Part of Ageing Well and Living Well is feeling that little zest for life. The ‘magic’ that keeps life fun and interesting. Life isn’t like that all the time, so how do we rediscover the magic? My next guest in the Ageing Well, Living Well series, is Candi Randolph from Inspire My Style.
I’ve known Candi for quite some time now and we have much in common. We both know the importance of keeping healthy, fit and making time for ‘self-care’. Candi shares her thoughts on how to recapture the magic when life takes over.
Sometimes our day-to-day lives feel anything but “magic”.
Life tends to do that, you know, bringing unexpected and sometimes unwanted complications and events that can shake us to our core. Or, just the everyday life happenings that throw us off our game, our routine, our preferred way to spend the day…and we lose the magic.
It can happen as we get older, too. You know, the excitement, anticipation, quest for the unknown, desire to be the best, learn and achieve, and become our best selves. All of those goals and dreams can become faded hopes of the past if we let them.
I’ve found that some women in their 50’s, 60’s and beyond feel like they’ve done it. They know what they need to know, their life is what it is, and they just keep treading water every day, getting older, frumpy and well, kind of crabby. Know anyone like that?
I woke up recently and didn’t feel the magic. Not necessarily old and frumpy, but a little defeated and uncertain.
My life is not the typical mid 60’s life. I am single (widowed if you want the specifics) work because I need to, although I love what I do and always want to continue growing and developing as a person. Retirement is a long range goal, and even though I am not nearly ready to sit back and enjoy the days at a leisurely pace, I know that it’s up to me to keep my life moving forward, financially and otherwise.
So the magic had taken a little vacation and I had a short pity party. But it’s over now, thank you very much. I was not willing to let the magic leave me for long.
How to Keep the Magic in Our Lives
I have learned that it’s up to me to keep that magic in my life by putting one foot in front of the other and maintaining a healthy balance with myself and my activities.
And it starts in my little head. That’s where I, and I think many of us, can let ourselves spiral downward, even if it’s just for a few minutes, and start feeling all of those feelings that can hurt us emotionally and otherwise, and stop us in our tracks.
Well, my feet (and my little head) are going to keep moving forward, as is my life, and my healthy lifestyle.
This is what I do to keep the ‘magic’ in my life.
A healthy morning routine does so much for me
How about you? Do you start the day with purpose? With a simple morning routine that includes activities and actions that say, “I care about myself today”?
It’s such a simple thing, but those few first-thing-in-the-morning activities can help get my focus where it needs to be. My mind, body and inner self need to be on the same page, or I’m not going to stay focused and do what I want to, and need to do.
Know when it’s time to work, and when it’s time to stop and relax. Maintain the balance.
I have a habit of working, quite a bit. Although I love my work I can forget to take time away from “the job”, so am trying to pay attention to my body and mind when it is telling me to stop.
Recently I decided to get involved in the church I attended for many years before moving out of state. I love to sing, so returning to the choir would give me the opportunity to do that, worship regularly, and interact with people in a social setting.
Although I could just stay home and occupy my time by myself, it’s not maintaining the balance in my life. So off I go every Wednesday evening and at least 2 Sundays per month. And it’s good. I like it.
Be grateful for what I have…every single day
Okay, this might be a little bit TMI, but it is a practical application of the words that can flow so freely without much thought, “I’m grateful for what I have every day”.
I was dutifully providing some much needed foot care for myself the other day…trimming, polishing, moisturizing…and as I looked at my feet I thought how unattractive they were becoming as I age. My little toes are turning outward, the toenails are not exactly what you would call attractive, and overall they just look, well, old.
And then I thought about a friend who is not able to move her legs or feet, but sits in a wheel chair every day of her life.
And a blogger I know of who lost her arms and legs to a horrible virus.
And then I was ashamed for thinking that my feet were ugly. I have two of them and they get me where I want to go. I am grateful for those feet, and for every day that they work for me.
I truly am grateful for what I have, every day, and keeping that focus helps me hold onto the magic.
Plan for the future; don’t obsess over it
I am a planner by nature, usually with a Plan A and a Plan B for the more significant decisions I make in my life.
And while planning ahead is a good thing overall, it can also become a stone around our neck, taking the magic away from our days if we let The Plan become our reason for existing.
So although I always have a plan for the day, for the week, month, and the significant decisions and directions, I try to keep these things in perspective and enjoy each day.
Which brings me to the final thought.
Remember that every day is a gift
I am not going to waste one minute of it feeling down, depressed, or sorry for myself. Just listen to the news for a few minutes and you’ll learn more than you want to know about the ills of the world, unexpected happenings, calamities outside of our control, and famous people who appeared to ‘have it all’, and suddenly they’re gone.
I have today. That’s what I have been given. And when I remember that and am truly grateful for the opportunity, that ol’ magic sticks around. And I like it that way.
Candi Randolph is a woman in midlife who writes about the experiences that women have as they go through this unique phase of their life, with topics like natural aging, healthy eating, fitness, casual fashion, home, and family. She lives daily by faith and a strong cup of coffee.