‘I’m not this’, ‘I’m not that’ . We all have that negative voice, our mean girl, in our head who consistently tries to pull us down. She eats away at our self-confidence and prevents us from moving forward in our life. I’ve written often about the ‘mean girl’ who tries to take over the conversation in our heads, so I was interested to learn of ‘I Am’ statements as a way to combat negative thoughts.
I first discovered ‘I Am’ statements through Strong Healthy Women. Each week our workouts are based around an ‘I Am’ affirmation. For example, ‘I Am Strong’, ‘I Am Alive’, ‘I Am Encouraged’. We reflect on the weekly affirmation during and at the end of each workout to remind ourselves that we are capable, strong and beautiful women.
I’ve become a fan of podcasts especially when I’m driving long distances. This week I listened to the ‘YourCreativeChord’ podcast. Host Jenny Leigh Hodgins was discussing the topic of ‘How to Show Up Consistently for Yourself’ with her guest, empowerment coach, Kimberley Wiggins from Inspired Women Amazing Lives. You can listen to the full podcast HERE.
At the end of the podcast, Jenny asked Kimberley for her Action Tip. I’ve chosen this tip to be the Focus of the Week in the Women Living Well After 50 Facebook Group. Kimberley’s Action Tip was:
Start believing in your ‘I Am’, start walking your ‘I Am’ and start making ‘I Am’ statements.
So what does this mean?
Creating your ‘I AM’ statements
Basically, whenever your mean girl mind is being negative and telling you that ‘you aren’t…..‘ you turn the thought around and make it an ‘I Am’ statement. For example:
- ‘You AREN’T good enough’ becomes ‘I am good enough’
- ‘You AREN’T capable of achieving that’ becomes ‘I have the experience, I have the ability therefore I AM capable of achieving my goal.
Once you start creating these ‘I Am’ statements, use these powerful affirmations daily to walk the talk. Your confidence will increase and you will start moving forward in life.
For me, the next logical step is to follow on from ‘I Am’ and add ‘I Can’ statements. ‘I Can’ statements combat the negative thoughts and energy that comes from our limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are so difficult to overcome. Many have been formed over a long period of time and are ingrained in our mindset. I know from experience how difficult it is to develop ‘I AM’ and ‘I CAN’ statements.
My own experience
A few weeks ago, I took the plunge to change my branding, website and start a YouTube channel. I also have plans for a Podcast in the near future. I have been thinking about this for several months and finally decided to take the plunge. I received positive feedback when I discussed my plans with close friends. However, there were a couple of ‘negative Nellies’ who suggested it would all be too hard.
It was easy to allow the negativity to overshadow the positive. Combine this with my own self-doubt could have made me stop before I had even begun. But….. I turned the negatives around.
A negative comment of why I shouldn’t do it, was replaced with a positive of why I should. I took a leap of faith, held my breath and just did it! Which also happens to be the way Jenny and Kimberely approach their goals.
As Jenny said:
When I’m feeling blocked and listening to negative self-talk, I envision a STOP sign. I take action to overcome worry and negative thinking. I do things!Jenny Leigh Hodgins
And what happened when I just did it? The world didn’t end. I’ve received so many positive comments and support for my idea. I am energised, enthusiastic and happy because I’m working on something that I’m enjoying and actually love. Isn’t that all that matters?
Surrounding myself with positive energy
Through the Conversations with Women Living Well After 50 YouTube series, I’m connecting with inspiring, energetic Women Over 50 who are going for it and feeding from their positive energy. I’m challenging myself. I’m broadening my thinking as I learn the technical side of video production. I’m finding interesting topics to discuss and scheduling times when the person I am interviewing lives in another Time Zone.
Sure, I can certainly improve on the technical side and I’m still learning . BUT and the big BUT is that I AM loving the process. I AM growing as a person and with each episode, my self-confidence is building.
Do you have some ‘I’m not’ thoughts going through your mind? Can you reframe them to become ‘I AM’ statements? Will you start walking the ‘I AM’ path to achieve your dream life?
Come join us in the Women Living Well After 50 Facebook Group. We can focus on Walking the ‘I AM‘ path together.