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How ‘Selfies’ can change the way we look at ourselves

August 21, 2017
How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

This week over at Denyse Whelan Blogs, the writing prompt is ‘Selfie Time’. Now I cringed when I read that as I am not a fan of having my photo taken, let alone a selfie!

I’ve always had a poor self-image but actually I’ve found that the ‘selfie’ is helping me overcome this and to accept who I am and how I look.

How ‘Selfies’ can change the way we look at ourselves

However, if Prime Ministers, Presidents and of course celebrities are getting on board and joining the ‘selfie revolution’ what chance do I have?  There has even been a selfie taken in space back in December by Japanese astronaut Aki Hoshide who photographed himself during a spacewalk outside the International Space Station. Hoshide and Nasa

Taking a selfie is not as easy as it sounds and that is why I’m not a ‘natural’. I look at some people who either have arms long enough or know just how to tilt their head or get the right angle and wonder how much time they have had to practice to get it right!

I’m still a novice and certainly haven’t mastered the ‘sexy pout’ and have no idea of what filters are to make myself look like a super model. In fact, one selfie might take me several photos to get it right! Luckily we are in the digital age and if we don’t like it we can just press DELETE.

Here is a selfie I took yesterday before my 60th Birthday party.

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

After doing some reading,  I think I fall into the ‘controlled selfie’ category. That is, I make sure I’m looking half okay at least. However, there is something wonderful about spontaneity and I’m working on being less self-conscious and having more fun with my ‘selfies’.

What about the ‘selfie stick’? Maybe I need one of those as I never seem to have long enough arms to hold the phone and click at the same time! I used to smile to myself when I saw tourists with selfie sticks but maybe there is method in their madness.

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

However, it appears that the selfie is here to stay. Whilst I once scoffed at the idea as being narcissitic and a ‘hey look at me, look at me’ type of attitude. However, on the flipside I have found that it can be an important way to record your life. I’ve even managed to get my husband (who isn’t even on social media), to take part in selfies on certain occasions.

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves


How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

I love Instagram because I enjoy looking at photographs of my friends and those I follow. I find I also enjoy looking at their ‘selfies’ and it is a great way to get to know people.

My friend Jan Wild from Retiring, Not Shy! takes a selfie most days of what she is wearing for the day. She then posts to Instagram and I find I’m looking with interest as to what the outfit of the day is.

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

My daughter is very protective of my grandson and social media but when she publishes the occasional selfie with him they look so happy and I enjoy the moment with them.

So whilst there could be some negative sides to ‘selfies’ it can be a positive way to learn to love yourself  for who you are even if sometimes the photo might not be as ‘flattering’ as you would like.

I’m really going out of my comfort zone now and sharing some selfies with you. I actually think the more you take photos of yourself the more you accept how you look and feel more comfortable in your own skin.

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

How 'Selfies' can change the way we look at ourselves

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  • Reply Min@WriteoftheMiddle August 21, 2017 at 10:13

    I love your birthday selfie Sue and a big Happy Birthday to you! You look gorgeous! Love all the other ones too. I tried a selfie stick but couldn’t work it out so have ditched that idea. I have poor self image and know it so I’m taking steps to try and improve that and you’re right, I think the selfie thing is helping. I take them so my blog readers get to see the person behind the name and also to help improve my avoidance of being photographed. I stick with the reverse camera thing in my phone. I still avoid full body shots and mirror selfies. One step at a time! lol xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 11:53

      Oh Min you are so gorgeous and I’ve been loving the selfies of you. That one the other day was beautiful. Aren’t we so critical of ourselves. Such a shame but I’m going to try to keep the selfies coming and you should too! I’m loving your series on the blog at the moment btw. Have a lovely week. xx

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl August 21, 2017 at 10:46

    Happy Birthday, Sue! Love your birthday selfie.

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 11:54

      Thanks SSG and get well soon. Sending you a big hug xx

  • Reply Jenni @ Unclutter Your Universe August 21, 2017 at 10:56

    I joined the everyday style community on instagram last year, and starting posting outfit pics. It has been a wonderful experience that has boosted my confidence and help me uncover my own personal style. Now I have a tri pod, blue tooth remote and better phone camera to take my pics.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 11:55

      Oh you are a professional now Jenni LOL:) but good for you. Hopefully I will grow in self-confidence and take the selfies a little more seriously. Its a great idea posting about everyday style although now I am retired some days it is trackpants and top – not so glamourous. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by!

  • Reply Susan @ Under the ButternutTree August 21, 2017 at 11:19

    You look great in your selfies, as does your husband. I wouldn’t think twice about a selfie if I looked as good as you do in one. BTW, thanks for hosting the Over the Moon link party each week. I enjoy checking out the linked posts as well as the hosts’ posts.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 11:57

      Oh you are lovely Susan and I’ve passed that comment onto my husband. It made his day! Great that you are linking up to Over the Moon. I also co-host Bloggers Pit Stop link party each Friday 11am Brisbane time. So feel free to link up to that as well. x

  • Reply Vanessa August 21, 2017 at 11:46

    I can’t take them seriously so I tend to put ones of me pulling face up haha.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 11:58

      Well I love those type of selfies Vanessa and wish I had the confidence to pull a funny face. So good for you! Have a great day! x

  • Reply Grammy Dee from Grammy's Grid August 21, 2017 at 12:39

    LOVE the selfies of you Sue and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 13:54

      Oh thanks Dee! I’m finally getting used to seeing myself and not being too critical!

