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Embrace Failure Take a Chance on Life

May 20, 2016
Embrace Failure take a chance on life

Embrace Failure take a chance on life


It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default – J.K. Rowling

The word FAILURE seems such a harsh word to me.  It conjures up images of not being good enough and can have such a negative impact on our lives.

I like to view Failure differently and put try to use this as a positive, learning experience.

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As children, we are taught to try our best however sometimes that may not be good enough and the fear of failure can be entrenched in us and carried through life.  No one likes to fail, you feel dejected and disappointed and it is hard sometimes to accept ‘oh well I tried my best’ when you come last.

Failure is a part of life that we have to deal with.  I’ve noticed a trend where children all receive participation medals in sport or in other activities.  I know that they are designed to make children feel good, however, unfortunately, life is not like that in reality and there will always be people who are better than us in certain areas of our life.  What we should concentrate on is teaching our children and ourselves that we are all unique and special with our own special qualities.

However, we need to embrace failure and change our mindset to make it a learning experience and make changes.

Last year I wrote a post “Why Failing doesn’t make YOU a Failure”.  In it I discussed an experience I had in running a half marathon when I bombed out!  I had prepared but on the day something was not right and I crashed and burned.  I would usually have beaten myself up about this, but after the initial disappoint in myself I asked myself what I could learn from that experience.  My learning was that my body was sending me a message that I had been over training and it needed a rest.

Life doesn’t always go to plan so instead of feeling sorry for ourselves we need to pick ourselves up and move on.  No one died – that is the worst thing that can happen so get over it, accept and move forward.

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Fear of failure can inhibit us in so many ways and we miss opportunities in our lives because we are too scared of what other people think if we don’t succeed.  The most important thing is that we try!  Do you ever ask yourself – what if?  When you should probably be saying ‘I will give it a go’!

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Failure can be motivating. After the initial ‘downer’ you can use the experience to motivate you to work out ways to succeed.  Again, it is a learning experience which you can use to improve.

Another article I wrote,  Remove ‘But’ from your Vocabulary  discusses how we need to REPLACE ‘BUT’ with ‘HOW AND WHEN’.  We are in control of our lives and we are only held back by our fears.  Life is short, so we need to try to overcome our fear and live life to the full.

There is nothing more exhilarating than overcoming your fear and rising to the challenge.  Your self-confidence soars and you feel you can take on the world!  If you don’t quite make it, at least you tried and took a chance on living.

Don’t worry about failing, be more concerned that you didn’t try!

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  • Reply Leanne May 20, 2016 at 13:22

    This has been a huge problem for me Sue – I hate even the idea of failing at something. It’s a mindset that holds me back from trying new things and one I have been industriously working on over the last year or so. I still hate the thought of failure, but I’m more willing to give something a go now days and being less than perfect isn’t such a big deal any more 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 20, 2016 at 17:46

      I know Leanne we put such high expectations on ourselves and it is really only in the last six months that I’ve learned to accept that the world won’t end if I don’t achieve something. As long as we keep trying and I believe that we both have that nature then that is the main thing. 🙂

  • Reply Lata Sunil May 20, 2016 at 22:22

    Love your approach to failure. No one plans for failure, it happens. Better to dust off and start over.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:37

      Exactly Lata we can wallow in self pity or we can learn and move forward. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply Carol Cassara May 20, 2016 at 22:33

    I agree 100 percent about failure. Everything that happens is a lesson and we can either take the lesson or keep repeating it. Sometimes, I’ve repeated it, I have to admit!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:37

      Oh I’m sure we have all repeated failures Carol but again that is a learning process. We are human after all and sometimes it takes a little longer to get it right.

  • Reply Lee Gaitan May 21, 2016 at 00:14

    You are so right. Second, third and fourth chances are available to move us forward to our goals. The only way you “lose” is if you leave the game (or don’t ever start!).

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:38

      That is it Lee! We don’t only have one chance so the main thing is to keep trying and eventually we will achieve want we want. Have a great day and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply Regina L. L. Wells May 21, 2016 at 00:18

    What a positive and contemplative post, Sue. We are conditioned to compete with one another (and everything else, for that matter) and that failure is weak or bad. I love this post because it is so one point. One, failure is a learning experience and process, it does not have to be a permanent condition, and it can be transformative in developing our talents. Thank you so much for sharing this with #UpsyDaisyLinkup! It is truly uplifting!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:39

      I’m so pleased you enjoyed the post Regina and found it positive. That is my aim just writing from the heart with positivity and encouragement. Have a beautiful day!

  • Reply Bren Pace May 21, 2016 at 02:12

    Hi Sue,

    This is a great inspirational post. So many people are afraid of failure, but how do we know if we don’t try? Aren’t we cheating ourselves but not trying? I look at failure as a chance to retry. Keep trying until we get it right.


    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:41

      Thank you for your lovely words Bren! We are cheating ourselves if we don’t try because by not trying, failing and learning we won’t reach our full potential. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply Michelle May 21, 2016 at 02:23

    This post is so motivating! I try very hard to not look at failures as “failing.” Maybe it comes with age. Seeing it in a positive light as you state helps ease the disappointments or discouragement that often follows a failed attempt at something. I love your attitude behind everything you do Sue and it is contagious.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:43

      I think you are right Michelle in saying that we can look at failure differently as we mature. Thank you for your lovely words and your continual support of me. Have a great day!

