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January 18, 2016
Remove But from Your Vocabulary

Remove But from Your VocabularyI was recently asked to write a Guest Article for Debbie Rodriguez from Debbie In Shape. Debbie, is a holistic lifestyle coach and in keeping with her philosophies I wanted to write a post about eliminating ‘BUT’ from our vocabulary so that we can make our dreams a reality.

We need to learn to REPLACE ‘BUT’ with ‘HOW’ & ‘WHEN’, however, fear and lack of self-confidence can stop us in our quest.

Here are 5 steps you need to take to make your dream a reality.

In my article for Debbie In Shape, I explain each step in detail with ideas and tools to help you achieve your ultimate goal.

1. Acknowledge your Commitment

Do you really want it? If you passionately want something you will overcome any obstacle including your fears to achieve your goal

2. Acknowledge your Fears

Fear is real and we all experience fear on different levels and in different ways. Once you face your fear head on and acknowledge its existence, you can work to overcoming your fear and it will become easier.

3. Make a Plan

The saying ‘Failing to plan is planning to fail’ is so true, especially if you are working towards making a dream a reality.

4. Create a Mantra

“I will achieve my dreams and goals there is NO BUT’

5. Relax & Cut yourself some Slack

Take time to relax and nurture yourself as you work towards your goal. Remember you are responsible for how you feel.

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  • Reply Rev January 18, 2016 at 23:16

    What a beautiful reminder, Sue! I had forgotten how important having a mantra is to remind me of the prize. Thanks for sharing this.

  • Reply Michelle January 19, 2016 at 00:33

    I read your article and it was full of inspiration! The universe must be trying to tell me something because I’ve been seeing posts like yours all over the place lately:) I’m getting close and I believe this year will see some of my goals achieved. #mg

  • Reply Lisa@intotheglade January 19, 2016 at 07:23

    This is brilliant and just what I needed to read today. I am letting fear stand in my way, I need to sort it out after all, what is the worse that can happen? Thank you for sharing X #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2016 at 15:27

      I’m so pleased Lisa that my post helped you today. It is so hard to overcome fear so you aren’t alone there, but the sense of achievement when you do is wonderful. I hope you visit again.

  • Reply Mrs Tubbs January 19, 2016 at 07:29

    What lovely, sensible advice on how to achieve your goals. I’ve seen a few posts like this so the universe may be trying tell me something. Time to apply myself!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2016 at 15:28

      Thank you Mrs Tubbs! It is hard but if we give it a try what is the worst that can happen? Go for it! Have a lovely week and I hope you visit again.

  • Reply Carol @ The Red Painted Cottage January 19, 2016 at 13:49

    A great post for anyone to read. The BUT makes it sound like defeat before you even start.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2016 at 15:30

      Exactly Carol, we are putting obstacles in our way by using just this tiny word! Glad you enjoyed the post and have a lovely week!

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville January 19, 2016 at 17:30

    I have come such a long way, but fear still hold me back more than I’d like to admit. I need to get my book out there, but I am still scared it will be rejected and wonder how I will deal with the loss of that dream. But I know I’ll regret more if I don’t do it. #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2016 at 15:30

      Hi Mackenzie, you aren’t alone in trying to overcome fear. We all feel like this (which is good to know). You need to go for your dream, no matter the consequences. You will do it and I can’t wait to read your book.

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill January 19, 2016 at 18:17

    I think we all like to find excuses to make our lives easier, but easy isn’t necessarily what’s good for us. Taking away the excuses means that we can achieve a lot more than we thought possible. Great post Sue!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2016 at 15:31

      Thanks Leanne, it is easy to make excuses and harder to find the strength to overcome our fears. However, once we do it is a wonderful feeling. Have a great week!

  • Reply Katrin January 20, 2016 at 07:46

    I loved this post Sue! So full of positivity and motivation. The “but” will disappear from my vocabulary!! No excuses, no fear!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 20, 2016 at 15:32

      Thanks Katrin! I feel good that you found the post positive and are willing to give it a try! I love your quote ‘no excuses, no fear’ it’s great!

  • Reply Sarah Eliza @ devastateboredom January 22, 2016 at 12:33

    Good advice, thank you for the inspiration!! 🙂 Featuring encouraging stuff this week (and every week, honestly) at our Friday Frivolity link-up if you felt like coming to join!!

    Found you via #PitStop!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2016 at 12:41

      thanks Sarah for stopping by and I will try to check out the Friday Frivolity link up – I love the name!

  • Reply Lee MacArthur January 22, 2016 at 15:04

    As I age, I realize the future is full of possibilities as long as we do not let ourselves fall victim to the idea that only the young can start businesses, invent, or write an award winning book. I made a list of goals that I hope to accomplish some time before I die. I love the idea of removing the but. The but does slow us down and can keep us from moving forward. Thank you for writing this.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2016 at 12:44

      Exactly Lee! It is all in the mindset. There is no age barrier – only the one we put there. Have a great day and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply Life Loving January 25, 2016 at 03:07

    I agree. Too many people worry about what might happen if they do something and not enough about just getting on and doing it. Maybe I don’t have ‘the fear’ in situations (except really high places) but I’m generally up for trying anything once and then I’ll worry about the ‘buts’ after. Good on you for highlighting this Sue.

    Sally @ Life Loving

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 25, 2016 at 12:49

      Great attitude Sally – up for trying anything once – I like it! Thanks for the opportunity to link up and also for your comment.!

  • Reply Jennifer Abel February 1, 2016 at 17:39

    Oh Sue this is a great post, I used always have a but and now I have a why. Facing our fears face on can only lead to a stronger you and you will gain confidence in no time. Thanks for sharing on #overthemoon

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 2, 2016 at 09:29

      I’m so pleased you enjoyed the post Jen and although I still have trouble ‘but’ is almost removed from my vocab. You are right – facing our fears does make us stronger. Have a lovely day and thanks for stopping by to comment

  • Reply gigi February 2, 2016 at 03:49

    What a great post Sue! I checked it out on Debbie’s site too. You are a truly inspirational writer!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric February 2, 2016 at 09:30

      Thanks Gigi you are too kind!

  • Reply Carol Cassara October 17, 2016 at 00:28

    Yes. There are so many reasons to remove it from our vocab. I removed it from mine at least 20 years ago.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 21, 2016 at 06:45

      Yes you sound like a lady that has it all together!

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