Over 50s Lifestyle Vlogcast

Exercise Your Happiness Muscle

July 24, 2023

Why is it that some people seem happier than others? Are they born happy, or have they made a practice of it? Evidence from the emerging science of happiness tells us that although genetics account for 50% of our happiness quotient, 40% comes as a result of our personal choices (with life circumstances accounting for the other 10%.). 

The best choices can be difficult to make, though, when we are barraged by all the stressors in our day to day lives- stressors that can make it all too easy for our mind to start distorting our reality if we don’t take command of our thoughts.

How to take command of troubling thoughts? Exercise your happiness muscle in the Gymnasium of the Mind.

In this episode of the Women Living well After 50 Podcast, my guest is Dr Dravon James Founder and Director of Everyday Peace. and author of Freedom is Your Birthright. We are discussing how to exercise a different type of muscle – Your Happiness Muscle.

During the interview we discussed:

  • Happiness is an inside job, and sustainable correction happens through love.
  • Committing to an intentional, daily exercise routine will allow you to navigate back to center, to your place of peace, every day- no matter what happens.
  • How to Flex your Happiness Muscle:
    • Stay in the present moment.
    • Feed your mind purposefully: mind the company you keep, the books you read, the movies you watch, and the social media you scroll.
    • There is always something to be grateful for. Look for it.
      • Take 5 minutes each morning to write a gratitude card- list 3 things from the day before that you are grateful for and 3 things you will be intentional about today. Keep the card in your purse or pocket and refer to it during the day.
      • Keep a smile journal: The universe is always conspiring for us to be happy, but we tend to miss the signs. Invite it down by writing it down. Record all the times you catch yourself smiling in a day. You’ll be surprised at how often you do.
    • Shine the light of awareness on any negative thoughts that sneak in. Refuse to let your troubling thoughts hide in the crevices of your mind before they settle subtly in your psyche and your body. Draw them out by speaking them out loud (in the privacy of your car or wherever you are comfortable). Look at them, evaluate them, but don’t condemn yourself.
    • Energies rest in our bodies. Move your body every day to release the negative and celebrate the positive.

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Meet Dravon James

Transformation specialist . Dr Dravon James is the Founder and Director of Everyday Peace. She is the author of Freedom is Your Birthright, host of Dr. Dravon James Everyday Peace on MindBodySpirit.fm, coach on the SiriusXM Road Dog Trucking Show, and an actress whose career credits include a recurring role on HBO’s acclaimed The Wire

A leader in the healthcare industry for more than three decades, she is the recipient of the Secretary McDonough Coin of Recognition for her leadership efforts to combat the COVID pandemic. As the founder of the Next Step Leadership Academy, Dr. Dravon uses this training and experience to lead women to their next level of greatness in life and business using the power of Everyday Peace.

Dr Dravon’s journey began in poverty on the South Side of Chicago. Though she had always dreamt of a career on the stage, Dravon went on to earn a doctorate in pharmacy from Creighton University and has worked as a pharmacist all her adult life.

Along with her medical career and theatrical aspirations, Dr. Dravon has also always had a keen interest in personal development. After reading Norman Vincent Peale’s The Power of Positive Thinking in college, she went on to make a lifelong study of the power we all have to create the life we want.


Sample media: WFLA-TV Tampa  | The Daily Flash

Sue Loncaric

Women Living Well After 50

Living Life Your Way


  • Reply Toni Pike July 24, 2023 at 20:18

    So nice to meet Dravon – great tips for increasing happiness

  • Reply Bernadette July 25, 2023 at 20:15

    Great topic. I truly believe that happiness is a choice and a choice that needs to be made everyday. Guess what? I made the quarter-finals. If you find the time, could you vote for me once a day until next Friday? Here is the link – https://favchef.com/2023/bernadette-laganella. Thanks for your support❤️

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 28, 2023 at 09:23

      I agree Bernadette, it really is a question of choice and how we react to situations in life. Congratulations on making the quarter finals and I will definitely add my vote for you. xx

  • Reply Retirement Reflections July 26, 2023 at 13:53

    Thank you, Sue and Dravon – These are excellent tips and a great reminder that happiness is an inside job!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 28, 2023 at 09:25

      Thanks Donna I’ve needed Dravon’s advice over the last month, that’s for sure. x

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