’ then people will take notice and enjoy your company.
You have reached 60 – be grateful. Yes, I know we live longer these days but there are those who have been taken too soon. Be grateful that you have your life and do something with it! I’m sure those who has passed would give anything to have their life back and would certainly make it purposeful.
So it is really up to YOU – you can be invisible at sixty or you can be 103 and still volunteering. I know which one I’m going to be – what about YOU?