  • Reply Jodie filogomo May 21, 2016 at 09:29

    I really think this is a great lesson learned, but I’m not sure I would have believed it as a younger person!
    I almost think you have to have more life experiences to realize that “failure” can be a good thing, and it isn’t the end of the world! (Because when you’re young—it does feel like the end of the world, don’t you think?)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:45

      I’m only just starting to have this view at 58, Jodie! I think when we are young we are still learning about life and our expectations are just so much higher. Life experience does teach us many things that is why midlife is such a great time to be living.

  • Reply Bellybytes May 21, 2016 at 10:48

    Strange , these are my thoughts precisely: Setting up for failure | Mumbai On A High

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:47

      That is great – we can’t both be wrong can we? LOL:) Thank you for stopping by to comment and have a great day!

  • Reply Pam May 22, 2016 at 06:16

    Hi Sue!
    Very good post. Failure can indeed by a crippler for so many reasons and seasons of our lives. Failure essentially comes because we risked trying and did not reach the mark set for us by us or others. The BIG thing is that we risked trying. You are exactly right. It took me too many seasons to see and realize that. Now as I have passed 70, I am far more willing to risk. Part of that comes from trusting the Lord a great deal more. Another part comes from experience with risking. Finally, it comes from being sure enough of who I am in Him that I do not measure myself by what I do, but rather who I am because Jesus says so! Happy to be your neighbor at Grammie Time.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 22, 2016 at 10:51

      How lovely to meet you Pam and I enjoyed reading your positive comments. I too am only realising now in my late 50s that failing doesn’t make me a failure. Life experience certainly teaches us so much that we wish we knew when we were younger. How inspiring that you are willing to take risks – what have we got to lose? Have a wonderful week and hope to hear from you again.

  • Reply Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life May 22, 2016 at 17:13

    I do worry about the current generation of kids because there are so many things done for them to not experience failure. Like for instance, I’ve heard of kids’ soccer where they won’t keep score so there are no winners or losers. But then what happens, is when there a possibility of not doing well at something {e.g. exams!} they practically freeze due to anxiety. Embracing failure is a must. That’s how we learn. That’s how we grow.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2016 at 09:32

      I know Sanch I heard that too about the soccer games and to me it is ridiculous. Like many things I think the pendulum has swung too far. We need to encourage our children but we also need to teach them that things won’t always go their way and they have to learn to accept that and move on.

  • Reply Terri Webster Schrandt May 23, 2016 at 02:12

    Perfectionism (attempts) prevents us from failing. So those that are (I’m one) and those that do (fail)…it hurts! But, the more we fail the better our characters are built 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 23, 2016 at 09:38

      I know I’m like you Terri trying to attempt perfectionism, however, now I am trying to look at life differently in all areas and realise that okay I failed this time but I’ll try something different the next time. Learning from our failures builds our characters for sure. Have a great week!

  • Reply Sandy Mangis May 25, 2016 at 09:16

    Trust yourself and give life a go…. best things i have read all day.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 27, 2016 at 08:34

      Great to hear Sandy! Have a fabulous week and thank you for stopping by to comment – I hope you visit again.

  • Reply Glenda Ferguson May 26, 2016 at 12:05

    I agree with other posts about learning this important fact as you get older and more experienced. I grew up with a critical single parent mother (so the main person in my life) and was always terrified of her disapproval if I ‘failed’ to achieve a ‘perfect’ result. As I’ve aged (almost 59 now), I’ve learned that you learn a lot more from your failures than you do from your successes. And the sense of achievement and growth in self confidence that comes from facing your fears and overcoming them is just amazing! Thanks for the positive post. 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 27, 2016 at 08:56

      I’m sorry to hear your story Glenda and I’m sure you aren’t alone. We all want to have our parent’s approval don’t we? It is wonderful that you, like myself and others have learned how to use failure as a positive rather than a negative in our lives. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post and hope you visit again.

  • Reply Annette May 26, 2016 at 16:33

    Hi Sue.
    Good subject and interesting blog post. When I was younger I feared failure much more than today. I think the feeling of “I will be rejected” was the main reason. However, we need focus on how we treat us self, as you write yourself. I am a person who always want to do the best I can. I think it would be good for me to make mistakes and then be able to accept that mistakes and failures are part of life.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 27, 2016 at 09:04

      I like to do my best all of the time Annette (as you have probably guessed lol:) ). Sometimes though we just can’t make it and have to accept that we weren’t able to on that occasion. As long as we keep trying that is the main thing.

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  • Reply cheryl May 27, 2016 at 06:00

    One of my favorite quotes has always been- “failure brings you one step closer to success” don’t know who gets credit for it but they definitely knew their stuff:)))!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 27, 2016 at 09:07

      That is so true Cheryl, even though sometimes failure is a difficult pill to swallow. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply gigi May 28, 2016 at 07:00

    I needed this today! Thank you Sue!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric May 28, 2016 at 09:06

      Oh I hope you are okay Gigi and I’m glad my post helped. Take care xx

  • Reply Lisa Pomerantz June 14, 2016 at 10:50

    Hi SUe, Thanks for this great post. I know I had to re-examine what failure meant and how it related to me and what was happening/is happening in our lives. Failure sure breeds learning, motivation and a mondset shift! TY #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 15, 2016 at 12:00

      Hi Lisa! Yes I agree we need to have a different attitude to failure otherwise we will never put our learnings into practise and just feel sorry for ourselves. Thanks for stopping by and I’m so pleased you enjoyed the post.

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville June 16, 2016 at 13:16

    This is a lesson I learnt a couple of years ago. I had stopped taking risks in case I failed which made me realise I was in fact failing! I am trying to teach my children at the moment to stop being perfectionists especially the eldest, let them know it is OK to not be perfect! #mg

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