It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default – J.K. Rowling
The word FAILURE seems such a harsh word to me. It conjures up images of not being good enough and can have such a negative impact on our lives.
I like to view Failure differently and put try to use this as a positive, learning experience.Embrace Failure don't fear it! Take a chance on lifeClick To Tweet
As children, we are taught to try our best however sometimes that may not be good enough and the fear of failure can be entrenched in us and carried through life. No one likes to fail, you feel dejected and disappointed and it is hard sometimes to accept ‘oh well I tried my best’ when you come last.
Failure is a part of life that we have to deal with. I’ve noticed a trend where children all receive participation medals in sport or in other activities. I know that they are designed to make children feel good, however, unfortunately, life is not like that in reality and there will always be people who are better than us in certain areas of our life. What we should concentrate on is teaching our children and ourselves that we are all unique and special with our own special qualities.
However, we need to embrace failure and change our mindset to make it a learning experience and make changes.
Last year I wrote a post “Why Failing doesn’t make YOU a Failure”. In it I discussed an experience I had in running a half marathon when I bombed out! I had prepared but on the day something was not right and I crashed and burned. I would usually have beaten myself up about this, but after the initial disappoint in myself I asked myself what I could learn from that experience. My learning was that my body was sending me a message that I had been over training and it needed a rest.
Life doesn’t always go to plan so instead of feeling sorry for ourselves we need to pick ourselves up and move on. No one died – that is the worst thing that can happen so get over it, accept and move forward.
Fear of failure can inhibit us in so many ways and we miss opportunities in our lives because we are too scared of what other people think if we don’t succeed. The most important thing is that we try! Do you ever ask yourself – what if? When you should probably be saying ‘I will give it a go’!You won't know what you are missing unless you are brave enough to take life on!Click To Tweet
Failure can be motivating. After the initial ‘downer’ you can use the experience to motivate you to work out ways to succeed. Again, it is a learning experience which you can use to improve.
Another article I wrote, Remove ‘But’ from your Vocabulary discusses how we need to REPLACE ‘BUT’ with ‘HOW AND WHEN’. We are in control of our lives and we are only held back by our fears. Life is short, so we need to try to overcome our fear and live life to the full.
There is nothing more exhilarating than overcoming your fear and rising to the challenge. Your self-confidence soars and you feel you can take on the world! If you don’t quite make it, at least you tried and took a chance on living.
Don’t worry about failing, be more concerned that you didn’t try!You need to learn to trust in yourself, let go of the fear and give life a go!Click To Tweet
Let’s Keep Sizzling!