We have passed the halfway mark for 2023 and up until July, life was going pretty smoothly. I felt I was using my WOTY ‘TIME’ wisely, ticking off boxes for travel with a cruise to PNG and a European holiday planned for November. Life was good and then July started and life changed.
July was spent mostly recuperating and for those of you dear readers who know me, I’m much happier when I combine my time being active and busy as well as having time for more leisurely pursuits such as reading. Alas, What’s been on my calendar? Not much ….and plenty of cancellations.
I had no inclination to write a WBOYC? post but then I started thinking that it could be a way to provide encouragement to others who are going through tough times too.
What’s Been On My Calendar in July?
- Two trips to the ED with chest pains – thankfully no heart attack.
- A virus accompanied by a hacking cough which saw me resigned to bed for a couple of weeks
- A CT Angiogram and Carotid Doppler Ultrasound – I’m awaiting results
- The surgical removal of a Lipoma located under my arm which I’ve had for many years but had grown to about 7cm in diameter. Although quite common, it needed to be removed before the possibility of it turning into something nasty like cancer
- Accompanying my husband to his specialist appointments
It’s easy to feel ‘down’ and fall into the ‘I can’t be bothered’ mindset
When we are going through a rough patch it is easy to get caught up in worry, anxiety and the feeling that you have lost control.
I’m guilty of being a worrier and try hard to focus on what I can control and what is out of my control. Worry can rob us of joy and living our life because we waste time and energy on something which we may or may not be able to control.
How we respond to situations is in our control.
I found this post on Joel Therien’s FB page and it was a great reminder for me and I shared it on my social media and in my Facebook Group. Having had a rough month or so health wise it is easy to feel down in the dumps and concern as I await some test results. Deep down I’m sure I am fine, however, the niggling voice in my head can go into overdrive.
After reading this I’m focusing on what I can control – resting, taking care of my body, finding the little things to be grateful for each day as well as taking time out.
Are you concerned or anxious about something that may or may not happen? How are you managing your thoughts?
When you are going through a tough time, it can be so easy to fall into the ‘I can’t be bothered’ mindset. Life is tough and you are struggling to just get through the day, let alone trying to keep a positive mindset. For me, being ill and resting is foreign to my lifestyle and I really miss moving my body.
Illness means you have to take it easy and in some cases stay in bed. There are plenty of hours to think and it can be easy to focus on what isn’t going well, and you start to focus on your vulnerability and mortality.
During July, I had to cancel
- all exercise including taking Group Fitness sessions and running. The doctor has ordered no strenuous exercise until I visit him in early August.
- the surgical removal of the lump under my arm made it difficult to raise my arm, shower and wash my hair.
- spending time with my grandsons during the school holidays. This was disappointing as we had several things planned.
- my podcast interviews have had to be cancelled or postponed
- blogging – this requires the right mindset and it’s been a struggle.
How to maintain a positive outlook when times are tough
- Allow yourself dwell with your thoughts even if they are negative. You need to acknowledge how you feel and accept those feelings before you can move on.
- Acknowledge progress each day no matter how small
- Indulge yourself and don’t feel guilty about not doing all the things you feel you should be doing. I enjoyed reading and discovered some 5 star books during my recuperation which I will share in next month’s What’s On Your Bookshelf?
- Be kind to yourself and remind yourself that this time will pass
- Reflect on the good things – once I could wash my hair I immediately felt better. A small thing but it meant I was getting better.
- Catch up on your favorite television series or movies
- Use the time to plan and dream so you have something to look forward to.
- No matter how fit and healthy you are, genetics can still play a role. Knowing your family medical history will help you to have the screenings and tests to catch things early.
- We are human and it is okay to feel sorry for yourself as long as you don’t wallow for too long.
- Sometimes, you need to be kind to yourself but equally you need to give yourself a push .
- Patience is a virtue and must be practiced
- The importance moving your body plays in maintaining a positive mindset. Not moving regularly can and does affect your mental health.
- Acceptance and letting go are vital before you can move forward. Accepting that I couldn’t exercise and needing to let go of the guilt of not working out or feeling like i was letting everyone down was important before I could move forward and feel better mentally.
- There is always someone who is worse off than you and facing hardships much harder than you.
- How we respond to situations is in our control whilst letting go of what isn’t in our control.
Exercise your Happiness Muscle
This timing of this podcast episode couldn’t have been better for me. When life gets tough it is easy to feel sorry for yourself and forget to enjoy life and find joy and happiness in each day. Exercise Your Happiness Muscle I hope you listen or watch the video and feel better and a little happier afterwards.
Each month I share an Action for Happiness themed calendar and the one for July is one I will be using for August.
The prompts for July are all about finding ways to Bounce Back – whether that is from an illness or you’ve been overwhelmed by a problem or you just have the Winter blues.
We can be so hard on ourselves or not give ourselves to time and space to recover physically, mentally or to enable us to work through problems that might be nagging away at us.
Hopefully this calendar will start you on the track to bouncing back. For me it will be about being kind to myself, giving my body time to recover fully but also starting to be more active each day as I grow stronger.
Well, that’s what’s been on my calendar and I Iook forward hearing what you’ve been up to. I’m sharing my co-hosts’ links as well so remember to pop over and visit to see how their month progressed.
Enjoy your month!
What’s Been On Your Calendar? #WBOYC
What: 2023 Monthly Wrap-Up Link Party.
When: Last Thursday PM (Northern Hemisphere)/ Last Friday AM (Southern Hemisphere). The link will be open for 7 days
Why: A space to share highlights from your past month.
Where: Link Party, Blog, Blog Comments, Instagram or other social media.
Who: This linkup is open to everyone.
How: You can share in the comments, with a blog post, or on other social media of your choice. Include the hashtag so that we can find you and include your link in our posts.
The next #WBOYC will be Thursday August 24th /Friday August 25th. I’m looking forward to seeing and reading What’s Been on your Calendar? during the month.