Over 50s Lifestyle

Focus for the week – Finding Your Happiness & Your Happy Place

August 21, 2023
finding your happyplace

Happy Monday @everyone!

I saw a quote this morning on the @healingspirit Facebook page and thought YES! This is our focus for the week – making Our Happiness a priority – because you are worth it!

Don’t change yourself just to make someone happy, unless that someone is YOU.

Karen Salmanshon

Are you constantly feeling that you just aren’t being your authentic self because you are trying to make others happier or changing who you are to make others happy?

When we focus on our own happiness we are then able to bring joy to others because we feel good and we radiate joy and sparkle.

Recently I completed the Action for Happiness Volunteer course. It was a great way to focus on my own happiness but also to be able to focus on spreading happiness and kindness to others.

At the conclusion of the course I took the following pledge:

I pledge to create more happiness and less unhappiness in the world around me by taking action everyday to be happier myself. Connecting with others in ways that help them become happier and volunteering my time to spread happiness in the world…

Each month I share the Action for Happiness Calendar with daily prompts to help put the focus on happiness. This week, I’m starting to spread the word by putting our focus on you and your happines. It’s all about


Life isn’t always about rainbows and unicorns and it can get tough. We can’t always be sparkling or happy and upbeat.

Sometimes there are reasons for this which are out of our control BUT there a many times when how we feel is in our control.

❤️Doing things that make you happy.
❤️Doing things that bring you joy.
❤️Doing something new
❤️Doing something just for yourself
❤️Not trying to change who you are –
❤️Finding some ME time to reflect on what actually makes you feel good, what makes you sparkle and what makes you feel joy.


Who is up for the challenge this week? Let me know in the comments what things make you happy or what you need to change in your life to find your sparkle and joy.

Remember sharing your thoughts might just inspire others…..
Have a lovely day! 💕💕💕

Don't change yourself just to make someone happy unless that someone is YOU
Sue Loncaric

Women Living Well After 50

Living Life Your Way


  • Reply leannelc August 21, 2023 at 10:33

    Hi Sue – you look lovely in your Winter red outfit. I love the idea of you taking that course on how to be happier and spread happiness – the world needs more happy, positive people. I think if we all aim to leave a legacy of love and joy, it makes us better people to be around and more content within ourselves too. Lovely post for a Monday morning. x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 22, 2023 at 15:57

      It was really cold on Saturday, Leanne and I do love my red jacket which I don’t get to wear often. The beanie we bought in tassie last year, even though I don’t think I’m a beanie girl LOL 🙂 The colour was cheerful and made me feel happy so that is always a positive thing. x

  • Reply Toni Pike August 21, 2023 at 14:38

    What lovely advice, Sue – I totally agree with it. That red outfit looks stunning on you. Toni x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 22, 2023 at 15:57

      Thank you, Toni, I do like red but don’t wear it often. x

  • Reply Joanne August 21, 2023 at 20:20

    Oh yes the world could use a lot more happiness and kindness in it! I definitely find that being happy myself is a key to spreading happiness.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 22, 2023 at 15:58

      If we aren’t happy we can’t spread the happiness – you are so right Joanne. Have a lovely week. x

  • Reply patwdoyle11 August 22, 2023 at 06:30

    Sue, I think one of the hardest things to do for happiness/positivity is to “let go of people in life that rob you of joy”. I’ve always tried to be a people-pleaser. I’ve learned to please myself and not just always others, but still find it hard to let go of people who bring me down. Or to not feel guilty for letting them go.

    And I adore that red outfit and red lips! Of course, it’s heat of summer here, so seeing a hat, scarf, and jacket was a (fun) disconnect.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 22, 2023 at 16:00

      It is difficult, Pat. I’m a people pleaser and can really get myself tied up in knots inside which of course isn’t an ideal state for happiness. It’s hard letting go. The red was a fun outfit to watch my grandson play soccer and it certainly lifted my spirits. I feel like you do when the Northern Hemisphere is in Winter and all rugged up and we are sweltering in Summer over here. Have a lovely week. x

  • Reply Retirement Reflections August 22, 2023 at 11:53

    Very wise words (as usual), Sue!
    As tempting as it is, changing ourselves for others seldom (if ever) works well for us in the end.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 22, 2023 at 16:01

