Over 50s Lifestyle Vlogcast

Fifty First Dates After 50

November 11, 2021

Dating after 50 can be a daunting prospect. My next guest in conversation is Carolyn Lee Arnold, author and social science researcher. Carolyn drew upon her 30 years as a social science researcher and 10 years as a relationship workshop assistant to create the dating project in “Fifty First Dates after Fifty.”

After Carolyn Lee Arnold, a free-spirited, 50-something longing for a life partner, breaks up with her non-committal Buddhist boyfriend (and holds a “letting go” ceremony to seal the deal), she challenges herself to go on 50 first dates during her search for a monogamous life partner. Set in the Bay Area world of personal growth workshops and spiritual ceremonies, this revealing memoir traces the adventurous path of Arnold’s universal quest for love. The goal of 50 dates with 50 different partners pulls her forward through the highs and lows of dating — magical and ecstatic, pining and painful — while her heart soars, falls, and keeps on going. Buoyed by her dating project, she avoids settling for the wrong guy and ultimately discovers the type of man she wants.

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Meet Carolyn Lee Arnold

Carolyn Lee Arnold

A native Californian from Los Angeles with a New England education, Arnold found her true home in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she prepared for dating and life by attending spiritual ceremonies, working in free clinics, leading women’s backpacking trips, hiking the local green hills, identifying as a lesbian-feminist in the 1970s and ’80s, and earning graduate degrees in women’s studies, statistics and educational research. “Fifty First Dates after Fifty” is her first book, and excerpts have been published in Persimmon Tree, Outside In Literary & Travel Magazine, and the Human Awareness Institute’s Enlighten Journal. An excerpt from her second memoir, about her lesbian-feminist years, has been published in Noyo River Review. Still a feminist, she lives in the Bay Area with her partner — one of her 50 dates.

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You can purchase ‘Fifty First Dates After 50’ HERE

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  • Reply Donna Connolly November 11, 2021 at 08:58

    This is a super interesting, very well presented topic. Thank you Sue and Carolyn for sharing this.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric November 13, 2021 at 09:34

      It was an interesting conversation, wasn’t it Donna? Different to what I had expected.

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