I nearly didn’t write my WOTY update for April and just managed to put it together at the eleventh hour. That is what happens when life is overwhelming – you can’t think straight, your mind is muddled and you just want to hide from the world. Isn’t it silly to feel pressured about writing a post, because what is the worst that could happen? I mean the world won’t end. However, commitment can sometimes feel like pressure can’t it? I committed in January to a WOTY and also introduced a WOTY link up co-hosted with my good blogging friends, Debbie, Jo and Donna. So I took a moment to actually think about my month and document my WOTY progress.
Do you ever feel like you are on a roller coaster ride and you just want to get off?
That has been my life during April and I suppose it is relevant to my WOTY – ‘BE’, because life isn’t always on the same plane. I’ve had ups, downs, happiness, joy, heartbreak, concern – the whole gambit of feelings during the month. It is what ‘be-ing’ is all about isn’t it? Experiencing a myriad of feelings and experiences – enjoying some and coping with others.
The month brought happiness as Mr M and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary plus three birthdays – my daughter, my grandson and my running Saturday Sister. I enjoyed one-on-one time with my daughter and a long overdue run and breakfast with my Saturday Sister on her birthday.
But it was my grandson who made my day. Each year I make a birthday cake for my grandsons. He asked me if I would have time to make a Picachu cake. When I told him to open the refrigerator and he saw the cake – the joyous response from him -‘Nan that is just what I wanted it looks great!’ certainly lifted my spirits.
The month also brought concern as Mr M had a couple of trips to hospital but HE IS FINE, thank goodness. It does make you stop and remind yourself that life is precious and we need to live each day. We are now definitely going to book our holiday for October.
We had a heartbreaking experience in the family which I’m not going to share but it certainly rocked our world. It was time for extra love and support for my family this month.
Generally, though I’ve proven to myself that I can live my WOTY ‘BE’-ing despite where I am on the roller coaster ride. I continue to BE Pro-Aging by promoting a healthy lifestyle – it is never too late to start. If you pop over to my Instagram account @womenlivingwellafter50 you can see how I’ve been doing this.
So when life is starting to feel like a roller coaster these are some strategies I use to get through the ride:
Don’t BE too proud to ask for help and support if you need it
Like everyone I have my ‘down’ days but now that I’m older I’m not embarrassed to reach out and talk about it with friends. If I felt I needed professional help I would accept that as well, but I wasn’t at that stage.
Sometimes you just needs a ‘cuppa’ and a ‘chat’ with a friend – or baking which is something my friend does when life isn’t great.
BE open to exploring your feelings – Don’t ignore your feelings or the issue
It is easy to focus on our feelings and experiences when they are joyful. However, we also need to experience the feelings when things aren’t going well, rather than pushing them down inside to fester and build even more anxiety. We need to work through the issue, the feelings and finally come to an acceptance. There is a difference though with giving in to the feelings and just giving up.
BE Active – Stay active
Throughout the month there were days I just didn’t feel like exercising. It would have been so easy to just retreat and I’m sure you can relate. Some days you just aren’t feeling it. However, I proved to myself time and again during the month that despite not really being in the mood at the start, by the end of my workout I felt great in mind and also mentally.
A friend shared that staying busy helps her.
I’ve maintained my workouts with my friends and back to running with my Saturday Sister plus Yoga on my own which has helped tremendously.
Going for a walk, dancing, yoga, housework – whatever activity it is will certainly help during times of stress.
BE-ing Grateful to Focus on the Moment
I started an Instragram challenge on April 1 to find something good to focus on the moment each day. This really helps when you are feeling stressed, anxious, or just feeling low. It gives you a positive focus, something to be grateful for or something that has brought joy or learning. I missed a couple of days but the exercise certainly helped me to cope with some of the more difficult times during the month.
Even when you don’t think there is any good, you will be surprised to find that there is – sometimes you just have to look harder.
BE-ing KIND to yourself
If the roller coaster is going too fast, I make sure I take some time out to be kind to myself. That means giving yourself permission to relax, take care of yourself and give your mind a rest. Too often we feel pressured to be ‘on’ all the time or there for everyone, when inside our mind (and usually our body) is telling us it needs a break. I find enjoyment getting lost in a book. I love my home and find it a very calming and relaxing environment. I had some fun trying out some new Australian makeup products which was gifted to me by Enhance Proage and take under 5 minutes to boost your mood. You can see my video and thoughts HERE
Find whatever works for you to give yourself the love support that you readily give to others.
How do you cope when you are on the roller coaster of life and you just want to get off? I’d love you to share your strategies with me.
Welcome to the 2022 WOTY Link Party
The 2022 WOTY Link Party is a way for us to stay accountable to our WOTY (or Goals or Intentions if you haven’t settled on a particular Word for the Year) and write about how we are tracking each month on the last Thursday PM (Northern Hemisphere)/ Last Friday AM (Southern Hemisphere). We would still encourage everyone to leave a comment or if you have written a post feel free to link up with us.
What: 2022 Word of the Year Link Party (#2022wotylinkpary).
When: Last Thursday PM (Northern Hemisphere)/ Last Friday AM (Southern Hemisphere). The link will be open for 3 days so you’ve got plenty of time to join.
Why: To encourage us all to keep the focus on our chosen WOTY (OR GOAL OR INTENTION)
Where: Link Party, Blog, Blog Comments, Instagram or other Social Media.
Who: This linkup is open to everyone.
How: You can share in the comments, with a blog post, or on other social media of your choice. Include the hashtag #2022wotylinkparty so that we can find you and include your link in our posts.
Be a proud contributor to #2022wotylinkparty
To show our appreciation to all participants, contributors are welcome to display this badge on their blog, website or social media.
Sharing their WOTY progress this month
Take a moment to link through to see what my co-hosts and others have written……
Now over to you – how are you living your WOTY, Goal or Intention?
Deb, Donna, Jo and I hope that you will join us each month and share what you’ve been doing to focus on your 2022 WOTY. If you have any questions just ask us. You can also link to any, or all of our posts, with a pingback, that way we get to see your posts quicker!