Need to make a decision?
Are you decisive or are you a procrastinator?
Life is full of decisions – did you know that many sources suggest that our brains make 35,000 decisions each day! My brain hurts just thinking about it. Some decisions are easy and others are hard. Some decisions are so difficult or important that we can tend to put off making a decision at all and that’s when procrastination sets in. We become overwhelmed so it’s easier to put it away and leave it for another day or hope that it goes away.
We usually procrastinate because we are afraid or we don’t believe in ourselves
I’m so guilty of that! I am someone who likes to get in and get the job done, tick it off the list and move on. However, sometimes I can procrastinate over the smallest things and it is usually because I don’t want to do something or I want to avoid confrontation. I will leave it until the eleventh hour and get myself stressed out and anxious which is certainly not being a woman living well, is it?
I waited two months before pressing the publish button on my Podcast and when I eventually did, I felt so excited and proud of myself. I was proud of myself for putting myself out there, following a dream and making it happen.
Was I nervous? – you bet I was! I don’t like hearing the sound of my voice so you can imagine how difficult starting a podcast is when it is all about the voice!
The flipside is that once you make the decision, whether it’s right or wrong, you do feel better because you’ve decided. You’ve stopped puttng it off. You feel like a weight has been lifted and sometimes you even think – ‘Why did I wait so long to decide?’.
Why Procrastination is a thief
- It robs us of our time because we keep putting something off rather than dealing with it in the moment and moving on to doing something we actually enjoy.
- It robs us of our mental peace of mind because we know we should decide but we let fear stop us.
- It robs us of opportunities – how often have you said ‘I wish I had done that’
- It robs us of our joy of living
- It robs us of living a healthy lifestyle – you know you need to get fitter, or have that medical check up or make changes to improve your mental health but you procrastinate and sometimes it can be too late.
But what if I’m a procrastinator?
A couple of years ago I discovered Mel Robbins and love her work and no nonsense approach to life’ ups and downs. I’ve recently completed an online course with her Simple Steps to an Incredible Year which I wrote about in my post Let’s Review and Reset in 2021
Mel has a way to overcome procrastination and make decisions with what she calls The 5 Second Rule
So what is the 5 second rule
So here’s the one-liner definition of the 5 Second Rule: If you have an impulse to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill the idea.Mel Robbins
This process is backed by science as Mel explains in this video.
The 5 second rule will not work though if you aren’t ready to make changes!
So back to my original question: Are you decisive or are you a procrastinator?