  • Reply Leanne | crestingthehill August 21, 2017 at 14:45

    You are much better at the selfie thing than I am Sue – I’ve tried a few times but just seem to look really startled, or old, or strange in them all! I’m going to have to work at it more because it is really important to have some photos to cherish in the years to come. Love your birthday one and the ones with Mike especially x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 16:11

      Oh there are probably 10 bad ones that I delete to every good one Leanne! I’m still learning that is for sure. xx

  • Reply Jan Wild August 21, 2017 at 16:18

    Your selfies are gorgeous Sue, I love them all and particularly the one in the hat. Now here’s a challenge for us to take up on Instagram – I have just discovered the hashtag #selfiesafter60 I’m going to start using it. How about we create at trend.
    One of the great advantages is getting photos as a couple, for too long our travel photos have been one of us taking the other, not really the point.
    Thank you for the shout out you gorgeous woman xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 21, 2017 at 17:16

      Actually I did like the hat one as well Jan! Oh yes okay I’m in for the challenge I just have to remember to put the hashtags in LOL:) OOOh a trendsetter I like that! Let’s do it!! And you are so lovely too! xxx

  • Reply Hosanna August 21, 2017 at 19:38

    I used to cringe whenever I saw someone taking a selfie –thinking all kinds of judgemental thoughts. But now since having a baby and traveling with him, I realize there are so many photos of him alone and I want our memories to include ME in them as well. And since there isn’t always a stranger around to ask for a photo,I’ve joined the selfie wagon –and I don’t hate it. I may or not have to take 20 shots to get an acceptable photo, but when I do, I agree it can be a way to boost your self image –because sometimes you just gotta say “Dang, I look good!”

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:51

      I was the same Hosanna but you are right having children makes you want to have photos with them and sometimes a selfie is the only way. I also agree with you about looking at yourself and admitting you look good. Sometimes I don’t but when I do I am actually acknowledging that and it is a good feeling x

  • Reply Shirley Corder August 22, 2017 at 01:15

    I took my first selfie of myself with my husband, brother and sister-in-law a few days ago, and I was surprised how well it came out.I admit, I need to work on this as it could be very useful. I’ve just completed a photo-blog on what I’ve been up to the last couple of weeks, but I don’t have a selfie on it. Next time, promise!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:46

      Oh good for you Shirley! Keep working at them and I’m no expert. I think once you get over the self-conscious bit things get easier. Have a great day! xx

  • Reply Jennifer August 22, 2017 at 01:56

    Though I’m not the biggest fan of them, I’ve learned that having pictures of yourself is a good thing. We look so critically at them when we first take them but a few years down the road, we’ll realize how good we looked at that moment in time.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:45

      You are so right Jennifer! I’ve never thought of myself as pretty or beautiful but now that I’m older and I look back on photos I’m less critical of myself. Have a lovely day and thanks for always supporting my blog. xx

  • Reply Janice August 22, 2017 at 05:32

    Love your selfies Sue and hope you had a great birthday!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:43

      Thanks Janice and I’m having a great birthday thank you! Have a beautiful day and thanks for stopping by xx

  • Reply Michelle (inthegoodbooksblog) August 22, 2017 at 06:14

    I hardly ever take selfies, I may have about 10 in total out of 2000 photos on my phone!! But I am hoping to take more photos with my children as I don’t have many

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:42

      I used to be that way Michelle but now have a different attitude. Yes, make sure you take photos with your children. My children gave me a beautiful photo of the three of us at my 60th birthday party and I will treasure it always xx

  • Reply Chris August 22, 2017 at 08:37

    I have tried to get on the selfie train but I struggle with it. I have deleted so many pictures of myself after I take them. Maybe it would help my self image if I posted some of them. Great post.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 23, 2017 at 08:28

      Hi Chris, I was like you but I’ve found it has helped me have a better opinion of myself. I suppose I’m just getting used to how I look. Have a great day and go on post a selfie!

  • Reply Denyse Whelan Blogs August 23, 2017 at 12:35

    Loved this post so much!! I am still mastering the selfie and probably take at least 3-4 before I am OK with pressing ‘publish’ and that is OK too! I will try to remember that hashtag now I’ve seen it. Cheers and Happy 60th today! Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 32/52. Next week: Mindfulness.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:39

      Oh thanks Denyse and it was you who inspired me to write it with your prompt. I’m like you – many shots before I post ‘the one’ LOL:) Glad to see you are getting better each week and thank you for the kind birthday wishes. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Katherine August 24, 2017 at 00:39

    Can I start off by saying that you’re gorgeous, and every week when I look at your posts that include pictures of yourself I marvel at your make up skills. I can’t do my own make up to save my life, but you always look so put together!