      Thank you, my friend. Maybe I get my wisdom from you x

  • Reply Jo August 23, 2023 at 10:09

    And here’s another happy… happy birthday my dear friend…

  • Reply Min Write of the Middle August 23, 2023 at 21:45

    Hi Sue, and a big YES to doing things that make ourselves happy so that we are in a better position to spread happiness and kindness to others. Simple things bring me joy – mostly though it is nature and I’ve certainly been making an effort in that dept lately with our May/June trip to NZ and our recent short getaway to the Bunya Mountains. I think a bit of time out from our usual day to day lives can work wonders. Hope you’re having a great week and Happy Birthday again for today! xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2023 at 10:14

      I can see you’ve been making an effort, Min and you must feel much better for it. Thanks for your birthday wishes. xx

  • Reply Susanne August 24, 2023 at 06:39

    Sue, I really enjoy all your posts about happiness and all the ways to embrace and create happiness – for ourselves and others. I have a few different important things that always give me joy and I have a few different happy places too. But generally I think I need to think more about what is my true self and how to live more in it.
    You look absolutely fabulous in that red outfit!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2023 at 10:15

      Thank you for your lovely compliment, Susanne. I’m so pleased you enjoy the posts and I will be incorporating more happiness posts going forward. xx

  • Reply Bernie August 24, 2023 at 13:32

    A slightly belated happy birthday Sue. I hope you had a great day with your family.
    I try hard to find kindness in my heart and share it regularly. I hug my other half every day, tell him I love him and thank him for the things he does for us/me. I like to start the kindness at home. I often wish I was kinder to myself; I make bad choices (95% of the time food related) and then beat myself up. I think your idea to stop and look around and appreciate what we have incorporates the mindfulness that I was lucky enough to delve into at a workshop years ago.
    And like everyone else — heck that red “beanie” and jacket look good on you. Bernie

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 24, 2023 at 14:46

      Hi Bernie! Thanks for the lovely compliment and birthday wishes. I think we are always kinder to others rather than ourselves which is a shame and something I believe many if not all women need to work on. You aren’t alone there. x

  • Reply Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid August 24, 2023 at 17:18

    Happy Belated Birthday Lady in Red! Red really suits you! This is great advice. I have a Marie Kondo approach to the people in my life – if they steal my joy, I have to let them go 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 26, 2023 at 10:29

      Thank you, Sammie and I had a giggle at Lady in Red and also your Marie Kondo approach to people in your life – I love that. x

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee August 24, 2023 at 17:35

    I like this post a lot. I’m going to click on the link to the course cos you’ve intrigued me. I place a lot of value on doing those things in your list (I was a little out of sorts last Friday so I took an early mark and went to a museum).
    A podcast I listen to said you could measure good friendship because you immediately come out of your head. You aren’t worrying about what you said or how you look or what they will think. You are just immediately present and comfortable. I think this is part of happiness. You are just present in the moment, not running the commentary in your head.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 26, 2023 at 10:30

      Thanks so much Lydia. Good for you doing something for yourself when you just weren’t feeling up to par. I love the measure of good friendship – that is so true. Have a great week! x

  • Reply Debbie August 25, 2023 at 08:40

    I read this the other day but forgot to comment – oops! Your advice is spot on if we can look for the positives and things that make us happy then we can be kinder to others as well. I like the idea of finding glimmers and sparkles of happiness in our every day lives.
    Love your red riding hood outfit Sue, red is definitely your colour!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 26, 2023 at 10:33

      I had a giggle at your ‘red riding hood outfit’ comment, Deb. Hope I don’t meet the Wolf??? LOL 🙂

  • Reply Janet Alcorn August 28, 2023 at 11:38

    Solid advice! My challenge is balancing happiness in the moment with doing things that I know will bring me more lasting happiness later. The lure of instant gratification is strong.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 30, 2023 at 13:28

      Yes it is easy to look for instant gratification, Janet and sometimes that isn’t a bad thing. However, long term happiness is a level we all strive for. It keeps rolling along despite the peaks and troughs of life. x

  • Reply Natalie August 29, 2023 at 08:49

    Hi Sue, Thank you for your weekend coffee share and happy belated birthday! You look great in red. Excellent advice to find our happiness and happy place. I have time for family and friends and time for me. Have a wonderful week!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 30, 2023 at 13:31

      Thanks, Natalie I hope you join you next weekend too.

  • Reply Kirstin Troyer August 30, 2023 at 23:47

    That action for happiness sounds great. I just looked and there is an online one available locally in October, but that is not a good month for me, so maybe I’ll wait.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric September 3, 2023 at 08:56

      Hi Kirstin we can find our happiness anytime. Have a great September x

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