Failing is something we don’t like to do, I know I don’t, but this week a few examples have presented themselves and I wanted to share with you why it’s okay to fail.
My WOTY is Freedom and although I was second guessing my choice, over the last couple of weeks, the idea of Freedom and how it slots into my personal growth and well-being is becoming clearer. I’ve decided to write specific posts around Freedom at least monthly as I learn more about the word and also how it is guiding me in 2024.
Freedom to Fail – Why failing can be a good thing
I mentioned that freedom and failing had been on my mind and I wanted to explore. The first thing to set me thinking about the connection, was a blog post A Massive Fail and a Win #WOYP written by my good friend Debbie from Deb’s World for the What’s On Your Plate Link Up. Please take a moment to click on the link read about the fail as I’m sure you will all be nodding when you do.
I was having a conversation with Deb during the week, catching up since the Christmas break, talking about life and of course blogging. The subject of failing came up and she mentioned that she had received so many responses to her post congratulating her on showing the failure rather than only posting the ‘perfect’ things. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect or not let others see our failures, where others are more forgiving of us and applaud our attempts because they know what it is like because the fail sometimes too. As an aside, Deb came up with the title ‘Freedom to Fail’ for me, so thanks Deb!
It’s about letting go of the ideal that we need to achieve Perfection to be happy and accepting the reality that we are human and mistakes, errors of judgement, failure will happen.
Taking Imperfect Action – What does it mean?
I started the year taking an Italian Language bootcamp course. My husband was born in Italy and moved to Australia when he was 4 years old – 72 years ago. He still speaks Italian and I can understand and read it, but I don’t have the confidence to speak in conversation.
The language course was just a ‘starter’ which was great for me to refresh my memory and start speaking again. One thing that the teacher talked about was ‘taking Imperfect Action’. This means don’t wait until you can speak fluently thinking that everything has to be perfect.
This applies to anything you want to try. When I pressed the button on my first Women Living Well After 50 Podcast Episode, I had no previous experience in podcasting, I was concerned no one would listen, I was self-conscious and I didn’t have expensive equipment. I closed my eyes and pressed the Go LIVE button and the results were positive and encouraging. I would have missed this opportunity to explore a new path in my life, if I had dithered and waited until everything was perfect.
Just start! Accept you will make mistakes and move forward.
The freedom to make mistakes and move on
Why accepting the freedom to fail is good for our mental health
Failure can be beneficial for our mental health for several reasons:
- Resilience: Experiencing failure can help us build resilience, as it teaches us how to adapt and bounce back in the face of adversity.
- Growth: Failure provides opportunities for personal and professional growth. It allows us to learn from our mistakes, gain new perspectives, and develop valuable skills.
- Humility: Embracing failure fosters humility and a realistic self-perception. It reminds us that we are not infallible and encourages a more balanced self-view.
- Reduced Fear: Overcoming the fear of failure can liberate us from the anxiety of making mistakes, leading to increased confidence and a greater willingness to take on new challenges.
- Empathy: Witnessing others’ failures can cultivate empathy and understanding, as it encourages us to support and relate to others going through similar experiences.
Ultimately, embracing failure as a natural part of life can contribute to a healthier mindset, greater emotional resilience, and a more positive approach to personal and professional development.
Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.Mahatma Gandhi