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Learning to Accept a Compliment – You are worth it!

February 29, 2016
learning to accept a compliment

learning to accept a complimentA friend of mine, Gigi Whitford who is has a beautiful website A Warm Hello alerted me to the fact that March 1 is World Compliment Day!  It is supposed to be the Most Positive Day in the World.

Like other world, international or national days I’m always torn.  On one hand I love the fact that there are days to make us stop and think, yet on the other hand, I do feel that we shouldn’t need reminding.

So I’m not going to over-analyze or over-think it.  We have these days and so I’m going embrace World Compliment day and be POSITIVE!  I love to give genuine compliments and make people feel good – it makes me feel warm to see pleasure in their eyes that a simple few words can bring.  I love this quote from “The Little Things in Life”


We get so caught up in our lives that we forget the little ‘niceties’ and making others feel special.  We all like to feel special – right?  I don’t know anyone who deep down doesn’t like to receive a compliment,  but there are many of us who don’t know how to ACCEPT one.

We need to learn how to accept a compliment with grace.

A Compliment is Verbal Sunshine(1)

I’m afraid to say I’m one of those.   Whenever, I’m complimented I either laugh it off or feel embarrassed or just don’t believe the person.  Instead I should be graciously saying ‘thank you’.  This is not always easy especially if we struggle with our own perception of self, body image and our looks.

How many of us struggle with not believing we are good enough? Time to take action and start believing. Click To Tweet

Ask yourself the question:

Why would someone bother to compliment me?

Sure, there are those that have a ‘silver tongue’ but you can tell when someone is being genuine and it is time to start accepting compliments with grace.  YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Don’t minimise and dismiss the gesture of a compliment and the spirit in which it is given.  Make that other person feel valued.


So on this World Compliment Day don't just GIVE a COMPLIMENT WITH GRACE but ACCEPT a COMPLIMENT WITH GRACE!Click To Tweet

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  • Reply Becky, Cuddle Fairy February 29, 2016 at 22:11

    Ah these quotes are absolutely gorgeous! I agree we should accept a compliment. I don’t know why people don’t – is it modesty or is it how we think we should respond? I think saying thank you is the best way to go. I have a quote linky on my blog called Candid Cuddles – it’s open to all posts with a quote if you’d like to join us. It’s live until tomorrow at 6pm gmt. #MG

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 1, 2016 at 07:16

      I’m so pleased you liked the quotes Becky. Thanks for stopping by and I’ll check out Candid Cuddles. Have a lovely day.

  • Reply Michelle March 1, 2016 at 00:01

    I used to struggle a lot when I was a kid at accepting compliments but I lived in a world where when someone complimented you it was because they wanted something. So, I never believed anyone. I also suffered from low self-esteem (though I hid that very well). Now, as an adult, I have learned how to accept compliments but I have also learned that many people are being genuine when they give me a compliment, which helps me to accept them more openly. This a great talk to have because I think we are conditioned to be humble but in being humble we take it too far when we don’t know how to accept a compliment. Popping over from #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 1, 2016 at 07:19

      You are right Michelle we are conditioned to be humble but we do take that too far with compliments. It has taken me until my late 50s to feel comfortable with who I am and actually accept compliments gracefully. Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely day!

  • Reply Mrs Tubbs March 1, 2016 at 08:01

    Lovely quotes and oh so true. I’m terrible at accepting compliments so have pinned this for when I need reminding. Great post

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 1, 2016 at 16:38

      Oh I’m so pleased you liked the quotes and thank you so much for pinning and also for stopping by to comment.

  • Reply Winnie March 1, 2016 at 08:43

    I love the quotes 🙂
    I admit – I still don’t always know how to react to a compliment
    I guess it is something I still need to work on

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 1, 2016 at 16:41

      I think quite a few of us need to work on this Winnie! Have a lovely day.

  • Reply Wendy March 4, 2016 at 08:47

    I have always struggled with accepting compliments. For me, it has always been because of “modesty.” It has taken my whole life to learn how to accept compliments graciously, and I still struggle. I have a wonderful friend who will interrupt my stammering and say, “‘Thank you’ — that’s all you need to say, Wendy.” 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 5, 2016 at 07:30

      Perhaps it is a generation thing Wendy as we were taught to be ‘modest’ and not make a fuss about ourselves. However, I know my husband in particular, gets annoyed if he gives me a compliment and I just brush it off as not true. ‘Thank you’ are the only two words we really need to know. Thanks for stopping by!

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville March 4, 2016 at 13:22

    One of my fav posts this week! I wrote post quite a while ago now on complimenting others (being genuine of course) and how important it is. I loved this post and yes that is a compliment so you have o accept it! You are fab! #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 5, 2016 at 07:33

      We thank you for the compliment! You always make me feel good Mackenzie that is what I love about you. Have a great week!

  • Reply Regina L. L. Wells March 7, 2016 at 11:29

    Right on, Sue! And props to Gigi, too. Love her! I get so aggravated when a woman cannot take a compliment. It means that someone has gotten into her head and is keeping her from knowing her worth. I always try to address the compliment deflect by repeating the compliment and offering some humor to get the deflector to see that they’re deflecting and to just accept how fabulous they are.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2016 at 08:46

      I love Gigi and am so glad I met her! Yes sometimes I think that some woman want the attention and try the ‘coy’ act. I’ve suffered with lack of self esteem however, maturity has taught me to smile and accept the compliment. That is the great thing about aging you learn by experience!

  • Reply Suzi T March 7, 2016 at 14:20

    People keep complimenting me about my weight loss and I find it so uncomfortable to hear. I am training myself to say ” thank you very much” but it doesn’t come easy. I think I’ve always hated drawing attention to myself.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2016 at 08:47

      Hi Suzi I think we all feel that way but just be proud of yourself and your achievements and if others are complimenting you accept it with the intention it is given – to make you feel good and acknowledge what you have done! Have a great day!

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill March 7, 2016 at 15:40

    I had an old boyfriend who was good at giving compliments and he used to tell me to stop putting myself down and just say “thanks” – it’s something I try to remember when the occasional compliment comes my way. It makes the giver feel a lot happier than when we try to justify ourselves. Lovely post Sue x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2016 at 08:48

      Yep I was exactly the same Leanne but the great thing about midlife is we are finally accepting ourselves. Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely week!

  • Reply Marilyn Lesniak March 8, 2016 at 07:52

    This is something I have never been comfortable doing. Thanks for the reminder. Pinned and shared at #OverTheMoon.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2016 at 08:53

      I am the same Marilyn but you are a beautiful soul and I love co-hosting with you. Have a great week!

  • Reply Nikki March 8, 2016 at 11:17

    Sue, I love this post and I’m one of these people too. I love to compliment others and see the joy reflected in their faces. I really enjoy pointing out others strengths, to reinforce them, and show them that I see their greatness. But I always brush off a compliment made to me, I don’t like being the center of attention very often. And it makes me kind of uncomfortable. I need to learn to be more gracious and just say thank you and move on. So thank you very much for reminding us to believe in ourselves and give ourselves credit!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 8, 2016 at 11:36

      Thanks Nikki for stopping by to comment and I’m finding that there are a lot of women who have the same problem. I don’t know if it is what we were taught growing up – that we shouldn’t ‘shine’ too much. I’m like you I don’t like being the centre of attention and feel very self-conscious with compliments but that is a self esteem issue for me. We just need to allow ourselves to feel good when someone makes the effort to compliment us. Have a great week!

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