    Secondly, I also don’t have long enough arms and am not a whiz at angling my face. I either end up with a double chin or a photo of the insides of my nostrils 😉

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2017 at 07:35

      Oh Katherine you are certainly good for my ego! Isn’t it funny how we see ourselves – I was thinking the other day that I had to go and have makeup lessons and then you say it looks good. I’m just giving selfies a go and learning to accept the good with the bad. Have a great day and thank you for your kind words. xx

  • Reply Michele August 25, 2017 at 12:30

    You look fabulous! I hate taking any kind of photo. I think I am not photogenic at all. Happy, happy birthday!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 25, 2017 at 15:36

      It has taken me until now to just do it Michele. I don’t think I’m photogenic but what the heck I just have to accept myself and go with it. Thank you for your lovely birthday wishes and have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Leslie Clingan August 25, 2017 at 13:14

    Looks like you have a good handle on the selfie! Your pre-birthday photo is fabulous. And the photo with the hat! Frame-able.

    I don’t generally like the Instagram filters unless they make the colors in a photo more vivid. And then sometimes, I fool around with B&W. I figure people who know me see me IRL the way I am, who am I trying to fool with filters!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 25, 2017 at 15:37

      Yes both flukes Leslie! I do quite like the one with the hat. I haven’t got to the filters stage yet it is enough for me to get a photo and then it takes about 10 tries LOL:) You have such a gorgeous smile you don’t need filters at all!

  • Reply Estelle Anderson August 26, 2017 at 19:10

    I loved reading this post Sue. At times I laughed, not because what you were saying is funny, but more because your saying exactly what I often think. For me it is quite confronting to take a close up photo of myself! And I have hit the delete button often. You are inspiring me to try and overcome the reality of the close ups. I will need to overcome this if I want to post videos on my blog . Great article and great selfies ????

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 29, 2017 at 14:48

      I know it can be hard to start Estelle and I worry what others will think but I do believe it is helping my self-confidence. I’ve made some videos for facebook after a run and that certainly isn’t a pretty sight! LOL:)

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  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid September 1, 2017 at 16:22

    Yay for you and your selfies, you go girl! I’m not quite there yet 🙂 Thank you Sue for linking up and co-hosting at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. I shared your post on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, and Twitter.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 1, 2017 at 16:30

      Oh it isn’t easy Dee but I’m trying!

  • Reply Molly Stevens September 1, 2017 at 20:20

    I’m a fan of the selfie, and even have a selfie stick, though it’s repaired with duct tape after I had a little accident with it last Christmas. No one was hurt so that’s a blessing. Anyway, I’ve had some funny photos that are selfies for all the reasons you list as disadvantages. Funny angles, blurred, my arm isn’t long enough to get the full scene, etc. Someday I’ll organize the thousands of photos stored on my devices. Maybe. If I looked like you, I’d take a selfie every day, Sizzling Sue!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 2, 2017 at 04:42

      That is why I love you Molly because you just go for it! Oh, and also because you give me compliments ha!ha! You are very kind and maybe we should start a challenge of the funniest selfies of ourselves? Have a great weekend Molly! xx

  • Reply Michele Morin September 1, 2017 at 22:07

    I think I’ ve posted one selfie on Instagram, and half my face was hidden behind a book. I realize that I need to get more comfortable with selfies, and I am inspired by your adventuresome spirit.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 2, 2017 at 04:41

      I’m glad you are inspired Michele because we are always so critical of ourselves and don’t see what others do. I don’t think I’m photogenic but then if I post a selfie I get compliments – good for the ego but also it makes me less critical of myself. I think others also appreciate that it isn’t easy to post photos of yourself and I’m sure they feel just as nervous. Go for it! You have a lovely smile so just say ‘cheese’, click and post! Have a great weekend xx

  • Reply Teresa - Aging Like a Fine Wine September 8, 2017 at 06:01

    Sue, I think your selfies are cute as can be. As you said, they show so much personality! My husband just loves to take them of him and I and I always think “oh, that’s bad”. Thank you for sharing your selfies at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty! Pinned and shared.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 9, 2017 at 07:59

      Hi Teresa! I’m still not 100% comfortable doing them but I suppose you have to laugh at yourself occasionally. Does your husband have an Instagram account? He might become a star!!! Thanks so much for sharing and co-hosting #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. Have a great weekend. xx

  • Reply Lori Hill-Smith September 18, 2017 at 11:41

    Great post Sue and I love your selfies! They’re so fun!! Recently I was going through a rough time and taking selfies helped me appreciate me just a little bit more.


    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 19, 2017 at 04:49

      I’m still pushing myself to actually post them but I do feel they help me. Good for you bringing a positive and appreciating yourself more during such a rough time. Hope things are improving now. xx

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    • Reply Sue Loncaric October 1, 2017 at 14:05

      Thanks so much Dee it was a lovely way to start my holiday xx

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