On Mother’s Day 2020 , I’ve been reflecting on other traditions and activities that have changed for me during 2020 and the Year of COVID-19. I’ve also realised that whilst I love the comfort of Traditions in my life, the most important things are the love and happiness of family and friends, each day and not on just one particular day.
Mother’s Day 2020
It is a different kind of Mother’s Day in 2020. Usually, it has been a tradition for my daughter, Rachel and I to run together in the Mother’s Day Classic. We run every year to support Cancer research and in memory of my Mum and her Nan, who died from breast cancer in 1986. After the run we usually have breakfast and my son, Nathan joins us. This has been a tradition for several years and last year was extra special as my two grandsons were there to see Mummy and Nan run. It is a special time for Rachel and I to celebrate being Mothers and also honouring and remembering my Mum. There is a Virtual opportunity this year and although it isn’t quite the same, we both ran on Mother’s Day to support Breast Cancer research in Memory of Mum
The positive is: I am surrounded by love and support from my husband, my daughter & SIL, my son and my grandsons. Not just on Mother’s Day but every day.
On Mother’s Day, Mike and I usually spend some of the day with my almost 94 year old MIL. For the last three years we have collected her from her aged care home and taken her for a drive. This year it is different. I could only drop off a gift basket at the door and a phone call on the day.
The positive is that my MIL who turns 94 in June is still healthy, happy and enjoying life.
Finding positives with changing Traditions
Apart from Mother’s Day there are other traditions that I’ve had to let go of and have left me feeling sad and unsettled. Yes, I know that next year we will pick up again but it has been a stressful time for many and traditions help to keep us grounded and feeling comfortable with a sense of belonging.
It has been my tradition to make special themed birthday cakes for my grandchildren and I’ve done this for the last 12 years. This year, Ethan my grandson had chosen a Lego Ninja birthday cake for me to make during April. Unfortunately, due to COVID-19 restrictions I couldn’t make the cake which might not be a big deal to some, but as it is a tradition for me, I felt something was missing.
The positive: Ethan had a fantastic birthday despite isolation and social distancing restrictions. Rachel was able to organise a special day for Ethan despite restrictions. He started the day with a gift hunt from clues Rachel and Ian had left around the house. This was followed by a Zoom call with grandparents, school friends dropping by to sing Happy Birthday at the gate and one of the school Mum’s baking the special Ninja cake for him as a gift. Rachel made sure he didn’t miss out.
Saturday runs are a tradition I share with my Saturday Sisters. We run and train for events throughout the year but 2020 is different. I’ve not been able to run with my SSs due to social distancing restrictions and the events we had entered have all been cancelled. These running events have become a tradition for us. We train for, enter and complete the runs and then celebrate with a huge breakfast. We look forward to challenging ourselves to run Half or Full Marathons and take part in the Gabba Stomp which means conquering 5,000 stairs.
The positive is that although we aren’t training together at the moment, we are still motivating each other to keep training on our own. We have also started a 30 day yoga challenge and text each other when we have completed the practise for the day.
There is always a positive side
Okay, so my traditions for this year have had to be modified or put on hold. First world problems in the scheme of things. I have not been affected as much as others during the pandemic and have food, a comfortable home and no financial problems. Whilst traditions are important to me, I also realise from writing this post that there is always a positive to be found.