A to Z Challenge 2016

‘F’ is for Friendship – How Our Friendships Affect Our Health

April 7, 2016
'F' is for Friendship



Friendship is an important part of life.  Our friends are there to support us, love us and have fun with us.  I personally believe that it is the QUALITY of our FRIENDSHIPS rather than the QUANTITY that is important.  When we are young we feel we need to be surrounded by many friends, we are judged by the number of friends we have on Facebook or what our social plans are for the weekend.

As we mature, we realise that from this larger group of friends only a small number will become lifelong friends.  Our lives take different paths and we grow and change.

Did you realise that our Friendships can have a long term affect on our Health?  And it isn’t always good.

I recently read an article http://www.thelittlemommy.com/self-improvement/types-of-friends-why-you-need-them-all/ which talked about the different kinds of friends we can have in our circle.

It started me thinking that sometimes our friendships are NOT SO GOOD FOR US and can be TOXIC.

You know the friend who is controlling or pushes their opinions too strongly or the ‘fairweather’ friend who suddenly goes MIA when you need them the most OR the friend that is constantly trying to pull you down.

Toxic friendships can sometimes be difficult to leave but like all bad relationships there comes a time when you have to stand up and make decisions that are RIGHT FOR YOU! 


Being surrounded by people who are negative or critical of you will affect your mindset.  You lose self-confidence and you don’t feel good about yourself.  You need to surround yourself with people who love and support you for WHO YOU ARE and are a positive influence in your life.

Okay enough of the negatives about friendship. Friendship can be a wonderful, positive relationship which adds to the richness of our lives.  Our friends can provide a circle of love and support, fun and laughter.  These kinds of friendships are important for our health and well-being.

They say ‘you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends’ – so make the right choice for you.  Unlike family, friends don’t have to be in your life they CHOOSE to be.

What type of friend are you?


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  • Reply Mary April 7, 2016 at 12:22

    I try to be an encouraging friend who is there when someone needs a kind word. Thanks for reminding us about the importance of friends.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 7, 2016 at 15:38

      Oh you sound lovely Mary and just the right type of friend everyone needs. Have a beautiful day and thank you for stopping by to comment.

  • Reply Vamshi April 7, 2016 at 13:26

    your post about friends helping us be healthy or otherwise is an echo of what I wrote today. Thank you for sharing.


    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 7, 2016 at 15:39

      Oh I will have to check your post our Vamshi – perhaps great minds think alike! Thanks for stopping by to comment and have a great day!

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill April 7, 2016 at 14:28

    we’re on the same page today as far as “F” goes Sue – I’m doing friendliness and I totally agree with you about toxic friendships and also how wonderful those lifelong friendships are x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 7, 2016 at 15:40

      I’m heading over now Leanne. It isn’t surprising we are on the same page – I’m sure we were sisters in another life! Have a great day! I’m enjoying these daily communications 🙂

  • Reply Deepti Agrawal April 7, 2016 at 16:03

    friends that too good friends are our LifeLine.. though
    toxic friendship.. truly needs to be dropped as early as possible..


    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 7, 2016 at 21:32

      So true Deepti!

  • Reply Jeffrey Scott April 8, 2016 at 07:42

    I like to think I am a loyal and dedicated friend. I’m the kind who is wiling to give you the shirt off my own back if needed. So many good points. When I was married, my wife was very negative. I know it affected me and it was during this time I gained all my weight.
    But having the right friends does help. At first I assumed you were going to say the right friends motivate you because they work out at the gym too or eat the right kinds of food. But you said something I never thought about before. Just having good friends who are positive and encouraging in general, are great friends because it puts us in a positive mindset. That’s a very good point.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 8, 2016 at 13:22

      Some people can pull us down that is for sure Jeffrey. You sound like you have turned it around in a positive way. I’m so pleased you enjoyed the post and was able to find something to take away.

  • Reply Susie April 9, 2016 at 07:17

    So true. All of it. Friends are important and sometimes to continue to be a good friend to ourselves, we have to leave a friendship. Keep up the helpful thoughts.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 9, 2016 at 08:32

      Exactly Susie. I like the way you wrote ‘to be a good friend to ourselves, we have to leave a friendship’ – this is so true. Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend!

  • Reply Wendy April 10, 2016 at 00:29

    I could not agree with you more, Sue. And I think it is important that you discussed the importance of the effect the “types” of friends we have has on us. (Wow, that was a convoluted sentence, haha!) We encourage our children to be careful of the friends they choose because we understand how much influence they can have, and yet as adults we aren’t so careful about the friends we choose for ourselves sometimes. Perhaps we think we have grown in maturity enough that we are no longer susceptible? There may be some truth in that, but not completely. I know I have had to establish boundaries in certain relationships because the constant negativity has such an effect on my own mental state.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 10, 2016 at 14:37

      Good point re encouraging our children about who they choose for friends but not being careful enough ourselves. I don’t have many friends but the ones I do have I know I can count on. I’ve met some lovely blogging friends, you included, who have been so supportive and whom I love connecting with. 🙂

  • Reply Lisa April 11, 2016 at 05:53

    My family is completely negative and unhelpful, so I really regard my friends as my ‘chosen family.’ This was a fabulous post that reminds us how lucky we are to have deep and lasting friendships.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 11, 2016 at 12:11

      Hi Lisa, yes unfortunately we can select our friends but not our family. It is wonderful that you have your ‘chosen family’ I’m like you as I don’t really keep in touch with my siblings. Our ‘chosen family’ are all we need. Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely day.

  • Reply The Savvy Age April 13, 2016 at 02:33

    pinned! A good reminder it is quality not quantity! I spring cleaned awhile back, it was tough to do, but necessary. Enjoying overthemoon, love your blog title!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 13, 2016 at 12:37

      Hi there! Thanks so much for stopping by to comment and also for pinning my post. I’m pleased you are enjoying Over the Moon. My blog title is a bit of fun as I work through midlife to the big 6-0. I hope you visit again.

  • Reply Arlee Bird April 29, 2016 at 03:27

    Talking with a friend is usually an uplifting experience for me. When I catch up with a friend I haven’t seen or talked to in ages it’s almost like we hadn’t even been apart–the relationship and conversation just falls naturally into place.

    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 29, 2016 at 08:39

      That is the description of true friendship Arlee. Being able to pick up from where we left off even if it is a long time. Thanks for stopping by to comment. Have a lovely day!

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